LGBTAI+ #58 Infinity 2.0: The Darth Arminius Apology Thread

[Astrella]

Dating other trans people is always an option since there's a bigger chance they'd be okay with dating someone trans, but like, just focusing on your transition for now is fine too of course. I personally wouldn't fret about it too much right now especially since your break up is still fairly recent and just take things as they go?

[Iethloc]

So a couple months ago, I contacted a local clinic that does a lot of voice therapy, including classes for trans women. They said they didn't have any classes available until October.

I half-expected to be forgotten since it was so long ago, but I got a surprise call from them just the other day. I have an appointment on Tuesday, and after that I should be able to start voice training! I'm hoping it goes smoothly. I had a talent for voices when I was little, though I never really went for more feminine ones.

[ArlEammon]

I'm in Arizona preparing for a special art's project at a University. . . I will be taking data and I need to PM in order to talk about it.

[Eldest]

I think your inbox is full good sir.

[ArlEammon]

It's done.

[Eldest]

Anybody got any good sources for why the terrible restrictions on HRT came about? My mother is making noise about it, because of course she is.

[JusticeZero]

The ones that are largely gone in the WPATH 7th Ed.? No idea, but I am sure a huge helping of transphobia and the fact that whatever was written as a policy was carried out everywhere was involved.
These days, it's by informed consent. Strictly speaking, by current standards you can go to your GP and just ask for it as long as you talk over the side effects first and seem like you are able to make informed decisions. Most require some sort of evaluation first. There's still a bunch of holdouts still using 6E and earlier that required various sadistic and cruel barriers.

[Lappy9001]

The only restriction in my state is that many doctors require a letter from a psychologist/therapist. My doctor is great and didn't even require that. I found him through a local transgender healthcare group.

[Astrella]

Anybody got any good sources for why the terrible restrictions on HRT came about? My mother is making noise about it, because of course she is.

Whipping Girl by Julia Serano has a history about it iirc. (is a good book, just a bit outdated.) I'll try and see if I can find some online stuff.

[Lappy9001]

So I'm very excited to announce that I've officially been on HRT for 2 months and out as transgender for 5 months. If it's alright, I'd like to share a picture of me 5 months ago, and a picture taken just the other day to commemorate this special occasion

Spoiler: Then/Now

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[Irish Musician]

Wow Lappy, looking great! Congrats. Love both the shirt from 5 months ago, and the dress ensemble you got going there.



Hope everyone else is well, and doing good. Lots of love and puppies and kitties and hugs all around.

[Lissou]

Looking great, Lappy! Happy monthiversary!

[Heliomance]

So, my mother and my sisters go red and blotchy in the face whenever they drink alcohol. My father and brother don't, and I never used to. Since I've been on hormones, I now also go red and blotchy when I drink. It's thoroughly bizarre, and very annoying.

[Miraqariftsky]

@Iethloc:
Alright, sounds great, pretty lady. Best wishes to ye and keep up the good work.

@Lappy:
Gorgeous, girl! Keep on rockin'.

Also...
...hell yeah for tall ladies and burgeoning bosoms.

Koff. Ahem.

@Heliomance:
Sorrytahear...
...though, I suppose that's part of the package, now that you're one of your clan's daughters, eh?

@Comrade:
GLAD FER YE. Beautiful!

@Everybodyyyyy:

HALLO, once again, comrades queer. Best wishes to y'all. Cyber-coffees and teas to those who want 'em, hugs to those who need 'em.

How've y'all been?

Sorry been away. Dealing with family stuff, depression, dysphoria, work-crap and floods. Also, bullets. But hey, I ain't dead yet. WOO, hell yeah.

Chiming in with my two coppers regarding the groping issue that's arisen in the wake of Trump-related troubles...

Spoiler: Nonconsensual/Harassment

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(and yes, I'm aware that this isn't AS bad as many other incidents out there, but a crime is still a crime, right?)
...It was while I was on my way to school, in a jam-packed jeepney, crowded with commuters, on a bumpy road with a crappy driver, during heavy traffic. Some passengers got off, replaced by another cavalcade of commuters. This time, a bunch of giggling girls in school uniforms. W'elp, nothing out of the ordinary. More passengers boarded, vehicle got cramped again. I felt a person take the seat next to me, but ignored my defensive instincts, because hey, mass transit vehicle. I started feeling something on my back and side, but dismissed it as simply commuters jostling against each other because of traffic. And then I felt it more, and more forcefully. As well as some touches going down. Surprised and mortified. Used my phone's reflection, and then a surreptitious glance at the driver's mirror to check to confirm. Why was I checking covertly? Who knows if they were members of a gang? Wouldn't do to unwittingly provoke gangbangers. I looked a third time, this time with my Model Ones-Mark Ones. By this time, she was practically humping and rubbing all over my back. Much to the enjoyment of her tittering and smirking crew. I wanted to get out of there, but I didn't want to leave without doing anything. I took a page from my notebook, wrote "Miss. Appreciated but HELL NO. I am LOYAL to my BELOVED. And HE AIN"T YOU."
And just like that, I debarked and walked away...
...while mid-trip. Missed class that day. The rattlement only set in later in the day.
And yes, I was in boy mode during that incident.

[super dark33]

Heyy heres one for all the bi folk who enjoy the benefits of having double the chances of having their heart broken per second. Or thats just me.

Anyway im getting frustrated with everything and almost outed myself several times last week so im kinda distressed.

[golentan]

@Iethloc:
Alright, sounds great, pretty lady. Best wishes to ye and keep up the good work.

@Lappy:
Gorgeous, girl! Keep on rockin'.

Also...
...hell yeah for tall ladies and burgeoning bosoms.

Koff. Ahem.

@Heliomance:
Sorrytahear...
...though, I suppose that's part of the package, now that you're one of your clan's daughters, eh?

@Comrade:
GLAD FER YE. Beautiful!

@Everybodyyyyy:

HALLO, once again, comrades queer. Best wishes to y'all. Cyber-coffees and teas to those who want 'em, hugs to those who need 'em.

How've y'all been?

Sorry been away. Dealing with family stuff, depression, dysphoria, work-crap and floods. Also, bullets. But hey, I ain't dead yet. WOO, hell yeah.

Chiming in with my two coppers regarding the groping issue that's arisen in the wake of Trump-related troubles...

Spoiler: Nonconsensual/Harassment

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(and yes, I'm aware that this isn't AS bad as many other incidents out there, but a crime is still a crime, right?)
...It was while I was on my way to school, in a jam-packed jeepney, crowded with commuters, on a bumpy road with a crappy driver, during heavy traffic. Some passengers got off, replaced by another cavalcade of commuters. This time, a bunch of giggling girls in school uniforms. W'elp, nothing out of the ordinary. More passengers boarded, vehicle got cramped again. I felt a person take the seat next to me, but ignored my defensive instincts, because hey, mass transit vehicle. I started feeling something on my back and side, but dismissed it as simply commuters jostling against each other because of traffic. And then I felt it more, and more forcefully. As well as some touches going down. Surprised and mortified. Used my phone's reflection, and then a surreptitious glance at the driver's mirror to check to confirm. Why was I checking covertly? Who knows if they were members of a gang? Wouldn't do to unwittingly provoke gangbangers. I looked a third time, this time with my Model Ones-Mark Ones. By this time, she was practically humping and rubbing all over my back. Much to the enjoyment of her tittering and smirking crew. I wanted to get out of there, but I didn't want to leave without doing anything. I took a page from my notebook, wrote "Miss. Appreciated but HELL NO. I am LOYAL to my BELOVED. And HE AIN"T YOU."
And just like that, I debarked and walked away...
...while mid-trip. Missed class that day. The rattlement only set in later in the day.
And yes, I was in boy mode during that incident.

Sorry you went through that, dearest.

[Eldest]

So, my mother and my sisters go red and blotchy in the face whenever they drink alcohol. My father and brother don't, and I never used to. Since I've been on hormones, I now also go red and blotchy when I drink. It's thoroughly bizarre, and very annoying.

My mother bruises like mad, my dad doesnt, and I used to avoid it. But now I've still got a bruise from a blood draw 2 weeks ago.

[Astrella]

People with primary estrogen tend to have thinner skin than people with primary testosterone, so bruises and I imagine redness and such happen more easily.

[JusticeZero]

I am now completely out at work, at least in my department and administration. I also just moved, am marveled at how much more effective I am at life now that I have a bit of estrogen in my system, and really feel a lot depressed that I can't get a couple of decades of my life back.

[lylsyly]

and really feel a lot depressed that I can't get a couple of decades of my life back.

Never ever backwards, always Forward unto Tomorrow! The time/energy spent looking backwards shall serve you better improving the future.

This is just about the only thing keeping me sane (along with a healthy dose of D&D).

CHIN UP gentlebeing!

[noparlpf]

Apparently it's Asexuality Awareness Week. (I was aware of it last week though...)

[Black Socks]

Apparently it's Asexuality Awareness Week. (I was aware of it last week though...)

I believe the primary purpose of an 'awareness week' is to make more people aware of whatever the week is about, rather than reinforcing the awareness of those already aware.
....and I just realized I took a joke way too seriously. Again.

[JusticeZero]

For reasons that everyone is likely very aware of and which I have NO desire to discuss, I am a bit terrified to continue my life as it presently is. Seriously, please don't talk about it.

I might have some ways of getting out of range of the probable problems, and I am looking into them tomorrow.

I need hugs and crossed fingers, if anyone can spare them. I feel a little bit starved for hugs right now. Hugs are good. Not optimism though. All the people who were blocking me from the things I needed were using optimistic, nonspecific assertions of positive progress to prevent me from bypassing them, so it puts me on edge now.

If anyone knows much about name changes and passports in the US, maybe a PM. We know how to acquire them, but not the fastest way to get both or if it can be done from a long way away.

[Serpentine]

I'm thinking of you all. Please stay safe and look after yourselves and each other.

[Ninja_Prawn]

I need hugs and crossed fingers, if anyone can spare them.

Hugs from the UK! My heart goes out to you guys.

[Togath]

So given today's "events", I'm mildly afraid of my own safety for the first time.
Hugs would be appreciated while I try to absorb stuff.
I know logically, big changes aren't likely to occur quickly. I just need to get my confidence back enough to not break down and plan out what to do in case things do go south.

[Lycunadari]

Lots of hugs for all of you. Let's hope things wont turn out quite as dire as it seems now.

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[Eldest]

Much love to my fellow us residents. Everything will be okay.

[Psyren]

As a silver lining to... things, trans rights should improve where I live! That message at least was received loud and clear.

[Irish Musician]

I love you all. I'm so sorry about.....things, and I love you all. I don't know what else to say or do but wrap everyone up in a giant blanket and throw all 5 of my cats in there with you for snuggles.

I love my LGBTAI+ family and there isn't anything in this world that will change that or lessen that.

@Psyren - as silver linings so, that's a very nice one. I am very happy for you!