Sometimes, Serp, you need to put your own mental wellbeing before someone elses. I know I wouldn't be able to handle my ex coming to me for help without slipping back into the highly unhealthy pattern we had while dating. It's the only thing standing between me and wanting to foster a friendship, actually. Sometimes...you just need people out of your life. I support the suggestion to give her numbers of people to call, probably through email, but he has no obligation to help her.