Quote Originally Posted by Eldonauran View Post
Technically, you didn't break your oath there. You were neither conscious nor in control of your body at that point. Its fine to roleplay the guilt and loss such actions caused, but your character is as much a victim of the event as Alfira is.
Agreed (except maybe for the last bit, no point in quantifying the victimhood between the two.)

Quote Originally Posted by Cikomyr2 View Post
I personally dislike the difficulty it is to break an oath, especially with the ease it is to restore it.

And especially as you cant respec as an Oathbreaker.
If you don't want to follow a guide to break your oath, the OIO mod will tell you exactly which conversation options will break each oath, as well as noting which ones will break any oath.

While I dislike Oathbreaker in tabletop 5e, they did a really good job of implementing in in BG3 by creating the Oathbreaker character, and in particular giving... it?... unique dialogue with Dark Urge. It was a pretty brilliant choice on Larian's part and makes me want to actually do an Oathbreaker Durge run.