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Thread: I want to talk too
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2019-01-25, 07:46 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: I want to talk too
Is that what you think this is about?
Well, if so, no. No it is not. The sad truth about that is that at 48, we rarely meet in person to play anymore. Too scattered. Some stopped playing. So it's a couple of weekend sessions a year, and that's that - and there's absolutely no problems except we get to meet so rarely.
No, I'm here entirely and only on principle. Any statement I make is to be taken as general, I have zero personal involvement. Well except I'm personally involved on the principle. Consideration goes both ways, always - and don't assume that just because one guy feels bad about something, the other guy is doing it on purpose. Or, necessarily, has much of a choice in the matter.
The term 'victimless crime' is reasonably well known. But there is such a thing as an 'offenderless crime' also, and until this very moment, I'm not sure anyone but me ever used that term.
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2019-01-25, 08:38 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Aug 2013
Re: I want to talk too
But it's not "just happenstance." It's an entirely predictable result of a situation. If you're aware of the situation, and you don't do anything about it (like taking turns, like checking to see if other people are in the conversation or not, etc) then you're not being malicious, but you are being inconsiderate.
If you're morbidly obese, and you sit in a friend's chair and the chair breaks, you're not acting maliciously. But you're still responsible for the damage to the chair.
That's great, but what consideration do we loud people need? (I was raised by a half-deaf mother, so I have a volume control problem. My hearing is fine, so I only share roughly at most half of your problem.)
What consideration do we need?
and don't assume that just because one guy feels bad about something, the other guy is doing it on purpose. Or, necessarily, has much of a choice in the matter.
The term 'victimless crime' is reasonably well known. But there is such a thing as an 'offenderless crime' also, and until this very moment, I'm not sure anyone but me ever used that term.
What you may be reaching for is the concept "negligence"--someone else comes to harm that you could and should have prevented. You don't mean to talk over Mary Mousyvoice. I believe you. What are you doing to make sure you AREN'T talking over Mary Mousyvoice?
In US law there are crimes of mens rea, which means criminal intent. There is a category of negligence, which can be either a lesser criminal charge or civil liability, where there was no criminal intent, but your actions had the reasonably foreseeable result of the bad thing happening--you did not take due care. And there is "not guilty/ act of god", where the bad thing was not a reasonably foreseeable result--you acted as a responsible and reasonable person, but things happen.
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I've thought a bit about "what consideration do we loud people need", and I think I've framed that badly in your case. The real question is "what consideration do the hearing impaired need?" And I think the answer to that is some form of signaling system that the quiet person is trying to talk. Normal-range-hearing people get that signal by hearing the voice.
So I think we come to the same result.Last edited by johnbragg; 2019-01-25 at 08:49 AM.
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2019-01-25, 09:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: I want to talk too
Yes it is.
What do you even mean? The same as everyone else.
Yes, it is.
See, you're not willing to try and understand. And then I'm not willing to have a conversation.
I'm out. Have a nice discussion, thanks for your input, enjoy the weekend - bye =)
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2019-01-25, 09:03 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: I want to talk too
I know it took our group awhile to convince the new girl that talking when other people are talking in an RPG isn't rude but expected and she should say what she wants to say rather than being "respectful".
Someone is always talking in a fun RPG session. If you refuse to "interrupt people" then you basically won't participate unless the session is bad.
Everyone knows the Loudmouth shouldn't shout people down. Few realize that the quiet shy person needs to actually talk and not immediately back down.
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2019-01-25, 09:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Dec 2015
Re: I want to talk too
Thank you. Yes, I do believe that things came down in deviation from how you intended. I don't think it came out as, '[s/]he's wrong and I'm right and quiet people need to be trod underfoot by the loud voice master race,' so much as it seemed like [stereotype]you might have been sitting in a basement, wearing a fedora, and typing out tweets with the hashtag #notallloudpeople,[/stereotype] if that reference makes sense.
I'm arguing two points (if memory serves) and nothing else: Consideration needs to be both ways, and it's important to see both sides of the issue.
There may be a victim, but I'm fairly sure there's no offender - at least not willfully so. And that's a very important distinction, because in the one case, you have a bully, and in the other, you have some guy just acting as is natural for him. In one case it's malicious, and in the other, it's happenstance.
I am confused by your response. You say, 'actually,' but none of that contradicts what I said ('What has happened is that a thread was started about a quiet person (the OP) not being able to edge their way into the discussion of their gaming group'). What specifically are you contending?
So, no, the problem is not and never was about loud people being inconsiderate. It was about people not noticing when a quiet person wants something to say when audio is the only channel used.Last edited by Willie the Duck; 2019-01-25 at 09:21 AM.
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2019-01-25, 09:40 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Feb 2014
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Re: I want to talk too
Sometimes it's difficult to express precisely what it is you want, when you're speaking a second language (even if you speak it well), and the subject matter is complicated. You sum up very succinctly what I'm trying to say, and I want to thank you for that. It's rare in an internet discussion - and rarer the more agitated - for anyone to be looking for the intended meaning, rather than for something to be upset about.
Thank you! And have a nice weekend. I shall now disengage myself from this thread =)
Maybe one last comment: Heated discussions are heated discussions. If I caused anyone any offense, my apologies. I aim not to, generally speaking.
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2019-01-25, 08:02 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: I want to talk too
As far as I can tell, only one person has taken offense this entire thread.
Just because everyone agrees on something, doesn't mean it is an echo chamber.
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2019-02-03, 06:58 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Nov 2018
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Re: I want to talk too
I guess I should have clarified that I'm not particularly shy, I'm rather ebullient and convivial, but my voice doesn't carry and I do tend to stop talking when interrupted
Not entirely certain why the thread turned into an arguement about if it's rude to be loud, but there were some useful comments in there :) I do play with my mic at maximum volume and my DM has everyone else's volume turned down and mine turned up. There's another woman in my group but she has a contralto voice that carries well, so it's really just a me thing
Still haven't found a solution in my group yet, but we had a player drop and it's a little more manageable with three other players instead of four
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2019-02-03, 11:08 AM (ISO 8601)
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- Aug 2013
Re: I want to talk too
https://thaumasiagames.blogspot.com/
http://www.giantitp.com/forums/showt...-Dad-is-the-DM
Homebrew quick-fixes for Cleric, Druid: http://www.giantitp.com/forums/showthread.php?t=307326
Replacing the Cleric: The Theophilite packagehttp://www.giantitp.com/forums/showthread.php?t=318391
Fighter feats: http://www.giantitp.com/forums/showthread.php?t=310132
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2019-02-07, 01:55 PM (ISO 8601)
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- Aug 2017
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Re: I want to talk too
Discord tip: have them click on your name in voice chat and pull the volume up to max. You can also adjust your Mic sensitivity in of settings and discord settings.