LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax

[Castaras]

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My GF and I just split up.

Big hugs for you. I'm sorry.

[Absol197]

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First pair of boots - yay!

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My GF and I just split up.

Oh no, Zorg! I'm so very sorry...

~Phoenix~
If you want someone to talk to, or rage at, my PM box is open...

[Astrella]

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First pair of boots - yay!

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My GF and I just split up.

Oh no. I'm really really sorry. *all of the hugs*

[The Succubus]

*hugs Zorg*

If I recall, I think you said a while back that you feared this was going to happen. Was it a fairly amicable break up hun?

*hugs again tightly*

[Asta Kask]

*hugs Zorg*

[Irish Musician]

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First pair of boots - yay!

First thought I had.....that chick has a nice outfit on.......

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My GF and I just split up.

I'm so sorry That sucks. *the world of hugs around you*

~Matthew~

[Arti3]

That's what our biology teacher told us in fifth grade. (well, actually she told us it was sword and shield and mirror and the thingy the mirror stands on, respectively, but generally same thing) She could have told us about the erect penis interpretation too, but maybe that wouldn't have been the best, for fifth-graders, at least.

Fifth graders are completely mature enough to say penis around!
*snrk* peeeeeeeenis

Oh bless you for vindicating me. I was afraid for a moment what I learned was wrong, and it actually was suppose to just be an erect phallus.



The lak of Pluto makes me sad, but it had a terrible symbol so I guess it's okay.

Sometimes a penis is just a penis, but not this case. :P And yeah the PL symbol is lame.

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[SPOILER]First pair of boots - yay!

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My GF and I just split up.

Nice boots! I'm sorry about your split up.



I joined a new queer community and they had a lot of questions for me, and I realized talking about my past, present, and future really helped me in a lot of ways considering I've always been pretty reserved about talking in general.

[Zorg]

Thanks all.

@ Succubus - as amicable as can be I guess. Basically she doesn't want me to change, and can't be with me because of that.
If I could make all this go away to stay with her I would.

Not angry or upset, just... incredibly sad.

[Asta Kask]

Thanks all.

@ Succubus - as amicable as can be I guess. Basically she doesn't want me to change, and can't be with me because of that.
If I could make all this go away to stay with her I would.

Not angry or upset, just... incredibly sad.

Like this?

[noparlpf]

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My GF and I just split up.

:< I'm really sorry.

[Socratov]

Thanks all.

@ Succubus - as amicable as can be I guess. Basically she doesn't want me to change, and can't be with me because of that.
If I could make all this go away to stay with her I would.

Not angry or upset, just... incredibly sad.

wow. dat link :F. that is so sad it's undescribable.

Wel hugs for breaking up and hereby the usual notion of plenty of other fish residing in the sea.

and congratulations with your first pair of boots (seems like a milestone)

And I deem that htis thread may need some happy thoughts again.

*tickles Lixie with a feather*

(hey, gotta do something)

[Asta Kask]

She's the great and powerful Lixie, not the Cheerful Fairy.

glingleglingleglingle...

[The Succubus]

That would be Kenderwizard. I should know, I made her avatar for her. =3

[Zorg]

Like this?

More like this.

Sorry for being a bringdown.

[Absol197]

More like this.

Sorry for being a bringdown.

It's fine honey. I'm sure most of us know what that feels like (well, splitting off from a loved one, not your specific circumstances), and we're all here for you. Just let us know if you need anything. That's why we're here.

~Phoenix~

[Socratov]

More like this.

Sorry for being a bringdown.

no problem, reversing that frown into a smile is what we are here for.

That would be Kenderwizard. I should know, I made her avatar for her. =3

You know how hard it is to capture a wizard? (or fairy for that matter), harder then cheating a leprachaun that is. Besides Lixie is used to getting captured and dragged around/worshipped by now I guess

[Asta Kask]

As long as you keep her in chains... have you heard her theme song?

Anyway, I guess I'm more of an 80's guy.

[Socratov]

No, I havent (and I'm at work now doing not a whole lot, but youtube has been blocked, so...). I'll listen later.

[bluewind95]

Yes, I'm not sure if I posted it here but it went to higher court and the mother got the custody in the end. So a good ending.

Oh, that's good. I tried googling it yesterday, but didn't get more than just the first news... Good to know the higher court is sane.

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My GF and I just split up.

I'm so sorry to hear that. *hugs*

[Asta Kask]

Ted Haggard supports gay marriage.

[Lentrax]

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First pair of boots - yay!

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My GF and I just split up.

More like this.

Sorry for being a bringdown.

First thought: Yay! Boots!
Second thought: Oh, no!
Third thought: Oh, nooo.

Ohh, honey. I am so sorry to hear that.*hugs*
This must be hard. All I can offer is hugs, a shoulder to cry on and a few cliched phrases.

*hugs. so many hugs*

[Mina Kobold]

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First pair of boots - yay!

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My GF and I just split up.

*Hugs*

So so sorry for you, I wish I could do more than offer my sympathies. ;_;

You look lovely, by the way. If it is of any cheer.

Thanks all.

@ Succubus - as amicable as can be I guess. Basically she doesn't want me to change, and can't be with me because of that.
If I could make all this go away to stay with her I would.

Not angry or upset, just... incredibly sad.

There are many things we wish we could banish, but I am afraid we can do no more to throw away who we are than we can to stop a star in its path. Do not lament what could never be, but work for what can be.

Even though you may not be a couple any more, I hope you can still support each other. A wonderful friend may not be what you seek, but it may be needed.

More like this.

Sorry for being a bringdown.

Do not be sorry. If not for support, then what are we here for? ^_^

Other than disagreeing on the symbol of the Lord of Riches' astronomical symbol, I guess. ^_^'

[Arachu]

Yes, I'm not sure if I posted it here but it went to higher court and the mother got the custody in the end. So a good ending.

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First pair of boots - yay!

Boooots~

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My GF and I just split up.

D: *Hugs!*

Sometimes a penis is just a penis, but not this case. :P And yeah the PL symbol is lame.

*Instantly decides that it looks like a cigar*

I joined a new queer community and they had a lot of questions for me, and I realized talking about my past, present, and future really helped me in a lot of ways considering I've always been pretty reserved about talking in general.

*Hugs*


~Bianca

[Mystic Muse]

*Hugs Zorg*

Sorry to hear about that.

[KenderWizard]

Well, yeah. It was more of a PSA. Would you like some copper for Christmas?

I would, personally. I'd like copper-ore bearing rocks too!

Lies. Belgian chocolates are the best, I'll grant you, but in terms of the chocolate itself, as a slab or whatever, Swiss is superior.

I personally advocate Irish milk chocolate. Although the other day I had a crepe with melted Belgian chocolate smeared inside and a scoop of vanilla ice cream and that was REALLY good.

Irish people sound so peaceful. >.>

We tend to be very easygoing. Sometimes too easygoing.

That is amazing progress, especially compared to Denmark. We decriminalised it in 1933, were the first to allow same-sex unions and then kind of forgot to do much until this year. Ireland is going much faster. ^_^

We're making up for lost time?

That story is adorable and it is interesting to hear about a relationship from the side of the partner trying to adjust. Thanks. ^_^

What is OTT, by the bee? I do not know. ^_^'

Oh, I'm sorry, it's "over the top". Like, the writer of the article was making a big deal about it, like being trans is totally unheard-of, when they could have been more relaxed.

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First pair of boots - yay!

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My GF and I just split up.

Really sorry to hear that, but I'm totally focused on the boots. They look AWESOME! Damn you and your slender legs, girl! I'm tentatively looking for my first pair of knee-high boots as well, I just hope I can rock them as well as you can!

I joined a new queer community and they had a lot of questions for me, and I realized talking about my past, present, and future really helped me in a lot of ways considering I've always been pretty reserved about talking in general.

I've certainly found talking things through to be a very helpful exercise - it's great that you found a community and got that opportunity!

She's the great and powerful Lixie, not the Cheerful Fairy.

glingleglingleglingle...

I totes already existed!

That would be Kenderwizard. I should know, I made her avatar for her. =3

See?

[Lix Lorn]

(Hugs for Zorg)

And I deem that htis thread may need some happy thoughts again.

*tickles Lixie with a feather*

(hey, gotta do something)

She's the great and powerful Lixie, not the Cheerful Fairy.

glingleglingleglingle...

Besides Lixie is used to getting captured and dragged around/worshipped by now I guess

As long as you keep her in chains... have you heard her theme song?

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[Asta Kask]

First thought: Yay! Boots!

Actually my first thought was "Yay! Boobs!"

They're not big but they're there.

[Mono Vertigo]

Damn. I'm so sorry about it, Zorg. There's nothing I can say that could help. Would you accept friendly hugs instead?
At least, the picture is very nice. Go you!

[Mina Kobold]

We're making up for lost time?

Hopefully much more than that, you could surpass everybody and make them have to follow along! ^_^

Oh, I'm sorry, it's "over the top". Like, the writer of the article was making a big deal about it, like being trans is totally unheard-of, when they could have been more relaxed.

No worry, I can see how useful that acronym could be.

It kind of missed it being over the top since I am used to the way our local... talk show thingy treats issues. No matter what they are talking about, they sound like it is a revolutionary new idea that could make the world of tomorrow a land of kittens and rainbow forests. They have spoken (positively) about transsexuality at least a few times, so I may have assumed it was just how these pieces talk.


On another note: Anyone heard about Nancy Chodorow's theories about gender in western culture? My Psychology homework mention them, and they seem really interesting. ^_^

Essentially, the idea is that the old (and still somewhat present) model of mother-as-caretaker, father-as-absent-money-maker, affects how children express their gender identities. In part due to how the mother may unconsciously treat seemingly male children as different and seemingly female ones as similar, in part because the children themselves would identify with the parent closest to their idea of self.
The male-identified children would try to look at the father as whom to mimic, but the father was often absent and became a symbol of the non-home environment and distancing, while the mother (seen as a symbol of care and closeness) would be the model of what not to be. essentially, the male-identified children would often define their masculinity by fearing or rejecting closeness to to those seen as female and in general identify with being different from the mother. The female-identified children would, by contrast, identify with the mother, attachment and would not be as divided between the parents as the male-identified.

I am not so sure that the theory is very universal or still as relevant as it was, but it struck me as a very good partial explanation for some of the patriarchal cultural aspects. How the culture often regards masculinity as something to be proved and never to get near "feminine" traits, while femininity is less insecure but also heavily associated with parenthood and nurturing.

Anyone have thoughts on it?

[Asta Kask]

Irish people sound so peaceful. >.>

We tend to be very easygoing. Sometimes too easygoing.

You must have changed... in the 19th century, Irishmen couldn't be seconds to duellants because part of the second's job was to negotiate a peaceful solution. The Irish were known for their bloodthirstyness and could not be trusted to really strive for a peaceful way out.