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2011-10-29, 07:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
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2011-10-30, 05:44 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
@term1nally_s1ck: Could be she's turning the date into incentive to help her stop procrastinating on schoolwork. But either way, you'd not be the first person who was genuinely turned down for no other reason than that your potential date just had too much to get done.
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2011-10-30, 06:23 AM (ISO 8601)
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oh god I ****ing hate that.
Because you always hear them moaning on facebook later about how much time they've wasted watching porn of people who spend too much time on lolcats instead of doing the work that's keepingthem from doing anything with another person in the first place, but not from wasting time.
Or, worse, talking unabashedly on fbook with their female friends about their wank material, like it's ok to do so in a public place just because the material isn't openly marketing itself as such. Or because they're privileged and it's ok just because they aren't men. Sexists.
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2011-10-30, 06:34 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
That's some seriously niche porn
More to the point: Seriously, Coidzor? Sounds like you've had a bad, and weird, experience, but then to make sweeping generalisations about how "they" "always" do that? Wow.
In any case, even if "they" did do that, that doesn't make them hypocrites or sexist () or anything like that. Procrastinating with lolcats when you're meant to be working is, at least psychologically, very, very different to conciously setting aside several hours to definitely not do any work.The Iron Avatarist Hall of Fame!
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2011-10-30, 06:40 AM (ISO 8601)
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Indeed, is so niche, I still don't think it's been properly rule 34'd. Oh vell. I ain't gonna look to confirm for ya, risk you'll have to take for yourself if you really wanna know one ways or the other.
What can I say? I'm an extremely bitter, misanthropic, horrible person. And I thought it was an amusing interlude. That's a double whammy of irresistibility!
...Actually, this reminds me. I haven't been able to make you smile in like a year now. ...This kinda makes me sad. I'm sorry I'm not funny anymore. I'm trying to get whatever it was I lost back, but I have no idea what it is that's changed.
It's kinda playing to the ballgame definition of sexist to believe it is ok for women to talk about their "habits" in public but not for men, because men are nasty and bad and vile. So I don't know why you're defending such a stance.
Still an annoying thing. Especially on the wall of the guy you just shot down.
And it doesn't really matter what's going on in their minds psychological like, it's still damned annoying to have to watch and be expected to not make an observation upon, especially when they make a chronic habit of doing so.
Because, honestly, I don't know what planet they're from, but friends generally make observations about one another's foibles. Comes from paying enough attention to them.
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2011-10-30, 06:46 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
I do agree that it's unfair that female sexuality is "empowering" and male sexuality is "creepy" (fun fact: this sort of thing is why "masculism" exists), but flinging about wild accusations at the female sex about their procrastination habits is a bit uncalled for. And it's not terribly funny either.
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2011-10-30, 06:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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2011-10-30, 04:38 PM (ISO 8601)
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It takes more than a poorly-done joke to make me want to stop talking to people, dude.
Here's some general relationship advice for all y'all in this thread, Letter to the Princess style. Everyone on the freaking planet says stupid things. We all have bad days. There are times when even the best person is mean, petty, ignorant, whatever negative attribute you can name. But unlike most primates, humans are actually wired to like as many other humans as possible (it's frightening to think that our war-torn world is actually idealistic compared to the social lives of chimpanzees or other great apes, but it's true). People are often willing to overlook the bad, to forgive what cannot be overlooked, and even to tolerate what cannot be forgiven. If we can swallow our pride and our doubt (gag-reflex suppression: it has many uses ), a simple apology and an honest attempt to reach out can repair bridges we think burnt to cinders. And a bit of time can help the wounds heal, and the mixed metaphors to settle back into separate layers.
In short, it might not be true that friendship can survive anything. But it can survive a hell of a lot.
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I'm sure someone out there needs to hear this. If you know someone who needs to hear this, let them hear it. Life's too damn short to think that your friend will hate you forever just because you said naughty things when you drunk-dialed them last night.
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2011-10-30, 06:57 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
Well, I just crossed a line that I never thought I would and I figured I would share it: I responded to my first personal ad. Six months ago I moved from a very large population area to a very small one, and as busy as I am and with few single women in my age range (mid-20s to early 30s) to meet around here and none that I've met who have been who I'm looking for, I just decided I had to give something else a try.
After a bad experience with eHarmony I decided I wouldn't do the internet thing anymore, but I just don't feel I have many other options here. So, I replied to someone who's at least only about a 2-hour drive away, which isn't bad for rural America. I'm very leary of replying to anything on Craigslist, it seems like at least half the posts are spammers or scammers and most of the other half are semi-literate at best, but the one I replied to was very well written and thoughtful, if a bit emo. I guess we'll see what happens.Currently playing: Jathal Darsha'an; Linie
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2011-10-30, 07:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Gah. One of my friends has a habit of going for the same girls I do, and losing. This is currently happening for the third or fourth time, and he's feeling a bit bitter about it. Is there anything I can do or say to ease the sting some?
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2011-10-30, 07:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
Apologize, and know when it might be best to back off. If you see that your buddy is interested in a girl, don't move in. If you've already started before he starts, and she's already shown interest, then apologize to him, but mention that it is too late, and that it isn't your fault if you didn't know.
I've been through that crap before...-Odentin
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2011-10-30, 07:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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Certainly in this case, and I think in previous cases as well, we both met the girl at the same time, and I simply sparked chemistry faster. Or at all. Much as I like the guy, he's not terribly socially ept - he's something of the stereotypical overweight geek.
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2011-10-30, 07:25 PM (ISO 8601)
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Tell him to stop being creepy and going after girls after you've already started going after them and mentioned this to him, as that's his party foul and not yours.
If he's not doing it after you develop an interest in them and start going after them, then I dunno. Whatever guy bonding ritual seems necessary, I suppose.
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2011-10-30, 07:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
In this case, it might be best to play wingman for him, try to help him get with a girl or two. Make a show of helping him out, so he feels a little less bitter.
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2011-10-30, 07:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
Watching Top Gun?
More seriously Heliomance, although I've never had quite the same problem as yours, I find it helpful to do something "friendship re-affirming" whenever one of my friends and I have an issue. It's helpful to do something you both enjoy, realize you both enjoy it, and then get back to being friends.
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2011-10-30, 07:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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2011-10-30, 09:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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2011-10-31, 07:28 AM (ISO 8601)
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From my observations of many, many polyamorous folks and their other observers, the issue isn't the gender equality (or lack thereof.) The issue is that polyamory itself is seen as polygamy, which is seen as only the religious extreme where they marry children.
On a related subject, I've noticed that an oft-overlooked part of the family to consider in discussions of polyamory is the children. When I was younger, I was best friends with a girl whose parents were poly. She was constantly upset and lashing out at said parents and their external partners. It's an interesting balancing act.
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2011-11-01, 05:08 AM (ISO 8601)
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2011-11-01, 05:12 AM (ISO 8601)
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So I'm guessing that in the time that has passed, when you'd ordinarily encounter this person has also come up and they've either avoided you or given you the cold shoulder?
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2011-11-02, 04:41 AM (ISO 8601)
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Tali avatar by the talented Thormag.
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2011-11-02, 10:01 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
Ah. Had something like that happen to me as well after the girl asked me out to frozen yogurt then canceled on that and ramped it up to a full dinner date this past summer.
I was advised to forget about her entirely and more or less chewed out at length for being bad for daring to feel the sexist sentiment of being put out by her behavior and creepy for wanting some way of confirming the situation.
Move on, delete her from your contacts, and go from there. If it's been over a week and she hasn't even tried contacting you, it's best to take it as a wash, since that's just the way life is as a roughly man-shaped object in people's eyes.
And women are taught that men all are powder kegs about to throw a temper tantrum, so avoiding confrontation is par for the course for how they're acculturated. Since there's no way for their rudeness to be called on without the person calling them on it having already lost by confirming that they're creepy and bad.
So, there doesn't even need to be anything actually wrong with you per se to get that kind of response.
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2011-11-03, 01:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice XX: One X Short of an Awesome Title
So, an interesting question, and please don't get too gory. I was talking to my GF the other night and she was just about to start her period (like, within the next 24 hours). I asked her if she was getting crampy or achy, and she said, action, no. She told me that for the last 5-6 months (we've been dating for 8-9?), she's had almost no PMS issues at all. This coming from a woman who used to have CRIPPLINGLY bad PMS symptoms that would sometimes leave her bedridden for a day each month at least.
We were trying to think of why this was, and the only thing we could think of was our very active sex life. We regularly commit to 4-6 sessions of adult fun time per week, and she is almost always satisfied (often times 2-4 times each).
Is it true? Have I cured her PMS with my awesomeness? Or is it meerly a coincidence? I'm curious if anyone else has experienced this? She's currently not on any hormonal birth control (she's fixed), if that matters.
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2011-11-03, 02:44 PM (ISO 8601)
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When did she get fixed? What else about her life may have changed (sometime between when you started dating and when she stopped having problems)? I'm sure you're wonderful, but I've never heard of Vitamin O being any good for alleviating menstruation-related issues.
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2011-11-03, 02:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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She got fixed...5ish years ago? Her youngest is around 5.5 years old, and I'm pretty sure she got fixed shortly thereafter. Can't think of any big lifestyle changes other than that. Maybe an increased activity level from all of the sex? That doesn't make too much sense, though, since she was a pretty active hiker and dancer before we met, so its not a huge increase in her activity level.
I dunno...Vitamin O is pretty effective at relieving headaches...why not cramps?
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2011-11-03, 04:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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Has her diet been the same? Nutrition has a huge influence on that sort of thing.
All I know is that I know someone else who had the same problem, and from what I could tell, getting involved in a sexual relationship did nothing for her.
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2011-11-03, 04:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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I've heard Treasure Type O can help lessen the severity of certain things, but I've never heard of it working on all of them or with complete efficacy. Mostly in the way it can relieve stress and relieving stress can help with a fair bit of the more psychosomatic parts of the process.
The timing also seems a bit suspect, since you had seemed to indicate that the pair of you had started having frequent liaisons from the get go, but that might be more my memory and reading comprehension tripping up over one another.
The most vague possibility seems like it might be the start of the start of menopause, but I don't recall enough about what that's like beyond that women who have had lifelong issues with it suddenly start to have less and less until they no longer have the thing that gave the issues in the first place.
This also has issues, at least, if I'm recalling her age-range correctly, but then I might be misremembering the other age range, or, more likely, both.
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2011-11-03, 04:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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Yea, I was also thinking about timing, but I've kinda justified that in my head with the fact that it might take a couple of cycles to really make much difference. Having a sex filled weekend isn't gonna make much difference, while reporting a quarter of record profits is quite another.
Or could it be just that she is simply happier? We have a great relationship. We've never had a fight, let alone even an arguement. Could it be that her cramps were caused by stress and/or boarderline depression, and since those factors have been nearly completely removed since we've been together?
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2011-11-03, 05:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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Vitamin O? Is that what people call intercourse these days?
Vasectomy scares me. As a concept.Viking/Paladin by Astrella
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2011-11-03, 05:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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Well, more accurately, it's what I think to be a funny name for orgasms.
While I'm not sure why you're scared of a vasectomy (seriously, the thing they snip has one function: making you fertile), they're coming out with a new treatment where they just plug it up with a polymer that can be removed with another injection, easy as pie. No scissors! Just needles.