Concerning minimizing friendly fire, said guy-friend could have learnt that. What's done is done, though.Originally Posted by Coidzor
I tend to not focus too much on having a relationship, so I don't see myself setting any quotas. Still, should a situation arise where a relationship seems likely, I'll be sure to act quickly.
That's the kind of advice I should take. I agree with this, as someone who's tended to wait too long to decide on what the person's answer should be. Asking one out early enough can help to kill unrealistic expectations, make it easier to cut losses (take a no as a no) and avoid becoming obsessed with getting a 'yes'.Originally Posted by Oneris
My focus is on the italicized part.Originally Posted by Knaight
Look, I happen to agree with you, if you get rejected, it's best to cut your losses and move on. It's just that there are many people who don't know how to do that effectively. Usually, when one gets rejected, they'd feel it, no matter how small the 'I just got rejected' feeling is. What they do with that feeling is what separates A from B, so to speak. While some people would take it as it is and eliminate that person from list of potential dates (without killing the friendship), some others would hold on to that feeling, make it bigger than it really is, and so on and so forth.
Like Oneris said, what differentiates A from B is how long one waits to ask someone out when romantic feelings for that someone are discovered. The longer you wait, the more the feelings tend to grow, and the higher the probability you'd get really hurt when rejected (except you lose interest as time passes).