SpoilerAnd if I know that someone is not a he or a she, I always go to they. Not because I don't know, but because I do.
I mean, I have my personal policy that as long as it's said with love, anyone can call me anything. And I prefer the term queer for myself, and will defend that that is an appropriate word to use. But if someone is super uncomfortable with "queer" as an umbrella term, I won't insist on it.