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2009-04-02, 01:17 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice, The Seventh Saga
My standby for first dates is ice skating. Never had a date go ice skating, but it would be great fun, even (especially) if you both suck at it.
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2009-04-02, 01:25 AM (ISO 8601)
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2009-04-02, 01:37 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice, The Seventh Saga
It's not the way I function either, Joe, but I think some girls - and guys too - get frightened off when you say "love". It probably just seems like too much of a commitment for them, whether they actually have feelings for the person in question or not. It'd be sort of like applying for the CEO job of a multinational corporation just after leaving school; you just have to do a bit of work between now and then.
So, yeah. Not the way I feel about the subject but some people react differently.Live, Laugh, Learn, Love,
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2009-04-02, 01:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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2009-04-02, 02:14 AM (ISO 8601)
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Well, fellow Playgrounders, I'm afraid my sucky memory has only made things worse.
The way my memory works is fairly odd; I'll randomly remember the most obscure things at the weirdest times, but when it comes time to recall something important, it feels as though the information I'm looking for has slipped away like sand through my clenched fists. Tonight I forgot about one of her pet peeves, and she found out about it only minutes after, and now I'm really suffering for it.
Things are tenuous at best for poor Alucard; he dances on a razor's edge, and he fears that he might lose her forever if things go too far one way or the other.It is inevitable, of course, that persons of epicurean refinement will in the course of eternity engage in dealings with those of... unsavory character. Record well any transactions made, and repay all favors promptly.. (Thanks to Gnomish Wanderer for the Toreador avatar! )
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2009-04-02, 02:47 AM (ISO 8601)
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It's scary as hell if 1. you don't feel anything like the same way, 2. all the stuff I listed above, and 3. If you don't feel ready or worthy for/of such strong emotions.
Spoken by one who was pretty much scared out of a relationship by expressions of love
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2009-04-02, 02:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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Talking about (something specific that I'll not make the same mistake again by speaking of) behind her back.
It is inevitable, of course, that persons of epicurean refinement will in the course of eternity engage in dealings with those of... unsavory character. Record well any transactions made, and repay all favors promptly.. (Thanks to Gnomish Wanderer for the Toreador avatar! )
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2009-04-02, 03:23 AM (ISO 8601)
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All that stuff you listed above doesn't seem very much like love to me (if you were referring to the implication of one person owing the other or needing to do something or what have you). I'm not sure why it would matter that you don't feel the same way either. As for the third, not feeling worthy is a personal issue, though I'd ask if you really think the person who loves you is stupid enough to fall for someone unworthy of it.
The "you" in each case being nonspecific.
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2009-04-02, 03:29 AM (ISO 8601)
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Well, the aforementioned stuff wasn't meant to be "love", but an example of the sorts of things that go through someone's head when someone else confesses such feelings, this idea that it means you somehow owe them, that it means they expect things from you. I never said it was true, just that that's the sort of pressure it puts on you. As for the other two, I don't think they would apply so much now - it happened in high school - but, well, you said that you didn't understand, and they're reasons why I was scared of it at the time.
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2009-04-02, 03:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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2009-04-02, 04:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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That's fair enough.
Alright then...
"I'm not sure why it would matter that you don't feel the same way either.": Did I lead them on? Did I make them think that I feel some way that I don't? I should feel the same way about them. Why don't I? Is there something wrong with me, or them? Would it hurt them more if I own up to my lack of feelings now, or to keep on the same way and hope my feelings develop? Should I end it now, in case I just lead them on, or continue on the way we have been? etc, etc, so on and so forth...
"I'd ask if you really think the person who loves you is stupid enough to fall for someone unworthy of it.": Is it just their own low self-esteem talking? Do they have me up on a pedestal? Have I deceived them? Have I made them see things that aren't there? Have I exaggerated my virtues and hidden my faults? How can they love me when they don't even really know me? What do they see that I don't? Do they really see it, or do they just think they do? How can they know what love is, anyway? etc, etc, so on and so forth.Last edited by Serpentine; 2009-04-02 at 04:21 AM.
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2009-04-02, 04:25 AM (ISO 8601)
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You mean those guys, like, us? Who plan to break in on weddngs shouting "I OBJECT!"?
On the whole love-scariness thing, it's important to remember that some people say they're in love and mean different things to what someone else saying they were in love would mean h'yeah, this is why we've had seven threads. Its nice to have some general discussion thoughLast edited by Felixaar; 2009-04-02 at 04:29 AM.
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2009-04-02, 04:31 AM (ISO 8601)
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All of those sound pretty normal at a given stage in life. I'd say that through the course of a couple of years people gain some familiarity with how falling in love works, how things aren't necessarily symmetric, and how to deal with the impression your actions make. As long as everybody is new to the feeling (you said it was a highschool crush) it's normal for confessions to be a little scary.
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2009-04-02, 05:40 AM (ISO 8601)
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Let's not forget the frisson of ". . .did you not notice the significant other I'm pretty sure I mentioned already, several times?" It doesn't always apply, but I am getting some inexplicable vibes to that effect from TheCountAlucard's story. (For the people in the audience who like to call up someone else of Significant Other's type and complain when SO has irritated you--remember to tell them some favorable stuff about SO also, or don't be surprised when your sympathetic ear says, "But everything you've said screams that you're going to get rid of that loser!")
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2009-04-02, 10:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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I can get where serp is coming from - when someone you consider a friend tells you they love you, not in the friendly way, but the romantic way, then obviously they want you to feel the same way too. Turning someone down that you care about is never fun. If you've already made it clear that you wern't interested (some people stand out like a floodlight when they like you - not good at hiding it) then it can be very irritating that they've put you in that situation.
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im guessing from the tone of your message you revealed some sort of specific personal information about her 'behind her back' that she likes kept private? If you're gunna talk to someone about her, make sure the person/people you speak to about it really can keep their mouths shut.
Everyone needs someone for advice/to vent - just make sure its not someone with a blabbermouth
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2009-04-02, 12:08 PM (ISO 8601)
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2009-04-02, 12:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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In other words, be 100% certain that they are more dependable than yourself. They have to be more trustworthy than yourself, because you expect them to keep a secret, while you, by telling them, are just in the process of proving that you can't keep it to yourself.
This is not going to help Alucard a lot, but I understand perfectly well why someone would be offended by that. The problem is easy: trust isn't transferable. If anybody only tells people they trust as much as themselves, the secret will be spread around in no time, because everybody will have someone to spread it to. That's why telling third parties something about someone else behind their backs isn't a nice thing to do.
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2009-04-02, 04:40 PM (ISO 8601)
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"'Intelligence' is really prolific in the world. So is stupidity. So often they occur in the same people." - Phaedra
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2009-04-02, 06:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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Technically, so was mine.
It was also a double date, and closer to a 1 year anniversary than a first date. Still, my first date ever. Or since.
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2009-04-02, 07:30 PM (ISO 8601)
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2009-04-02, 09:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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...how are you still alive? take that, theory of Natural Selection
Ohhh, but not all of us romantics are like that. And besides... it's really all semantics, isn't it? Ultimately I think romance is about passion, but love is something quite different. But, you know, series of letters forms a word and we all attatch our own meanings to it it's the feelings that count and they can't really be accurately described.
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2009-04-02, 09:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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2009-04-02, 09:54 PM (ISO 8601)
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This man needs more Heroes and Firefly. Stat.
At any rate; I agree oh, the ways of the world. We do our best.Live, Laugh, Learn, Love,
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2009-04-02, 10:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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2009-04-02, 10:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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In a word? Twilight.
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2009-04-02, 10:54 PM (ISO 8601)
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dear god im not going near that cess pile with a barge poll... The same group of people who rant and rave about twilight seem to be the same type who ranted about harry potter
i refuse to date any of them
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2009-04-02, 11:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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Ha ha, I kid, I kid - I don't rant about Twilight (or HP for that matter). I think it's more the fact that the Twilight books mistake infatuation with love, which is probably one of the major causes right now. There's also the fact that many people in todays societ feel a desperate need to be loved, and then when they meet someone who will "love" them, they assume that they must be in love with them.
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2009-04-02, 11:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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2009-04-02, 11:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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The most famous example would probably be Romeo and Juliet. It's debatable whether it was actually meant to be presented as love, yes, but most people think it is, which is the important bit.
On Twilight: I am hardly familiar with it, and I don't rant about it, as a rule, nor do I feel the urge to. However, it does need to be said that my younger sister had me watch the movie over spring break, and the fact that their relationship was portrayed as a positive thing kind of made me sick to my stomach, quite literally.
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2009-04-02, 11:59 PM (ISO 8601)
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