Quote Originally Posted by Amphetryon View Post
"As great detail as possible just how spectacularly my party's ill-conceived plans fail" is a direct quote of the approach he uses. My position was, and continues to be, that a DM who goes into that level of detail to make the failure of a plan 'spectacular' will make some Players feel taunted and insulted, regardless of whether that's the DM's intent or not. This position is consistent with my experiences on both sides of the DM's screen. I fully recognize, and have now acknowledged repeatedly, that others may have different experiences.
Yeah the way he described it initially sounded wrong, but then he added: "That means going out of my way to avoid making them unhappy about it."

What I understood from this is that he just wanted them to have fun in defeat. And that is entirely possible without hurting the player's feelings.