Yeah... first off, magic mased on hurting yourself is a REALLY BAD IDEA. Wizards are ALREADY known for being squishy on the HPs.
For your first Bullet: Psion (Nomad)
Second Bullet: Psion (shaper)
Third Bullet: Psiwar
Any of the above concepts can be adapted to hurt you by taking Overchannel. Raise your power by hurting yourself.
And even if you don't like that, you could even go incarnum and check out their stuff. Most of it's based around 'imagining' magic items for their use.