Relationship Woes and Advice: A Sleepless Fortnight

[Superglucose]

Gratz to Keld!

[Maeglin_Dubh]

Keld wins an internet.

He's either a lucky man, or a great writer of fiction.

Either one is worth a win.

[Coidzor]

tl;dr. I'm assuming Keld got laid by triplets here, and enjoying the warm fuzzy feeling that gives my soul.

[Maeglin_Dubh]

tl;dr. I'm assuming Keld got laid by triplets here, and enjoying the warm fuzzy feeling that gives my soul.

Close enough.

[Superglucose]

tl;dr. I'm assuming Keld got laid by triplets here, and enjoying the warm fuzzy feeling that gives my soul.

Incest gives you a warm fuzzy feeling?

[Coidzor]

Incest gives you a warm fuzzy feeling?

Yes. Yes, that's exactly what about it that gives me a warm fuzzy feeling.

[rakkoon]

Go Keld!

Hmm, girlfriends going insane after you date them... I was with a girl once who begged me not to turn gay after her. It happened with her last two boyfriends and she was getting a bit depressed by that.

And I did meet my wife at a mentally challenged military camp...does that count?

[Coidzor]

And I did meet my wife at a mentally challenged military camp...does that count?

This statement boggles my mind.

[rakkoon]

Mmm, phrased it better, I have could. But it makes a great intro at parties!

It was a military camp. They had a group of mentally challenged people staying there for a holiday. Me and my (future) wife were part of the people responsible for that group.

[Rawhide]

Mmm, phrased it better, I have could. But it makes a great intro at parties!

It was a military camp. They had a group of mentally challenged people staying there for a holiday. Me and my (future) wife were part of the people responsible for that group.

I thought you phrased it perfectly. Well, I did until you said the (obviously incorrect) implication wasn't your intent.

[Coidzor]

Mmm, phrased it better, I have could. But it makes a great intro at parties!

It was a military camp. They had a group of mentally challenged people staying there for a holiday. Me and my (future) wife were part of the people responsible for that group.

I thought you phrased it perfectly. Well, I did until you said the (obviously incorrect) implication wasn't your intent.

I'm mostly confused as to how that sort of thing could/would/does happen.

[Superglucose]

I thought you phrased it perfectly. Well, I did until you said the (obviously incorrect) implication wasn't your intent.

I think you are now my favorite mod. Ever.

[rakkoon]

Well Coidzor,

The guests go to bed at 10pm, after that me and two girls went to an empty building elsewhere on the base with our sleeping bags. Me and the future Misses rakkoon held hands all night till 20 minutes before we had to wake the guests. Actually creeping back to the other barack unnoticed was fun.
Just lucky that other girl with us spoke a dialect of which I understood absolutely nothing so that us rakkoons got some quality time.
We kissed two weeks later,
moved in two years later,
married two years after that and have two puppies at the moment.

Rawhide...

[absolmorph]

I think you are now my favorite mod. Ever.

As well as mine.

On the topic of the thread...
I'm in a weird place with my girlfriend. We're happy together. We both like each other a lot. However, my last relationship ended badly and this has left me cautious (I screwed up royally and don't want to hurt a girl like that again). We've been dating for just about 3 months (it'll be three in a week). We're both in high school. None of these facts I've listed are a problem.
The problem is that she told me she thinks she might be in love with me. This scares me, partly because it's incredibly hard to control my own desire to say I love her (which pushed along the mistakes with the last one) and partly because I'm absolutely terrified that I'll hurt her feelings.
That fear is amplified by the fact that the only other guy she dated broke up with her, said he wanted to get back together with her, then broke up with her the next day (or soon after); this left her pretty hurt until I came along.
NOTE: If anyone remembers, the guy is the same one who got pissed at me for not telling him we were dating right after he had a short relationship with her best friend. Which she, to my knowledge, has never heard about. Yeah.

I gave her a fairly detailed explanation of why I'm cautious about saying I love her (which basically boils down to "I don't want to lie"), and she said she doesn't want me to "unless [I'm] serious", but I'm still a bit worried.

[Superglucose]

My advice is chill. Taking things cautiously is never a problem, and she sounds ok with it. Reaffirm, next time, that you definitely care for and about her and that you really enjoy being with her.

[Eadin]

I think you are now my favorite mod. Ever.

he's my favorite too
we should start a Rawhide-fanclub

And Abso: Take a deep breath
You'll know when it's real

[Pheehelm]

Three months is a tad early for L-bombing, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

If you don't mind my asking...can either of you say you've seen the other at their worst?

[Superglucose]

You'll know when it's real

Wendy's? Blech. I hate fast food

[Eadin]

Wendy's? Blech. I hate fast food

what does wendy's have to do with feeling being real?
Also, what's Wendy's?

[Tiger Duck]

Wendy's is a fast food place and "You'll know when it's real" is presumably their slogan.

[Superglucose]

Wendy's is an American fastfood chain with the slogan "You know when it's real."

[Eadin]

it doesn't sound very fast food-ish...
especially the slogan

[Superglucose]

*shrugs* I dunno, it's just what their slogan is.

[absolmorph]

My advice is chill. Taking things cautiously is never a problem, and she sounds ok with it. Reaffirm, next time, that you definitely care for and about her and that you really enjoy being with her.

That's essentially what I planned.

he's my favorite too
we should start a Rawhide-fanclub

And Abso: Take a deep breath
You'll know when it's real

A Rawhide fanclub would be awesome.

I'm doing my best to remain calm about it, but GAAAAAH I'm not used to worrying about stuff >.<

Three months is a tad early for L-bombing, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

If you don't mind my asking...can either of you say you've seen the other at their worst?

She hasn't seen me at my worst (I work really hard to keep my temper under control). I don't know if I've seen her at hers; I don't think so, at least.

Thanks for helping me stay calm, guys ^.^

[Superglucose]

I'm going to jump in and say that I do tend to love people really quick. And I don't mean say "I love you" before I mean it, but honestly find that I love pretty much anyone I meet. It's a default reaction, as it were. Most don't get it and it is quite dangerous, but it's how I was raised.

That being said, I have only truly felt loved twice in my life. There... is no describing it. I can't even say that you'll know for sure. I didn't, at least not at first because both times I was too overwhelmed with the bull going on in my life and the crap that was being dumped on my plate to recognize how *there* someone was being for me.

[Malfunctioned]

I'll just drop in to say that the only time I knew that I was in love, and that it was reciprocated, was with T a short period of time after I cheated on her after three months. I think it was the fact that me being physically close to someone else and not feeling that same kind of connection that I did with her kind of made me realise. Of course that feeling was definitely not the only element, she was also the first person that I told about my depression and was the first person, and for a long time the only person, that I could actually explain the reasons behind me being messed-up.

Of course the event that lead to me actually discovering my true feelings also lead to the eventual break-up of the relationship a year later. But all I can say is that it was good whilst it lasted.

[Pyrian]

it doesn't sound very fast food-ish...
especially the slogan

Yeah. It's an advertising conceit much more than any sort of practical reality.

And I don't mean say "I love you" before I mean it, but honestly find that I love pretty much anyone I meet.

I'm having an Up flashback, here. "I just met you and I love you!"

[Superglucose]

I'm having an Up flashback, here. "I just met you and I love you!"

Yes, my emotional array is approximately that of a golden retriever

The worst part is, you meant it as a joke but most of the fools out there take it as me being needy or clingy. I'm sorry I give a damn about you as a human being. Oh wait, no I'm not! The fastest way into my doghouse, as it were, is to reject the fact that I care for you as something that it's not. Yes, I'd like to see you happy ('you' being a general term for everyone). If you've got a problem with that, you're not worth my time. Bye. Later. I don't need anyone who's going to actively work against any attempt I make to make their lives a bit easier and a bit more enjoyable.

[Pyrian]

Superglucose, you're working inside a world chock-full of marketers, advertisers, and proselytizers of many stripes who make their entire living pretending to be interested in the well-being of their marks. The very first reaction of virtually anybody to unsolicited help is highly likely to be extreme suspicion, and that's even more true if they don't see your angle, your benefit, because they're just going to assume there still is one and that you need to hide it for some reason.

[Eadin]

Maybe you just feel very strongly about them