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2017-05-29, 11:26 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
I'm not sure how to help you here buddy... but I'm thinking you need to find a way to change your perspective of the world around you. If you perceive yourself in a certain way, you will create a "self fulfilling prophecy"
I actually have an anecdote that is kind-of related:
Years ago, I went out for lunch with a co-worker/friend who was physically disabled, and he was struggling with low self-esteem. He kept thinking that people looked down on him because of his disability. Anyway, during lunch, the waiter gave us crappy and rude service. My friend's immediate response was "We got bad service because of the way I look". My immediate response was "We god bad service because that guy is a jerk". I then watched the waiter serve other people and confirmed that he was an ass to everyone. After that I often challenged my friend's comments of "everyone looks down on me", with a response of "Is that really what's happening, or are you making assumptions"
Change your mindset from "what's wrong with me", to "what's wrong with them", and your self esteem might just improve. Someone might snap at you in a rude way because they are sleep deprived. Someone might be all cranky because they are having trouble dealing with a failing marriage at home. Maybe the waiters are laughing about something that isn't about you at all. You never know the other person's story...
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2017-05-29, 12:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Might be a little bother for the kitchen, inasmuch as it means they have to actually read the order ticket and not just stop at 'oh, that's a two-egg pancake breakfast' and make it the standard way. But as far as that goes, if your computerized order input system has a means of entering changes like that, I feel the kitchen is obligated to check each ticket for changes. Which they probably should be doing anyways, because most of the tickets I've seen generated by that kind of system use the same notes for 'No Egg, extra hashbrown' as they would for the more 'normal' customizations like 'Scrambled eggs with cheese, sausage patty' instead of 'Fried egg, over easy, bacon.'
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2017-05-29, 01:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-05-29, 02:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Probably. What does it matter? Even good friends have cracked jokes at my expense before.
I'm going to venture the guess that it's a combination of the spotlight effect and paranoid anxiety.
Objective fact.
I will say this, though: If I do a multi-day whiskey marinade for my steak, I gotta cook that dang thing all the way through. If not, we're not driving after dinner and my wife is probably gonna get blitzed off of the alcohol in the meat. I still aim for medium to medium-rare, though, by using a low heat to cook off the alcohol but not hot enough to cook the meat.
I do that with my own beef. It's the only time I'll cook it beyond Pittsburgh or rare, really.
It's still a culinary crime. Not the aging (if it's not smelling kinda funny, I'll still leave it bloody), the overcooking it. The good news is, old meat is a bit more tender so the overcooking it until it's gray leaves it still edible.My latest homebrew: Majokko base class and Spellcaster Dilettante feats for D&D 3.5 and Races as Classes for PTU.
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2017-05-30, 12:03 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Incidentally, I was randomly browsing the web and I saw this video yesterday, oddly relevant.
I don't think that was rude, maybe he was just joking around with his friends, I bet he never wanted to embarrass.Shamash! The true sun god!
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2017-05-30, 09:35 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
The funny thing about this is. you claim to go to the same place, order from the same person.
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2017-05-31, 01:17 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
People judge others constantly. The problem is they forget about it pretty quickly, so it does not really matter in the long run.
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2017-05-31, 06:19 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-05-31, 06:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-05-31, 06:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Eh. I have to eat gluten-free for medical reasons and have many intolerances/allergies, and I'm willing to bet that people are going to judge me for following a trendy diet with no basis in medical science and/or claiming fake allergies but whatever. If the waiter is going to do something to my face I'll complain to the manager. If the waiter can keep it to themselves, great, I just want my food. I don't pay you for your opinion, I pay a tip to get a fake smile and food brought to my lazy butt.
I'm honestly less worried about the judging and more curious how stringently allergy protocols are followed, since I've had bad reactions to a restaurant that claimed to be gluten-free but probably isn't.For all of your completely and utterly honest needs. Zaydos made, Tiefling approved.
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2017-05-31, 06:38 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
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2017-05-31, 06:45 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Oh I agree there. The idea of tipping is that it encourages good service, but I don't think it works that way. Especially since bad servers will just blame the customer if they get bad tips, and some people really are that rude to not tip regardless of service. And honestly, some of the best service I have ever gotten was in Japan where there is no tipping culture.
But I am not going to stiff someone doing their job when I know they can't survive on that wage. I will if you mess up a lot (and I don't mean getting an order wrong, that just plain happens. I mean so bad that I have to go up and FIND YOU to get a refill on water when it is hot.)For all of your completely and utterly honest needs. Zaydos made, Tiefling approved.
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2017-05-31, 07:13 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
I only tip if the service was really good. Which is more often than it may seem.
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2017-05-31, 07:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
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2017-05-31, 07:38 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
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2017-05-31, 07:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
They do, but it is EXTREMELY below minimum wage, and varies from area to area. The idea is that a good waiter will make it up in tips. There are reasons it is often considered rude to not tip waiters if they didn't mess anything up. Those reasons are the fact that waiters do in fact need to pay rent and such.
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2017-05-31, 07:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-05-31, 08:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
From what I understand, it is relatively common for waiters to earn a net wage of around $0 from a shift in the US. They do get a wage, but it's entirely wiped out by tax, and other deductions. Their take-home income thus comes entirely from tips.
That this is the case across much of the service industry goes some way to explain why tipping is more prevalent and at a higher rate than is the norm in, say, Europe. It's not a bonus, it's the only money they get.
Yeah, it's pretty bogus.GITP Blood Bowl Manager Cup
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2017-05-31, 08:40 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Anecdotally, when I was visiting Atlanta, Georgia, I went to a restaurant there. We were being served by a waitress in training, and, I'll cut out how we got on to the topic in the first place, but, long story short, while in training there, they were getting paid a near-living wage (or, at least, that's what it sounded like, I don't actually know the cost of living there). The thing is, her trainer, was only getting paid something like... two dollars an hour? It was ridiculous, that the people in training should get something like four times as much as someone in a full position.
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2017-05-31, 08:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
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2017-05-31, 09:09 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
There was a bit of a scandal here a couple of years ago when it transpired some restaurants (specifically, one restaurant group, although I think others were also doing it) were adding a service charge to the bill in lieu of tips - in itself not unusual - but not distributing that money to the staff. That that's the case has been a long-held suspicioin generally when it comes to service charges, so some patrons (especially of an older generation) would sometimes confirm with their waiter that they would actually get the money in question if it was added to the bill rather than left in cash on the table. In this instance, the management were also instructing staff to lie when patrons asked, and tell them they were receiving the money even though they weren't.
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2017-05-31, 09:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Well, last I heard, servers got $2.13/hr, but if a server doesn't get the federal minimum wage even after tips, then the restaurant must make up the rest. So they always make the minimum wage, at least (my feelings on the minimum wage is a story for another day, likely another forum altogether). Still, not tipping makes you look like an ass. I've tipped only a few cents before, when I got the worst service I've ever had in my life; I feel like that said, "I do tip, just not you."
And lunatic fringe linked to the financial issues already. That'll learn me to read links before replying.Last edited by Peelee; 2017-05-31 at 09:19 PM.
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2017-05-31, 09:37 PM (ISO 8601)
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“Evil is evil. Lesser, greater, middling, it's all the same. Proportions are negotiated, boundaries blurred. I'm not a pious hermit, I haven't done only good in my life. But if I'm to choose between one evil and another, then I prefer not to choose at all.”
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2017-05-31, 09:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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2017-05-31, 10:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Actually, tips are taxable. I think if you make more then 10,000 a year in cash, you have to report it to the IRS.
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2017-05-31, 10:07 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
So.... from what I understand, tipping expectations are the same across the USA. In numerous states a server will get $2.13 an hour plus tips, yet in Washington and California they get $10.00 to $11.00 per hour plus tip.
That difference is MASSIVE. Is there a big difference in the cost of living as well? Is it cheaper to pay for food and rent in Tennessee? Or are servers just royally screwed there?
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2017-05-31, 10:35 PM (ISO 8601)
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“Evil is evil. Lesser, greater, middling, it's all the same. Proportions are negotiated, boundaries blurred. I'm not a pious hermit, I haven't done only good in my life. But if I'm to choose between one evil and another, then I prefer not to choose at all.”
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2017-05-31, 10:45 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
Minimum wage in AZ is 10 bucks as well. Servers who make tips generally make 7 bucks. That seems fairly standard from what I've seen/worked.
To the other question....partly yes. Cost of living in places like Seattle and LA are way way higher than anywhere in Tenn. The other part is, as noted, political thus verboten.
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2017-05-31, 11:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
I don't think you understand correctly, being as taxes and other similar deductions are a percentage of the paycheck. If the wage part of the paycheck is wiped out by taxes, it's because they made a sufficient amount in tips to do so.
I'm also quite certain that if the waiter doesn't make up the difference in income by tips, the restaurant is obligated to pay them at least minimum wage. That's how the law works. That's why I'm not moved by pleas to tip out of consideration for the waiter's financial straits; they're still guaranteed minimum wage even if nobody tips them. Bad service does not deserve a tip, period. Good service does.
Eh. Waiters aren't the only ones who make the restaurant work. So far as worker exploitation goes, that's a pretty mild offense.
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2017-06-01, 03:00 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Do waiters judge what kinds of food you order?
It may be the law, but it doesn't mean it's followed. My wife was a waitress for quite a few years, and there were plenty of weeks, and even months where her take home was significantly below minimum wage, and she never got a bump up from the restaurant to put her at the actual minimum wage. And before you say "You should have done something", we tried. We contacted the BBB about them, and the MD senator, and even our local county rep, and none of them did a damn thing about it. The best we got was a "We'll look into it", and that was it.