Originally Posted by
WarKitty
Categorically not an option. Keep in mind that the "once a week" is only the "It's a screaming emergency that has to be dealt with RIGHT NOW" messages. Every time I give in and take one of those calls, I end up not being able to sleep because of the stress of dealing with everything. If it wasn't my father she was accusing, maybe I could handle it. But it's inevitably a session of how horribly abusive my father is and how she's so afraid of having to go live in a shelter and how she really should just call the police and can you believe he actually threatened her?
Plus the part where she's clearly not going to accept just having me listen; I have to say just the right things to prove I'm on her side. And then past that it's a constant dodge because she's texting me regularly just to see what I'm up to, and if I answer those texts I'm free to talk, oh and she's trying to figure out when I'm free to have breakfast with her. It's a whole dance of walking on eggshells, and I don't have the energy to deal with it. That dealing with it once a week is going to be once a week where I don't sleep at night from the stress.