LGBTitp - Part Six

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[Eloi]

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[Serpentine]

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(sharing some colour does not a similarity make )

[cycoris]

Hmm. What sort of pink? And did you go for a mahogany or more of a burnt italian city sort of brown?

Correct me if I'm wrong here, but knowing Jackie it'll be a very pale pink with dark-ish brown. Or maybe I'm just being presemptuous and whatnot.

ION: Is there any good way to tell your shrink that your bi? I know something related will come up eventually, but I just won't be able to make myself open my mouth. And is it really the sort of thing she needs to know? And....aaaaargh.

[Eloi]

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(sharing some colour does not a similarity make )

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[Lix Lorn]

ION: Is there any good way to tell your shrink that your bi? I know something related will come up eventually, but I just won't be able to make myself open my mouth. And is it really the sort of thing she needs to know? And....aaaaargh.

Well... maybe just drop it in offhand, like it's obvious?

'So, I saw this hot guy in town. Almost as hot as that girl. Anyway,..'
That's a bad example, but you get my meaning?

[Danne]

ION: Is there any good way to tell your shrink that your bi? I know something related will come up eventually, but I just won't be able to make myself open my mouth. And is it really the sort of thing she needs to know? And....aaaaargh.

What's "ION"?

And is there something wrong with the straightforward version?

As to whether she needs to know... she's probably tell you the more she knows, the better, but you don't need to tell her anything if you don't want to or it makes you uncomfortable. It's completely up to you.

[cycoris]

Well... maybe just drop it in offhand, like it's obvious?

'So, I saw this hot guy in town. Almost as hot as that girl. Anyway,..'
That's a bad example, but you get my meaning?

I don't drop things though.

What's "ION"?

And is there something wrong with the straightforward version?

As to whether she needs to know... she's probably tell you the more she knows, the better, but you don't need to tell her anything if you don't want to or it makes you uncomfortable. It's completely up to you.

ION=In Other News

The problem with the straightforward version is that I can't make myself say that to her unless there's a reason to, in which case I'd be able to convince myself to tell her. But I can't make myself tell her something like that without there being a reason. And saying that it's up to me is really not helping.

@V: Thankies. I suppose that's what I'll go with. I'm just...worried, given the sort of town that I live in, that she'll let her personal feelings towards such matters leak out into dealing with me.

[SMEE]

And this is just in:

Best way to tell it is to let it come up when relevant. Talking about a relationship issue leaves you the choice to say "potential boy/girlfriend" rather than "potential partner". Don't make a big deal out of it, wait for Opportunity to bring the issue up for you, then refuse to run away from it.

[Danne]

I agree with the anonymous person. Wait for it to come up and then just say it. If it doesn't come up, then she doesn't need to know.

Good luck!

[Jacklu]

In general advice for counselor stuff; I suggest writing out a list of things you want to talk about before you go in and bring the list with you. I do this when I go in to talk with my doctor about depression stuff. Makes it harder to forget or "forget"* stuff you want to discuss and helps puts the pressure on you to actually bring it up. And worse case scenario, you can always hand the list to the person and say "this is stuff I want to talk about but am too shy to bring up on my own."


*You know, where you "forget" to mention something, remembering perfectly well at the time but telling yourself you forgot it even as you intentionally keep quiet about it.

[Phae Nymna]

I nearly passed out after I came out to my first therapist. Then again, I was being emotionally abused by people I called friends, AND I was in seventh grade, AND she was the first of anyone that I told.

But yeah, It's tough. Just remind yourself that they are bound to confidentiality and to objectivity.

[Rappy]

I hear you there, Phae. Louisiana's often a tough place for us LGBTers.

Also, I concur with Jackie; lists help immensely.

[tomandtish]

ION: Is there any good way to tell your shrink that your bi? I know something related will come up eventually, but I just won't be able to make myself open my mouth. And is it really the sort of thing she needs to know? And....aaaaargh.

How long have you been seeing this particular psychologist? Psychiatrist? Any long-term effective therapy relationship is going to require trust. You’re going to have to trust her enough to be open and honest with her, and she is going to have to trust that you are being open and honest with her.

If you’ve just started with her and you’re uncomfortable with sharing right away, there’s nothing wrong with simply letting her know that you do have some things that you will need to tell her, but you’re not ready to share just yet. If you’ve been seeing her a while (5 or more visits) and you’re still not comfortable, you may have more serious issues with that particular person anyway. If you aren’t comfortable telling her this, then you’re probably not really comfortable enough with her for any effective long-term counseling relationship. I say this because, based on your statements, it sounds like this issue is at least somewhat related to why you are seeing her in the first place.

[Phae Nymna]

I hear you there, Phae. Louisiana's often a tough place for us LGBTers.

Also, I concur with Jackie; lists help immensely.

HeyHey! Another LAitP! Message me sometime and we can discuss the Pelican state and her LGBT oddities.

[Lycan 01]

*waves from Mississippi*

Howdy neighbors!


I went to therapy for two sessions. It was quite fun, actually. Then me and the therapist both decided there was nothing wrong with me, especially since it was court ordered and not my idea to go in the first place, even though I went along voluntarily...

[Serpentine]

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My suggestion: ">stuff about concerns about the future, that sort of thing comes up sometimes, right?< I'm also worried about what might happen with my bisexuality, because >blah blah blah<"

[Coidzor]

Correct me if I'm wrong here, but knowing Jackie it'll be a very pale pink with dark-ish brown. Or maybe I'm just being presemptuous and whatnot.

Or maybe she showed you while you were having one of your cyber-liaising sessions.

ION: Is there any good way to tell your shrink that your bi? I know something related will come up eventually, but I just won't be able to make myself open my mouth. And is it really the sort of thing she needs to know? And....aaaaargh.

Wait till it comes up then be as honest as you believe you should be given patient confidentiality laws and your status as a minor.

Unless there's something relating to your psychological health that needs getting off your chest but you can't because you're hung up on the whole coming out of the closet thing or something.

Serps, Eloi: What the hell did they do to that poor turkey?

[Rappy]

HeyHey! Another LAitP! Message me sometime and we can discuss the Pelican state and her LGBT oddities.

Heh, I'm on nearly the opposite side of the state from you, so it may be in different languages, but if I get less busy during the summer I'll certainly remember the offer to have some PM talks.

Also, here's a wave back for you, Lycan! *Waves*

...But alas, that's rather offtopic, so I'll belatedly congratulate Jackie for the room color change. It sure beats my dingy wood plank walls and strange yellow-with-white-flecking floor.

[Arti3]

So, I have two questions:
1. What do you get when you multiply six and nine?
2. When did you find out yourself that you were LGBT?

[Delusion]

1. What do you get when you multiply six and nine?

54? Is that a trick question?

2. When did you find out yourself that you were LGBT?

Had feelings related T since puberty. Only really understood it few months ago.

[Lioness]

Okay, and that turkey-galah war just made my day. Thanks, guys.

Especially the bright purple turkey

[blackfox]

So, I have two questions:
1. What do you get when you multiply six and nine?
2. When did you find out yourself that you were LGBT?

1) Forty-two.
2) I'd been having crushes on girls and boys since at least 1st or 2nd grade or so. I didn't actually start thinking 'Wait, why I am I checking out girls?' till I was 15 or so. I finally figured the whole thing by the time I graduated high school.

[Viera Champion]

*waves from Mississippi*

Howdy neighbors!


I went to therapy for two sessions. It was quite fun, actually. Then me and the therapist both decided there was nothing wrong with me, especially since it was court ordered and not my idea to go in the first place, even though I went along voluntarily...

I'm missing something... Why were you court ordered to go to a therapist.

Also, I just realized your avvie is Kiske Urahara. I'm slow.

[Eloi]

1. What do you get when you multiply six and nine?

The answer to life, the universe, and everything. (Edit button, punks~)

2. When did you find out yourself that you were LGBT?

When my best friend asked me out and I said 'yes' to her. So.. this Monday probably most definitively.

Did I get the first one right or no?

[Dogmantra]

Did I get the first one right or no?

No. 42 is the answer, not the meaning GEEEZ.

As for 2, I guess for sure a few months ago when I realised that yes, I do have a huge crush on another dude, but I've been unsure pretty much since I hit puberty.

[Faceist]

So, I have two questions:
1. What do you get when you multiply six and nine?
2. When did you find out yourself that you were LGBT?

1: If the sun refused to shine, I don't mind, I don't mind (yeah)

2: When I was sixteen. I was kind of a slow developer, sexy-wise, so I didn't notice boys or girls much till then, but I've always viewed myself as an equal opportunity hirer. (Also, I think this is my first post in this thread? Yo.)

[Dogmantra]

I've always viewed myself as an equal opportunity hirer.

You, sir, are amazing.

[Xzeno]

I've always viewed myself as an equal opportunity hirer.

Here is one of the times places on the Internet where I feel I can say "ROFL" without being deceptive.

Welcome to the group, Faceist. As Dogmantra has indicated, I think you're going to be popular around here.

So, I have two questions:
1. What do you get when you multiply six and nine?
2. When did you find out yourself that you were LGBT?

1. Presumably, yet another number that exists solely for highschoolers to put on the end of their email addresses in an attempt to be... whatever, I can't say I really understand it. Also see: Four times twenty.
2. Ask me again some time.

[Quincunx]

So, I have two questions:
1. What do you get when you multiply six and nine?
2. When did you find out yourself that you were LGBT?

1. Proof that this thread, at this point in time, isn't nearly as depraved as it sometimes gets.
2. N/A

@V (next page): Ahhh, there we go.