Quote Originally Posted by WarKitty View Post
The point about therapy though is that I felt that the assumption in therapy was that I was making an emotional calculation where I didn't think I deserved boundaries or something. Whereas I was making very pragmatic calculations about the consequences I might suffer for enforcing the boundaries, and coming to the conclusion that the consequences for enforcing boundaries at a given time might be worse than the consequences of not enforcing them.
And did you explain all this to the therapists? I mean as people said, they can't solve non-mental health issues. If they tell you to set boundaries I presume your response would either be "I've tried and it doesn't work" or "I don't want to try because the risk is too great". At which point I'm not sure what they can tell you besides "Get out of the situation", if it's the situation that is causing the mental health problems to begin with.