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2017-01-01, 06:45 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Yeah, sorry. It's just kind of a reflex at this point: feels like I only hear people mention mental health and especially psychotic illness as a scapegoat (I.E. mass shootings are all about "psychos"), a threat/derision (Think about how most people talk about homeless guys by the bus stations who talk to themselves, or how often the "psycho is the murderer on television), or a "don't lump me in with those people" because... we're all subhuman monsters, I guess.
I know that's not what you meant, but closing on a year after I lost my dream job because of a mental health breakdown it's been eating at me a lot, and I'm tired of being hurt and scared so often, tired of seeing people who are like me maligned, mocked, and treated as subhuman, and desperately afraid that nobody will give me another chance.
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2017-01-02, 12:15 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Rhymes with "Protracted."
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2017-01-02, 12:26 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
I think if you parse again, the Succubus was giving that as an example of how people claiming to be aiming for best outcomes but refusing to listen to their "patients" are taking a good sentiment (at heart, the hippocratic oath), and twisting it into a nefarious use (convincing themselves that the harm they inflict is less real than their own perceived best benefit for the person they victimize, regardless of what the victim or evidence of outcomes tells them).
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2017-01-02, 03:46 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Golly is right - that's exactly what I meant. A long while ago, I did a google search for conversion therapy and found a website with a list of victims, showing what they were subjected to and what the....outcomes...were. Even as a cis, straightish guy, I found it utterly horrifying to read and the list never seemed to end. I never found that website again but I have been vehemently and passionately opposed to conversion therapy ever since.
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2017-01-02, 09:39 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Creator of the LA-assignment thread.
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2017-01-02, 02:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Spoiler: things in which I used to be involved before i was claimed by the great pestilence of examsThe One Sane Drow (Vergil: Drow Sorcerer 5, CN)
The Uprise (IC/OOC) (Ker'anson: Drow Arcane Spellcaster 4, NE)
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2017-01-02, 03:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
I can't think of a situation where it would be more appropriate, and I like puns!
Actually, hypocritical means "below" (hypo) "judgement" (critic). -al is basically "pertaining to."
As I understand it it's basically saying "You fall below the bar to be a critic because of your flawed, myopic judgement."
Whereas Hippocrates despite the similar sound in english breaks down to Hippo (horse) and krates (power) which... I guess his legacy lives on in the form of the internal combustion engine? Also, Hippopotamus means "river horse."
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2017-01-02, 04:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Creator of the LA-assignment thread.
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2017-01-06, 01:31 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
I have a question regarding romantic orientation. When ever anyone reverences it is seemingly only paired with asexual. I was wondering weather someone could be hetero biromantic. (Recent events have lead me to believe I might be biromantic)
Just wondering. You can all get back to relavnt discussion now.
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2017-01-06, 02:03 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Rhymes with "Protracted."
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2017-01-06, 02:43 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
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2017-01-06, 08:12 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Sure, it just generally seems less common for whatever reason so you don't hear about it as often. Bisexuality/-romanticism is a spectrum, too, so you can be more or less interested in one gender than another or more or less interested in certain things regarding one set of body parts vs. another set of body parts. Whatever works for you, both in terms of labels and what you do with any hypothetical partners.
Jude P.
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2017-01-06, 11:03 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Humans' various levels of need for intimacy are complicated. I think society as a whole would benefit more from separating sexual and romantic orientation. It's probably mostly talked about regarding asexual people because people feel a need to understand what sort of intimacy they are okay with.
I won a thread. Am I pathetic to list that in my signture? Yes. Of course I am.
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2017-01-06, 05:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Yes, it just significantly complicates relationships to pursue one with someone romantically of interest but not sexually, and this is exacerbated if the person is sexually interested in others but not one's partner. So you'll mostly find people who are biromantic but homosexual or heterosexual living their lives in such a way that you couldn't tell them from a straight or gay person.
As I recall, people with completely conflicting romantic and sexual orientations are significantly rarer than people who are bi in one regard but not the other, but it's not like we have exhaustive studies with reliable figures, or a cultural situation without incentive to hide that sort of fact about one's self, either. I'm sure some of the men who cheat on their wives and are dismissed as closeted bi or gay men are more precisely termed as heteroromantic homosexuals, but good luck trying to estimate a percentage.
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2017-01-06, 05:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Rhymes with "Protracted."
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2017-01-07, 05:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Wow, as a trans youth, and a new member of the forum, it really is amazing that you guys have a thread like this. I am really happy with the level of acceptance here. I am just so happy that there is a place like this. I am a HUGE fan of OOTS, and it is really great that there are other members of "the community" in this community. I have had lots of trouble with people accepting me in my life, and this thread is so cool!!! I just recently came out to my closest friends, and most people in my life don't know about/respect my gender identity. My whole life, though that doesn't seem like a very long time to some of you out there, I haven't fit into the ideas of classical gender. I have always pushed against gender stereotypes and have always felt different than everybody else. I personally used to use they/them pronouns, and for some reason, people seemed to really have a hard time with using those pronouns. I eventually gave up with trying to convince my friends to use proper pronouns, and settled with anything they wanted to call me. But seeing this thread, wow, I can't believe I'm saying this, but has given me the balls to start being true to who I am. Thank you so much, everybody on this thread. I realize I should care about how people see me and how they treat me. I am done with people disrespecting me. I am going to stand up for myself. Its crazy, but this internet forum is actually going to change my life. Wow. You guys can call me Phi, like the greek letter. They/Them pronouns please. Thank you all so much. I am going to start frequenting this forum from now on.
-Phi
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2017-01-07, 06:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
To all those people who work on the website out there...
The only Options I could pick from when registering were:
M2F, F2M, Male, Female and Intersex
Why is the gender selection so limited for registering? Couldn't you have written in genders, or have a "none of the above" option at least? Most trans people I know wouldn't want to out themselves as M2F or F2M, so why have that as an option? Its kind of insulting that you would put that as a separate option than Male or Female. Idk it just frustrates me. There should definitely be more options.
Sorry about the rant.
They/Them pronouns please.
-Phi
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2017-01-07, 06:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
This thread probably isn't the best place for that comment, I'm not sure your target audience will see it. Perhaps ask on the Board/Site Issues forum?
Most trans people I know wouldn't want to out themselves as M2F or F2M, so why have that as an option? Its kind of insulting that you would put that as a separate option than Male or Female.
Regarding a "none of the above" option: at least when I registered, you could just leave the gender field blank.
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2017-01-07, 06:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
No idea what they were thinking, if you don't want to take any of those options then you don't have to display gender at all. Plenty of people don't. Most people don't as far as I've seen. Frankly if this were my forum there wouldn't be an option at all.
Here's the problem. Right here. Plenty of Trans people on this site are more than happy using them, no complains from what I've seen. I think you're taking this much too seriously. Don't display a gender if none of the ones available match. Which you've done. End of problem really.Last edited by Razade; 2017-01-07 at 06:27 PM.
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2017-01-07, 06:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
I dunno, I've always had an issue with the trans gender-markers myself, simply because they prompt misunderstanding of what gender someone is, and what being trans means. Having them as a separate gender symbol puts them out there as a separate gender, distinct from male and female, and that's just incorrect. Trans is not my gender. Its an elaboration on the circumstances around my gender. Its like the difference between a local student and a transfer student: they're both still students, they both go to the same school, its just that they had different routes there.
I like the idea of being out, of raising awareness that hey, we're here, but I have concerns about the way trans gender-markers work on this forum.Last edited by AmberVael; 2017-01-07 at 09:41 PM. Reason: Lets add some hyphens in there so 'trans gender markers' isn't so confusing a phrase.
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2017-01-07, 07:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
The one labelled Intersex does work fairly well as a non binary marker though - it displays as a purple circle with both the Mars and Venus symbols on.
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2017-01-07, 09:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-01-08, 02:10 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Yeah, I believe it even says "Intersex" when you mouse over it.
Rhymes with "Protracted."
Handbooks: The Warlockopedia | The Warmagepedia (WIP) | Tier List (2019 Update)
Spreadsheets: Spellcasting classes | Deities | Useful items
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2017-01-08, 05:39 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Creator of the LA-assignment thread.
Come join the new Junkyard Wars and build with SLAs and a breath weapon!
Interested in judging a build competition on the 3.5 forums but not sure where to begin? Check out the judging handbook!
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2017-01-08, 05:47 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
I imagine it is even less of a priority than the name changing thread personally. The option not to select one of the options is available to everyone.
Last edited by Razade; 2017-01-08 at 05:48 AM.
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2017-01-08, 07:11 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
I think they didn't want to do a text field for gender (or sexuality) because those are the ones trolls tend to abuse more than location.
I do think that it would be worth adding a marker for nonbinary/genderqueer and/or agender/gender-neutral, but from a website designer's perspective I would imagine there's only so far you can go with manually adding new specific options before switching to a text field, and if it's already been decided that a text field is a no-go then they're probably going to be more hesitant to start adding new specific options.Jude P.
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2017-01-08, 02:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
Creator of the LA-assignment thread.
Come join the new Junkyard Wars and build with SLAs and a breath weapon!
Interested in judging a build competition on the 3.5 forums but not sure where to begin? Check out the judging handbook!
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2017-01-08, 03:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
What noparlpf said doesn't lead to that extreme. It's harder to report things that aren't posts for one. There's no Report function for people's location/gender tab. It's hard enough for the Mods to get to every reported thread, let alone giving them more work having to police peoples avatars and locations and gender slots. When they don't even have to provide either of the latter two. They didn't have to add MtF and FtM and Intersex, that was done at the behest of the vocal LGTBQ group here on this forum, it as a nicety and it still wasn't enough apparently.
Last edited by Razade; 2017-01-08 at 03:00 PM.
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2017-01-09, 08:33 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
One can report a post to alert the mods of a signature- or location-based rule breaking.
When they don't even have to provide either of the latter two. They didn't have to add MtF and FtM and Intersex, that was done at the behest of the vocal LGTBQ group here on this forum, it as a nicety and it still wasn't enough apparently.
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2017-01-09, 01:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Question and Discussion Thread III: Third Time's A Charm
If it's that important, just put it in your signature or location?
Spoiler: things in which I used to be involved before i was claimed by the great pestilence of examsThe One Sane Drow (Vergil: Drow Sorcerer 5, CN)
The Uprise (IC/OOC) (Ker'anson: Drow Arcane Spellcaster 4, NE)
Running Total Of Things I've Critically Hit That Jormengand Didn't Want Me To Critically Hit: 3