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2019-02-15, 01:59 PM (ISO 8601)
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2019-02-15, 02:07 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Woot! Finally, after all the wait and the delays! This is great :D
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2019-02-15, 02:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Nov 2009
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I will volunteer more specifically to discuss the following topics:
Homosexuality
Bisexuality/Pansexuality
Non-binary topics, including being a gender, genderfluid etc.
Hormone replacement therapy
Figuring out sexual orientation and gender identityLast edited by Dire Moose; 2019-02-15 at 02:26 PM.
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2019-02-16, 06:59 AM (ISO 8601)
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- May 2010
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- Its Complicated
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
So today I got called a "man hating narcissist" and "special snowflake" for the audacity of requesting that straight cis guys and heterosexual couples to please stop listing themselves as single women seeking women on Tinder. On one hand the insults are so ridiculous that they're laughable. On the other hand it still hurts y'know.
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2019-02-16, 08:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Aug 2018
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2019-02-16, 09:13 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Aug 2008
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Congratulations Heliomance.
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2019-02-16, 09:36 AM (ISO 8601)
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- May 2010
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- Its Complicated
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-02-16, 12:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Sep 2011
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- South of Heaven
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-02-16, 01:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Apr 2011
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
The het couple looking for a woman for threesomes while she doesn't date anybody else and only does the stuff with them is enough of a stereotype that it's nicknamed unicorn polyamory. That's probably what that is. Single men listing themselves as single women is new and even worse.
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2019-02-16, 02:05 PM (ISO 8601)
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- May 2010
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- Its Complicated
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2019-02-16, 02:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Nov 2008
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-02-21, 12:35 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2012
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
So...
A while ago, during a conversation on dysphoria, I said that I don’t experience it the same way that some others talked about.
But yesterday. Yesterday, I was shaving, which involves a lot of looking at myself in the mirror. And what I saw there was enough to make my physically ill. For the first time, I was sick of seeing me in the mirror, and I was so depressed for the rest of the day that I almost couldn’t go to work.
It made me realize how much I need therapy, but I called around, and either I can’t get the help I need and want, or it’s too expensive, even with my insurance. Same thing with online counseling. Just too expensive.
And that hit me worse. That I can’t even afford to take care of myself when now I know that I need it.
I just... I don’t know what to do...
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2019-02-21, 02:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2016
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2019-02-21, 03:34 PM (ISO 8601)
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- May 2010
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- Its Complicated
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-02-21, 05:07 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2016
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2019-02-21, 07:21 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2007
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- France
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2019-02-21, 08:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Mar 2016
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-02-21, 09:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Jul 2007
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I think it's just guys trying to widen their net? I have a profile on OK Cupid that I keep even though I'm not looking for a partner because my partners link to it. So it's set on "looking for friends" only. I should only show in searched for people looking for friends. Yet, until they changed the way messages are sent (not clear on how), I would get messages consisting in something like "Hi, wanna have sex?" and nothing else.
I guess they figure the more they try the higher their chances?
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2019-02-21, 11:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Sep 2013
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I know I am not a regular here, but I just want to share that I saw a bank ad that had a lesbian couple as the "photogenic stock couple" banner without drawing any special attention to the fact that they were doing so. I thought that was awesome.
To be fair, it was subtle enough that considering how much I care about banner ads (none), I could have missed others. But it's the first non LGBTQ2S targeted representation that I have seen in common advertising.
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2019-02-21, 11:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
I've also noticed that a lot of these guys seem to think that lesbian women are actually bi.
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2019-02-22, 01:06 AM (ISO 8601)
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2019-02-22, 01:16 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
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2019-02-22, 01:27 AM (ISO 8601)
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- May 2010
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Yup, they're pretty much always looking for a threesome relationship of some kind. And usually being pretty damn offensive about it. I'm poly and not completely opposed to dating men (just not my normal thing). The unicorn hunters still creep me the hell out.
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2019-02-22, 02:02 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Yeah, I'm familiar with the scattergun approach, and I think it is quite effective. But I though you'd still aim it in vaguely the right direction.
Maybe from time to time they do find a girl who had been looking for a girl, but decides to go for a guy on the spur of the moment.
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2019-02-22, 11:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
There was a comedy sketch on Conan last week for valentine's day that cut between three couples, one of which was a lesbian couple. No special attention was paid, they were just another couple. It was nice to see.
I also saw an ad for for a Canadian store recently that used a pair of gay men as their "photogenic couple" which was cool.
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2019-02-22, 01:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Bristol, UK
Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
The end of what Son? The story? There is no end. There's just the point where the storytellers stop talking.
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2019-02-23, 01:06 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
That's very true. My concern is just that it'll take a real long time, since these kinds of threads have slowed down over the years, and people are always gonna be in need of help. I guess I'm trying to argue that we should update it sooner rather than later, so the folk that need it can have it sooner rather than later.
Nice! Really cool to see such a large list of volunteers.
Hey, DocWoollybear! Super glad things are going well for you!
Congrats, Heliomance!
Sorry to hear that, Lentrax. I think I know how that feels like, and it really, really sucks. Are there any trans support groups around you? Sometimes it's helpful to talk to people who've dealt with similar situations, even if they can't provide therapy proper.
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2019-02-23, 01:23 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Spoiler: tw depression, suicide, transphobia etcSince the beginning of this year, it is possible to get a third gender marker here in Germany, D for "diverse", and if you change your gender marker to d, you can also change your name. Sounds all great - but it's exclusively for biologically intersex people, you need a doctor's note confirming that you have a "irregularity of sex development". If you're nonbinary, you're out of luck.
And it's killing me. Before, I could sort of ignore that I'm legally still my AGAB, while hoping that one day I would be able to change it. But now I'm constantly reminded that it is possible - just not for me. I see job listings looking for [job] (m/w/d) that were [job] (m/w) before, I read articles about the first people in [city] who changed their gender marker to D, and I want to be happy about it but it's making me incredibly depressed. We were so close, the people who fought for this, all the trans and intersex organisations, they all tried to make it possible for NB people, and when the court ruling decided that we get a new gender marker, I was so hopeful. We were so close, but ****ty politicians decided that we can't have people deciding their own gender so now only intersex people get to be "diverse".
And I'm just... I feel crushed. This new law has torn open the old wound that is existing in a cissexist society just to rub salt into it. I'm not "trans enough" to change my name with the "transsexual law" (also that's extremely expensive), I'm not intersex so the new law is useless for me, I'm just a confused, broken freak. I can try changing my name like a cis person could, but you need a "significant reason" for it and you can only change your name to one of your assigned gender that way; so I have to hope that being NB is a significant enough reason, and that I'm allowed to have my chosen neutral names. And I AM going to try it, because I can't live like this, but even starting to write the application makes me extremely anxious because I'm so scared of being denied.
All of this has seriously trigged my depression, I was doing so much better the last couple of months, but now I'm back in that pit of hopelessness, I've become suicidal again, I'm close to starting selfharming again, I haven't cried so much since my grandma died a year ago... I just... I'm so tired, and I'm not coping well with any of this.You can call me Juniper. Please use gender-neutral pronouns (ze/hir (preferred) or they/them) when referring to me.
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2019-02-23, 02:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
@Juniper
*hugs*
I wish I could help more than just provide support. Hopefully now that a new gender marker is in place it can be expanded eventually. This really sucks though! I'm glad you have another way to change your name.
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2019-02-23, 05:58 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?
Things may differ between processes in our respective places of living, but I have a positive attestation from when I went through the same sort of thing.
SpoilerI live in rural United States, and in my jurisdiction, anyone who wants to change their gender marker is, nominally, required to provide a surgeon's letter which certifies a particular procedure. I do not desire this procedure. I was afraid I would never be able to change my gender marker.
When I eventually located and met an endocrinologist in a neighboring state, I talked to her about this concern, and she simply... printed a template letter with my former name on it, basically authorizing me to be "officially" transgender.
Regarding name change, I was required to purchase a classified advertisement in the local newspaper, publishing my intent to change my name from this to that. I did so, and got an affidavit of publication.
Then I appointed a court date with the notary, and met a judge, who saw I "met" the requirements for a change in gender marker, and intended to change my name, as is my right. He asked me if I was sure I wanted to do this; I said yes; then he struck the gavel and issued me... well, basically a warrant, stating that I am officially a woman, now named such and such, and all authorities - including Vital Records - must revise their records in accordance.
I brought all my documents to the Department of Motor Vehicles, presented my documents, and asked for a revised license. They gave me one. Now my authoritative identification says F for female, and gives my true name which I chose.
Here are the morals:
- There are doctors who trained specifically to address your problem. They want to help you, and they have the authority to do so.
- Authority propagates. Legal arbiters will submit to a doctor's letter. Record-keepers know they aren't to treat their work subjectively.
- There is no active opposition to your specific effort to change your identification.
So, just go through the formalities. If my experience is any indication, they work in your favor.This signature was written by me, Aveline, to indicate that this message was written by me, Aveline.