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2012-03-28, 05:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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I'm sure you'll meet lotsa wonderful new people. For staying in contact, maybe a regular skype call for example? At least for me scheduling things makes it far easier to keep up with them.
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2012-03-28, 08:07 AM (ISO 8601)
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What it means to be an ally.
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2012-03-28, 08:44 AM (ISO 8601)
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Hmmmm.
It really seems like that post is over-complicating it, at least as far as I'm concerned. I just like the people in this thread and I like their idea that love should be a truly universal quality, regardless of gender/sex or anything else.
That's it.
I don't know whether such sentiments are enough to get me formally qualified as an ally, or anything like that.
I just like hanging around here. *shrugs & hugs*
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2012-03-28, 08:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is
RE: My allyness.
I like people in general. People are people are people. Everyone should be equal.
I don't understand people in general. I listen to everyone and like learning about how people think and such.
Therefore, I pop my nose in, listen, and do my bit in sharing important points when it comes to fight for justice.
Yeah...I have a very strong sense of justice and vengeance too. So that comes in as well - it's not right to discriminate, so I fight to stop it."I'm just going on motive and opportunity here and the fact that if the earth got swallowed by a black hole, I'd look suspiciously in your direction first."
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2012-03-28, 09:12 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-03-28, 09:51 AM (ISO 8601)
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Interesting post, yes.
Complicating the issue? I don't know. It's definitely something I need to think about more. There are times I feel I should not be considered part of the LGBT+ community, because the only thing that separates me form heterosexuality is my skewed libido.
(When I think about it," community" is a strange word to use here. Gays are not lesbians are not bisexuals are not transsexuals are not etc. There's no real subculture: you could be homosexual/transgender/bi/other, and be technically part of the "community", without ever coming in contact with another member or learning about their existence. The sexuality and identity of everyone is unique and can't neatly fit in a box. The only thing all members have in common is that they aren't both cisgender and straight, and our personal characteristics rarely match our neighbour's (although I'm also sure there also are variable brands of cisgender-ness or heterosexuality). Hell, as we know, "we" don't even all have the same goals, and sometimes actively fight against each other. Plus, like every other community, we're full of morons and jackasses, but it's true for all human groups.
... I'm not the right person for a debate on communities, anyway. I don't like being grouped with people who share one small characteristic of mine just because we share it, and being expected to get along with everyone. I'm not a very social or extroverted person, and my standards for deciding whether I should integrate a group are extremely obscure.)
Should that guideline apply only to allies (cis straight people)? Are members of the community free to decide where are the limits, even if they are not willing to respect the rights of the others?
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2012-03-28, 10:44 AM (ISO 8601)
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Yep, that's me.
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2012-03-28, 11:08 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-03-28, 11:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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I don't think that's necessarily fair. I'd embrace as an ally anyone who wasn't homophobic and factored in lgbt welfare in their voting habits. Not everyone has to be active to be an ally, it's the quiet support, acceptance, and integration that I really see as the goal.
Also, calling out "Die Cis Scum" is something I see as almost a duty. I don't know how it started, but every time I've seen it brought up it's confrontational to the point of driving away potential supporters and completely unhelpful to the dialogue. So .
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2012-03-28, 11:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-03-28, 12:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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An article on girls being made to live as boys until majority: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-15262680
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2012-03-28, 02:09 PM (ISO 8601)
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Right, because calling someone on saying something for it being stupid and pigheaded is "distracting" but the stupid and pigheaded and ultimately pointlessly provocative statement, that's meaningful dialogue.
What a load of hooey. Oh, you're allowed to be uncomfortable, but don't you dare open your mouth or you're a horrible person who is betraying trans* individuals and the movement in general.
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2012-03-28, 02:41 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-03-28, 02:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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I ain't even getting into that directly. I'm just saying that the article that Asta Kask linked to which he thought was interesting appears to me to be an argument saying to sit down and shut up or just leave and stop supporting the movement in general if you think something stupid or wrong is being done because actually raising your voice in protest of what an actual member of the group is no-bad-wrong betrayal.
Now I admit, after reading through the article several times, this might be an unintended consequence of my understanding of what being a conscientious objector means and the general usage and connotations of using it in writing and general parlance, but even taking that into account, it still seems far too close to coming out and saying it outright for me to feel comfortable with it.
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2012-03-28, 03:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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Glad it interested you!
The woman who threatened to beat her husband severely and daily if she was forced to marry shocks and saddens me. I have no doubt she would do exactly what she said, even if her husband was as forced into the union as she was and respected her. I'm not blaming her for thinking that, but it still wouldn't justify the potential violence, and her threat sounds very credible. I really hope she will be free to choose her husband or stay celibate, and gain some peace of mind.
I didn't want to talk about "die cis scum" again, but I feel forced to see a parallel here... no, there is no instutionalized physical bullying of men, but men could very well suffer from misdirected hate and resent.Originally Posted by on Dwarf Fortress succession gamesOriginally Posted by Dwarf Fortress 0.40.01 bugs
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2012-03-28, 03:13 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-03-28, 03:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Well to me at least that article reads as if there is only one way to show support and if you do it any other way your support is not welcome.
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2012-03-28, 03:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-03-28, 03:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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Hm hm, very much. :s
Well; it's iffy, because there is always a danger that the supporters do "take over" the movement, and this can be dangerous, no matter how benign their intentions. The main thing to watch out for is that the voice of the minority themselves can never be silenced cause of it.
Look at the case of the German trans girl Alex for example; I'm sure all the people involved have her well-being in mind, but she's not even given a voice. In the end, isn't the best way to know what people feel and want to ask them?
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2012-03-28, 03:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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You also have to remember that, for instance, trans people are the only ones who know what it is to be trans. They have relevant knowledge that cis people don't. They are really the only ones who know enough to set goals. Now, once the goals are set, that's another matter.
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2012-03-28, 03:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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I didn't read it that way. I read the article on misogyny linked to in it, which makes a related point and does it a bit more clearly, I think. I think the idea is, that if you're an ally rather than a member of the "oppressed" or "minority" group, that you just have to make a bit of an effort to be aware of your privilege. If you're, say, white, and trying to be an ally in the struggle against racism, don't make it all about you. Make an effort to be a bit more patient and listen before you speak. Not because it's a "rule", and you don't count as an ally if you don't, but because it's the right thing to do: when you help someone, you don't want to push in over them and end up being part of the problem in an "I, Straight Person, am going to come to solve your weird queer problems since you can't do it yourself since you're all so gay and stuff." Not that anyone actually says that, I hope! That's an extreme. But if you're an ally, of course you can act, and of course you can speak, and if someone's saying something ridiculous you can call them out, but you should try to do it carefully and make sure you're keeping your own garden clean.
Okay, ARGH I HIT BACK BY MISTAKE okay everything's fine...
Okay, so when I read your post first I was like "What? (Cis) girls being made to live as boys? That's crazy!" (I didn't think in words, I mean, but that was the gist of it.) Then I was like "oh, trans people are made live as the wrong gender all the time, that must be it. ". But no, apparently it is cis girls. Weird. I imagine this thought process says a lot about my ingrained assumptions and all that, but there ye go.
So, how f**ked up is that? Here's to a world where every baby boy is valued just for being a tiny miraculous bundle of new human life and not because it has the requisite genitalia to be more useful in a messed up society. And that's not just Afghanistan that's messed up in that way. We're looking at you, China. (Also, varying degrees of this and related problems almost everywhere, but hey, baby steps.)
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Is there really? I see people all paranoid about this all the time, but I've never heard of any example where this actually happened that's pointed at to justify and legitimize this fear that has to have steps taken in order to prevent against.
Especially because it seems mostly invoked to justify alienation of allies and potential allies as actually desirable because it wouldn't do to have allies become too comfortable, in an apparent act of missing the point in that it's not the allies that one wants to prevent from thinking one can be ignored, but rather the established order of the day that is being worked against.
...The problem there is that apparently Germany has never actually heard of trans people, not that supporters of trans people have taken over the movement.
If that's what the article is trying to communicate then it fails abysmally.
Well, there's another problem, no? Is it really "making it all about you" to object to the movement sloganizing hate speech against the ethnic group you belong to? Or is it providing a catalyst to potentially cause people to wake up and remember not to be consumed by hate?
Indeed, so why bring it up? It only serves to distract and detract from the good point you go on to make.
I don't know the full details beyond what spilled over here, so I don't know how carefully the initial criticism was handled and whether that would have helped anything or if the people who wanted to flock to it as a rallying cry were spoiling for some confrontation anyway so even the best worded objection would have gotten their dander up, but, yes, some amount of care should be taken by everyone, especially in things that can provoke knee-jerk defensive reactions.
I view the initial reason for that post much like if, say, in the writer's example of their ableist epithets towards the wait-staff, they had been called on it and instead of realizing what they were doing they chose to explode in self-righteous indignation at how dare someone else call them on something so thoughtless when clearly they were angry and not thinking and that they have no right to criticize at all. and so on and so forth.
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2012-03-28, 03:50 PM (ISO 8601)
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It's no justification for treating people who want to help you like dirt. The writer wants leniency for when she messes up in frustration, but seems to not want to grant others the same clemency. People are but flesh and blood, and they mess up. Just because someone drops the ball or isn't aware of your own personal super special snowflake hangup is no reason to throw toys out of the pram. And objecting to someone saying "Die cis scum" is hardly irrational or 'backstabbing'. I imagine "Die trans scum" wouldn't exactly go down like hugs and puppies.
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2012-03-28, 03:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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I wonder what Chinese parents would think if they had to give up a daughter so they could have a son, and then their son is a trans girl. :x
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The stupid, unfunny part of my brain is going "here's karma for you! Hurr durr".
The rest says that it must be more common that we think, given the high population and grossly skewed boy/girl ratio.
@KenderWizard: it's not exactly an unusual or wrong train of thought, either.
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I... Should abstain from commenting on the political/traditional/etc. commenting right now. I'm pretty upset about how my sister still hasn't responded yet (she did say something about not being upset, but also not wanting to talk). :/
I'm pretty sure what's bothering her is a perfectly reasonable cause to be angry, but that challenge still hurt... And I can't stand it when she's down.
I like to make a lot of my characters lean and agile (most of them are capable of fighting in some way), so I'm not too fond of the imposed MANly builds either... Usually female characters work out well enough (it's never that hard to make a tough girl, especially if there are goth/punk accessories and the like >:3), but it can be really tricky just to make an androgynous guy. >.<
I am making an absurdly-muscular superhuman in SC5 at the moment, but I think that was inspired by memories of Berserk.
*Cough* Anyway, I think it'd be neat to have games that let you edit elements of your character's mesh in pretty much whatever way you want to without all of that bland dimorphism getting in the way.
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Thanks, I needed that. Not including the run-on plot sentence, there were so many errors, my grammar was atrocious, using wrong words, improper placement of an apostrophe. *shudders*
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Skirt hasn't arrived yet though. >.>
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