Relationship Woes and Advice: The Thirteenth Woerier

[Superglucose]

I suppose... if yuo'll tell me what's up. It's not like I'll remember anyways.

[Rawhide]

Maybe it was an oversimplification, maybe it wasn't. But it looked like you could use a compliment, and I never give false compliments.

[Eadin]

Maybe it was an oversimplification, maybe it wasn't. But it looked like you could use a compliment, and I never give false compliments.

thanks

[Marillion]

I... you... Y'know, I wasn't actually expecting a continuation of the metaphor. Well played.

I aim to astound

That being said, try your best, sir. From the sound of things, she's officially trying to use you now, and that's just not a fun situation to be in, whether you know and accept said situation or not.

I know...but to me, it's just as awful to be without her as it is to have her be using me like that. I dunno.

Moot point anyway. After he told her that he didn't love her and probably never would, she let herself be un-dumped. So, I guess she's as delusional and desperate as I am?

[MountainKing]

Moot point anyway. After he told her that he didn't love her and probably never would, she let herself be un-dumped. So, I guess she's as delusional and desperate as I am?

Emphasis mine. My specific question now is, whobuhwha???!!! ....HOW DOES THAT WORK?!

Seriously, FemalesitP, answer this question rat meow. This makes absolutely no sense, not one whit of it, and I'm so very sick and tired of seeing it happen. PLEASE, for the love of... of whatever you happen to hold sacred, somebody explain how this works without powerful hallucinogens.

[Eadin]

explain what ?

[Umael]

isn't that a bit simple?
I mean, that would mean all the srtaight men in the world like me ?

Eadin, I'm a flaming-gay, misogynist hermit* on account of believing that all people are hypocritical, selflish, and weak-willed liars, and that women are the worst of the lot because of their looks (you can't trust a beautiful woman, and the better they look, the more you can't trust them), and I like you!

What chance does a straight man got?

*

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No, not really.

because I'm evil
and a bitch ...

You say those things like they were bad...

my ego does need some boosting, it's so tiny ....

To be fair, most people wouldn't notice your ego because they would be dazzled by your looks.

In the meantime, may I interest you in some of my patented Ego!(TM)* pills, guaranteed to inspire confidence, enhance self-esteem, and compliment your eyes.

* Side effects may include megalomania, grandiose speeches, promoting syphocantic behavior in spineless lackeys, and attracting the attention of mettlesome super-agents. Ego! may not be for everyone, consult your doctor before using Ego! as directed. If you are pregnant, nursing, clutching, hatching, nesting or spawning, you should not use Ego! unless you are planning on world-destruction instead of world-domination.

[Marillion]

Well, the woman in question frequently confuses sex for love, is madly "in love" with him, and seems to think that she can wear him down.

[Eadin]

Umael, can I have some of those pills?

And well, yeah.Those things happen. Don't know how to explain this (or maybe I don't get the question)

[Quincunx]

Or her desire for someone to buy her a place to live (or rent contribution paid in sex) outweighs the considerations of love.

[Marillion]

Or her desire for someone to buy her a place to live (or rent contribution paid in sex) outweighs the considerations of love.

No, that's me. She's been living with her mom since she left me.

[Quincunx]

And probably wants to get out! I've known women to marry just to get out. Still, if she has a guaranteed crash pad, then yes it becomes a matter of no sense of self independent of being in a relationship, and the pain of no sense of self being worse to endure than the pain of loving a contemptuous man, which pain she would've gotten from either of you.

[Marillion]

Seeing as he still lives with HIS mom, she actually doesn't have a guaranteed crash pad with him. And part of why she broke up with me was the no sense of self thing.

And I'm contemptuous?

[Umael]

Umael, can I have some of those pills?

In the interests of appearing properly concerned, I first have to ask if you are pregnant, nursing, clutching, hatching, nesting or spawning.

PLEASE, for the love of... of whatever you happen to hold sacred, somebody explain how this works without powerful hallucinogens.

*looks at Ego! pills*
*sigh*

Talk about lousy timing...

*puts Ego! pills away*

Seriously though, MK, it's not that hard.

She's afraid.

The need to be attached to someone, of confusing sex and love, of having next to no self-esteem or believe in self-worth has Marillion's ex doing things that will hurt her more in the long-run because they hurt less in the short-run. Much like Marillion (by his own admission), she probably recognizes the self-destructive behavior but cannot bring herself to refuse this man who uses her so. Marillion and her getting back together is just as bad for Marillion as staying with this man is for her.

"This decision hurts, but I'm going to do it anyway."

It's like getting your leg caught in a bear trap but not having the courage to gnaw it off (or, in Marillion's cause, being lured into the bear trap). It only seems worthwhile because she can't see any better option or refuses to admit that an option she does see is better.


@ Marillion - Just keep telling yourself, "This woman hurt me". And remember that she'll do it again unless she significantly changes her ways.

[Coidzor]

because I'm evil
and a bitch ...

So where's the signup sheet then?

I think around 5 people, but I doon't like people disliking me so for me that's a lot

Well, see, the thing about this life is, you're going to run into people who aren't going to like you. Only having about 5 people who you're on truly bad terms with before you're 21 isn't too shabby.

Well, it's not about someone in particular
Just some things that are happening around me and stuff...
It's confusing

Well, sexual harassment is bad regardless of whether it's a single individual or an entire group doing it piecemeal or in concert.




Eh. Just remember she's broken and a threat to herself and others, Marillion.

[Eadin]

@Umael : I am none of those...


@Coidzor: sexual harrasment?

[Coidzor]

@Coidzor: sexual harrasment?

Hm, must've misinterpreted then, sorry.

And unfortunately I have some bad news for you, Eadin. If those photos you posted of yourself are factual, you are, in fact. *gasp* Pretty.

It's hard news to take, I know.

[Umael]

@Umael : I am none of those...

Do you want to be?

*wags eyebrows*

EDIT: Sorry, folks, it was right there. I couldn't resist.

[Eadin]

Oh my...
I need to sit down for a moment, this is quite a shock

Do you want to be?

*wags eyebrows*

EDIT: Sorry, folks, it was right there. I couldn't resist.

...

Here's your sexual harrasment, Coidzor

[MountainKing]

~Stuff~

Well, that tears it, Umael. Starting now, every time I hear tell a female has done this ridiculous thing, I'm giving them a time-out. Starting now. If anyone needs me, I'll be over here, dying alone, because I'm so busy giving out time-outs to women who make ridiculous decisions.

*scribbles out a note, hands it to Marillion*

Here's the time-out for the female in question. In fact, you might want to do that. Write her a time-out, and carry it around, and next time you see her, put her in time-out.

Childish? Ooooooh dear me YES. Hilarious, and probably an extremely good way to start some kind of argument? Yeah, that too.

...But hey, it just might work. Women seem to universally hate being told they're wrong.

[Umael]

Oh my...
I need to sit down for a moment, this is quite a shock

...

Here's your sexual harrasment, Coidzor

Oh, that was a beautiful reaction.

Thank you, Eadin, I literally laughed until I had tears in my eyes.

(I guess it IS true. If I'm not causing getting into trouble, I don't know what to do with myself.)

((Seriously, you can always say "no" to those questions, Eadin.))

(((Also, I thought you said earlier that you weren't the type that got shocked. Or what that, you weren't the type to blush. I forget. EDIT - nevermind, you apparently were being facetious. Carry on.)))

[Coidzor]

Here's your sexual harrasment, Coidzor

Awww, I just get your hand-me-downs?

Oh, alright...

So, Umael, want some... coffee?

[Eadin]

Women seem to universally hate being told they're wrong.

That's just because we are always right

Oh, that was a beautiful reaction.

Thank you, Eadin, I literally laughed until I had tears in my eyes.

(I guess it IS true. If I'm not causing getting into trouble, I don't know what to do with myself.)

((Seriously, you can always say "no" to those questions, Eadin.))

(((Also, I thought you said earlier that you weren't the type that got shocked. Or what that, you weren't the type to blush. I forget.)))

I'm not the type to blush

[Quincunx]

Aside from that it's sentient beings that universally hate being told they're wrong, and not just women, MountainKing may actually have some great advice. And since it's not just women who might benefit from it, and because it will lessen the blow quite a bit if you hand one to yourself at the same time as you hand one to her, make one for yourself Marillion--just put Umael's advisory sentence on it instead. (Yeah, contemptuous. . .You'd be doing it because she'd earned it from you, he'd be doing it out of bloody-mindedness, but from the receiving angle it'll all look the same.)

[Coidzor]

I'm not the type to blush

Aww, but your cheeks are just made for it.

[Umael]

Well, that tears it, Umael. Starting now, every time I hear tell a female has done this ridiculous thing, I'm giving them a time-out.

*snip*

Childish? Ooooooh dear me YES. Hilarious, and probably an extremely good way to start some kind of argument? Yeah, that too.

Given my predisposition towards getting myself in trouble for the laughs, I have to approve of this method.

...But hey, it just might work. Women seem to universally hate being told they're wrong.

Hey, keep it up! I'll make a misogynist out of you yet!

Also, unlike men, women hate being told they're wrong because they actually are. Whereas men are just supposed to accept that they are wrong, even if they aren't.

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(No, people, I don't actually believe that... but I will laugh at the expression on your face if you think I do.)

[Eadin]

Sure...

So, Umael
My pills?

[Marillion]

You're all correct. Which is why I've been listening to this song on loop since I got home Thanks, everyone.

[Umael]

Sure...

So, Umael
My pills?

*hands Eadin a sample package*

Now remember, the first one's free...

[Eadin]

*hands Eadin a sample package*

Now remember, the first one's free...

What would be the cost of the next package?