How should a dwarf react to being offered a pair of women's shoes?

[Knaight]

In the scenario as stated, announcing that you are being transphobic and leaving the group is a silly and overly dramatic reaction. That said, it sounds like you were being annoying, maybe this is just the final straw for this player. Few players walk just because they didn't like an NPC. Also, I don't know her side of it.

There's also the small matter of how words and actions are interpreted in the context of previous words and actions - in this case, if you've been a douche then things that may or may not be a douche move are more likely to be interpreted as one. This is particularly true in the context of presenting fiction, where the same source material can come across as either a utopian fantasy or a cautionary tale depending on who made it and what else they've said/written. It's also really easy to make reasonable objections look unreasonable by removing context, or to make the absence of unreasonable objections look itself unreasonable with the same technique.

Cliffs: She's a snowflake or you're a douche? Not enough information.

Given the choice of usernames I'm willing to make a guess on this one.