LGBTAI+ #59: Will You Take This Woman To Be Your Galpal?

[Mystic Muse]

Well, I just sent an email to my siblings.

The worst part is done. They'll accept me, or they won't, and whatever they decide is on them.

[The Extinguisher]

Thanks for the tips! Not to worry, im willing and perfectly capable of severing ties if things go south.

I was actually going to send this over an email, but i kept not doing it and kinda got surprised by the visit.

Ill let everyone know how it goes!

[Astrella]

Hoping on positive responses for both of you!

[Comrade]

Hoping on positive responses for both of you!

Me as well.

[137beth]

Hoping on positive responses for both of you!

Yep, me too.

[Mystic Muse]

Three out of four have responded, all positive so far. Last one either doesn't know yet, orvis taking jis time, both of which are probably positive.

[AuthorGirl]

Three out of four have responded, all positive so far. Last one either doesn't know yet, orvis taking jis time, both of which are probably positive.

Awesome! Hoping for the best with the fourth one too

[Jaros]

It's weird coming back to the forums after a couple of years with a new gender but the same username I used when I still thought I was a cis guy...

Anyway, hi.

[Grytorm]

A little vaguely, but yes, I definitely recognize your username.

That's nice, I posted here again for reasons. I think quite a while ago I was pretty certain of my real gender identity but between doing next to no experimenting with dressing up or anything and time I feel less certain. I still feel dysphoria sometimes I think, especially when I am thinking about that sort of stuff already and when I don't get around to shaving my face for a while. I wanted to post here, maybe to reconnect or something, I don't know.

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And part of the reason I am here is about two months ago I attempted suicide. I ran my car into a tree. I was really lucky that my only major injury was a broken leg. Just its connected to this because I guess emotions or something.

I posted to ask if anyone remembered me when I was down about something which I can't remember.

[Mith]

That's nice, I posted here again for reasons. I think quite a while ago I was pretty certain of my real gender identity but between doing next to no experimenting with dressing up or anything and time I feel less certain. I still feel dysphoria sometimes I think, especially when I am thinking about that sort of stuff already and when I don't get around to shaving my face for a while. I wanted to post here, maybe to reconnect or something, I don't know.

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And part of the reason I am here is about two months ago I attempted suicide. I ran my car into a tree. I was really lucky that my only major injury was a broken leg. Just its connected to this because I guess emotions or something.

I posted to ask if anyone remembered me when I was down about something which I can't remember.

From what I remember about the last time you were posting, you were not really down about anything specific, and more isolating yourself from others. You may have provided more details, but I cannot recall any without scrolling back through the threads.

[The Extinguisher]

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh

it went reasonably well. it was a supportive "as long as your happy" kinda deal. they didnt ask any questions really but im going to see them again before they leave town so im guessing things will come up then.
now im going to eat a lot of ice cream and watch cartoons

[Comrade]

That's great!

[Eldest]

That's amazing, I'm happy for you!

[Grytorm]

From what I remember about the last time you were posting, you were not really down about anything specific, and more isolating yourself from others. You may have provided more details, but I cannot recall any without scrolling back through the threads.

Oh yeah, I tend to do that. Lately, sort of. I am not in a good position to really reach out to anyone, I don't have a car and public transportation is sort of available but difficult to get to. And I have tried to reach out some. I was in a therapy group for the trigger warning above, and I tried to keep in contact with a few people from it. But one of them hasn't gotten back in a while (I hope she is okay) and another one I went with a very safe suggestion for initial outside communication, Steam, and it didn't really work out.

[CWater]

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh

it went reasonably well. it was a supportive "as long as your happy" kinda deal. they didnt ask any questions really but im going to see them again before they leave town so im guessing things will come up then.
now im going to eat a lot of ice cream and watch cartoons

Yay! I'm happy for you!

[Mystic Muse]

Family all responded. No outright negative replies. Going to be setting up first appointment with a counselor soon to get on the road to hormones.

Extended family is likely to find out in like half a year.

[The Succubus]

Well, if a whole bunch of other old folks are returning....

Hi y'all. It's been a while. Hard to believe my first post here was 10 years ago this month. Can't believe how much I've changed since then.

[CWater]

Family all responded. No outright negative replies. Going to be setting up first appointment with a counselor soon to get on the road to hormones.

Extended family is likely to find out in like half a year.

Congrats on the good start! I hope it continues to go well!

[Florian]

Haha, something I saw today made me at first very perplex, then I had to laugh: That was the first time I saw a job offer that actually included to "/D" option beyond the usual "M/F" (Male, Female), which is the code for "Non-Binary".

[137beth]

I now have my first appointment for laser hair removal for my face

[Domino Quartz]

I feel like I just recently leveled up (for lack of a better term) regarding my level of comfort with my sexuality.

Another thing: I recently remembered about how I'd had instances of same-sex attraction in the past before I actually realised I was attracted to men - I think I thought "Well, I'm attracted to women so I must be heterosexual." The thing that prompted me to realise that was this (the "Ridiculously Photogenic Guy" meme). I remember thinking "Wow, that guy is really handsome" and then "Oh no no no what is wrong with me?" Has anyone else had a similar experience?

[CWater]

A book about enby people was recently published in Finland (probably the first of its kind). Just loaned it to my dad with a comment "This is an important topic for me. We'll talk about it later". :S

Not really expecting him to react badly per se. I'm just afraid he won't understand.

[137beth]

A book about enby people was recently published in Finland (probably the first of its kind). Just loaned it to my dad with a comment "This is an important topic for me. We'll talk about it later". :S

Not really expecting him to react badly per se. I'm just afraid he won't understand.

What's the book called (and is it available in English)?

[JusticeZero]

.. I thought "Well, I'm attracted to women so I must be heterosexual." The thing that prompted me to realise that was this (the "Ridiculously Photogenic Guy" meme). I remember thinking "Wow, that guy is really handsome" and then "Oh no no no what is wrong with me?" Has anyone else had a similar experience?

Well, not with attraction, though I spent a lot of time thinking I was bit defective. I never really get outside of this mode, which mostly just left me confused about what everyone else was going on about.
Would being confused and guilty for not being forced to do the extra unpleasant chores my grandmother demanded of girls count? Because I have a huge pile of things like that stretching back to 18 months of age.

[Ravens_cry]

I found myself mooning over a picture of Sir Patrick Stewart when I had a, ahem, physical reaction. "Well, guess I'm bisexual. " I currently have a loving, if long-distance 10 months of the year, boyfriend.

[Heliomance]

Tomorrow is my last day at my current job. I then have three weeks to find a flat and move across the country to start my new job. In that time I have three larps to attend.

[The Succubus]

You could save time by LARPing at your new job or LARPing while inspecting potential flats?

[Bastian Weaver]

Tomorrow is my last day at my current job. I then have three weeks to find a flat and move across the country to start my new job. In that time I have three larps to attend.

Judging by my experience, I'd say this is perfectly normal for a real LARP person. They used to sing a song... let me try and translate...

"I've been called by your boss, Lord Randall my son,
I've been called by your boss, my handsome young man”
“Oh, to hell with my boss, mother, make my bed soon,
For I’m weary wi’ LARPing, and fain wald lie down.”

“O I fear ye are fired, Lord Randall my son!
O I fear ye are fired, my handsome young man!”
“O yes, I am fired: mother, make my bed soon,
For I’m weary wi' LARPing, and I fain wald lie down.”

[CWater]

What's the book called (and is it available in English)?

"Näkymätön sukupuoli - Ei-binäärisiä ihmisiä", meaning "The Invisible Gender - Non-binary people". I'm afraid it's probably not been translated, the publisher is small. I hope it would be though, there's not exactly too much available on this topic. :P

It's not a study or a "text book" though, but a collection of enby people sharing their thoughts and life stories and what being non-binary means to them. I think it's actually a pretty good approach to the topic, considering there's not exactly a lot of research or statistical data to draw from yet.

[Sobol]

Celebrated Bisexuality Day by coming out to a friend; he was totally OK with it.