Party Foul

[Jay R]

You're asking the wrong question.

Not "Is it a party foul?" That's a question about morality, which we aren't even aloud to discuss on this forum.

But the straightforward, practical question is this: "Will these players ever play with you again?" If I were a player, the answer would be "No".

Not because it's a "party foul".
Not because you betrayed the party.
Not because I expect loyalty from a paladin on my team.
Not because you objected to a guy in the first scenario abandoning a party for himself, and then did the exact same thing in the other scenario.

But because it wouldn't be fun. I like paying a team of people who support each other in threatening situations.

The Avengers argue all the time -- but defend each other in battle.
Harry, Ron, and Hermione squabble incessantly -- and fight together.
Boromir tried to betray Frodo when alone -- and then gave his life for Merry and Pippin when the enemy attacked.

I strongly recommend that you play the hero. It's more fun.