LGBTAitP - Part 22: The Best There Is

[Arachu]

Oh noes, *buckets of hugs*.

When I'm having a dysphoric panic attack I usually go take a shower if I can; the water helps me calm down.

*Hugs for Arachu*

*More hugs* The shower actually did help.

I like to shower to when dyspho~ maybe for another reason :B
*hugs choochoo*

~ ♅

*Hugs*

You take a needle.
Then stick them with the pointy end. (I've been rereading Game of Thrones lately)

Also *hugs*.
When I feel dysphoric (in the general sense), it usually helps me to verbalize as much as I can - best to another person, but I also talkwrite a lot to blank paper. I start with stating the exact bodily sensations, feelings, tinglings and then explore them from there.
Of course, that isn't exactly the easiest thing to do when feeling unhappy.

I tried doing that for a while, but... Well, the constant excrement-metaphors aren't exactly what I'd like to talk about around here. >.>

I can say, though... It really is no wonder I was so terrified during early puberty. The doctors I was able to go to haven't found anything (neither did the handful of body scans I've had, for that matter), but in all honesty it feels so weird I'm almost surprised they didn't.

Aw, please don't. I didn't even think I would react the way I did. Usually I'm much better at talking/thinking about it. And besides, I hardly think I could have stumbled upon it a better place than here - a safe place to get the bad feelings off my chest and you guys really did a great job of making me feel better about it.

*More hugs*

Just saw this, which was all heartwarming and lovely and such.

But...

Then I realised that reading about a traditional wedding between straight, cis people wouldn't affect me in the slightest. That none of that warm fuzzy feeling, none of the 'awwww, that's so sweet' would have come up. That I would in fact have been terribly bored by the whole thing and closed the tab within seconds. Even a non-traditional wedding with xkcd, dogs and such wouldn't have made me anywhere near as happy if it were between straight cis people. And that's a bit worrying, because what makes their love for each other less heartwarming, less sweet and adorable and all other such things? And now that I'm typing this, I've realised that the squee-inducing picture Astrella linked recently is the same; had it involved a straight couple it just wouldn't have interested me that much.

I'm not sure if I'm going anywhere with this, but it distresses me somewhat.

*Hugs* I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Non-heteronormative marriages... Well, they're a sign that times are changing. They imply hope (if that makes any sense - wait, no, even if it didn't ).

~Bianca

[Kindablue]

Just saw this, which was all heartwarming and lovely and such.

But...

Then I realised that reading about a traditional wedding between straight, cis people wouldn't affect me in the slightest. That none of that warm fuzzy feeling, none of the 'awwww, that's so sweet' would have come up. That I would in fact have been terribly bored by the whole thing and closed the tab within seconds. Even a non-traditional wedding with xkcd, dogs and such wouldn't have made me anywhere near as happy if it were between straight cis people. And that's a bit worrying, because what makes their love for each other less heartwarming, less sweet and adorable and all other such things? And now that I'm typing this, I've realised that the squee-inducing picture Astrella linked recently is the same; had it involved a straight couple it just wouldn't have interested me that much.

I'm not sure if I'm going anywhere with this, but it distresses me somewhat.

Most displays of romantic feeling are saccharine and unbearable from the outside peering in--at least for me--it's just that, as most of them are also straight displays of romantic feeling, the non-straight ones at least seem novel.

[Lady Serpentine]

Having thread on the needle is usually a good idea too.

And you left off the '~Bianca' again, by the way.

Lanaya:

It could just be that traditional-ish weddings are much more common, so you're used to them. And there really hasn't ever been any kind of bar to them, in general, while LGBTA+ people are just now really being allowed to get married, so it's not only a newer experience, it's a good change.

Or something like that. I don't know if I conveyed my point very well.

[Triscuitable]

I figured it's time to stop lamenting about no relationship. I got a bass today, I'm taking lessons, and maybe I'll buy some makeup, to feel a little bit like the womanly man I want to be.

[Astrella]

But...

Then I realised that reading about a traditional wedding between straight, cis people wouldn't affect me in the slightest. That none of that warm fuzzy feeling, none of the 'awwww, that's so sweet' would have come up. That I would in fact have been terribly bored by the whole thing and closed the tab within seconds. Even a non-traditional wedding with xkcd, dogs and such wouldn't have made me anywhere near as happy if it were between straight cis people. And that's a bit worrying, because what makes their love for each other less heartwarming, less sweet and adorable and all other such things? And now that I'm typing this, I've realised that the squee-inducing picture Astrella linked recently is the same; had it involved a straight couple it just wouldn't have interested me that much.

I'm not sure if I'm going anywhere with this, but it distresses me somewhat.

I think it's mostly because these relationships don't get massive coverage starting from youth? So it's always refreshing to see a relationship that actually involves people "like me", you know.

[Arachu]

Having thread on the needle is usually a good idea too.

And you left off the '~Bianca' again, by the way.

... I'll get it the first time one'a these posts, mark my words...

(Thanks. *Hugs* )

I figured it's time to stop lamenting about no relationship. I got a bass today, I'm taking lessons, and maybe I'll buy some makeup, to feel a little bit like the womanly man I want to be.

A bass guitar, you mean?

... All that's left to do is grow your hair (if you haven't already) and join a band.

(There's nothing wrong with lamenting, you know. *Hugs*)


~Bianca

[Lea Plath]

The...well...alter ego is starting to feel stronger and more prominant in my life at the moment. I don't know if this is a passing thing or not, but I can't wait for uni. So long as you smell of alchocal, you are free to experiment a bit...

[Triscuitable]

A bass guitar, you mean?

... All that's left to do is grow your hair (if you haven't already) and join a band.

(There's nothing wrong with lamenting, you know. *Hugs*)


~Bianca

First off, in thrash and power metal, we call it a bass. The only people who call it a bass guitar are those who aren't called bassists or fans.

My hair is also pretty long, and my friend actually wanted to start a band.

And I know there's nothing wrong with lamenting, but when a relationship lasts three days, but the pain goes far beyond that, I get worried that I'm going past lamenting and into self-harm. I don't want that.

[Arachu]

The...well...alter ego is starting to feel stronger and more prominant in my life at the moment. I don't know if this is a passing thing or not, but I can't wait for uni. So long as you smell of alchocal, you are free to experiment a bit...

*Hugs* Sounds rough. You can PM me if you'd like.

... As for the offer, *scoots real close and starts rubbing your back*

... *After getting my hands on some alcohol*

First off, in thrash and power metal, we call it a bass. The only people who call it a bass guitar are those who aren't called bassists or fans.

Oh, yeah...

My hair is also pretty long, and my friend actually wanted to start a band.

Do it. [insert dramatic and unrelated statement about ancestors!]

And I know there's nothing wrong with lamenting, but when a relationship lasts three days, but the pain goes far beyond that, I get worried that I'm going past lamenting and into self-harm. I don't want that.

True. You can (and should) do whatever you feel is necessary, of course. *Hugs*

~Bianca

[Lea Plath]

*Hugs* Sounds rough. You can PM me if you'd like.

... As for the offer, *scoots real close and starts rubbing your back*

... *After getting my hands on some alcohol*
~Bianca

If I wasn't sleepy, I might take you up on your taking up of my offer, but for now, sleepy.

*Flops on Arachu and snores*

I'll PM you in the morning.

[Mystic Muse]

So, what are we going to call the next thread?

[Arachu]

If I wasn't sleepy, I might take you up on your taking up of my offer, but for now, sleepy.

*Flops on Arachu and snores*

I'll PM you in the morning.

n.n

So, what are we going to call the next thread?

Awesome. Oh, wait, you meant the name... >.>


~Bianca

[Heliomance]

Awesome. Oh, wait, you meant the name... >.>


~Bianca

Wait, we're calling the next thread Bianca?

[Triscuitable]

Awesome. Oh, wait, you meant the name... >.>


~Bianca

Well, Caesar was stabbed in the back 23 times. Morbid, but "In memory of salads" was my idea.

EDIT: So my friend just broke up with his boyfriend. I don't understand all the deals of it (well, I should clarify he was born a woman), but he's really, really bummed. It makes my issues seem insignificant.

[supernerd]

Awesome. Oh, wait, you meant the name... >.>


~Bianca

"Awesome" might be a bit too narcissistic.

Wait, we're calling the next thread Bianca?

Nope, we're calling it "~Bianca"

Hmm... It's 23. "LGBTAitP - Part 23: % more cookies and hugs"

Edit: might go better with part 30 or 33

@Triscuitable: *BIG TRANSITIVE HUGS FOR YOUR FRIEND*

[CWater]

Thank you all for the warm welcome!

CWater! *glomp*

How's life in our old colonies?

Colonies, huh?

Quite good actually save for some emotional confusion, but I guess that's part of life.

How's it in the old motherland then?

I have a feeling asexuality is more common in women, if only because such terms as "frigidity" are almost exclusively applied to them and might just be a misunderstanding of asexuality.
Then again, the general dynamics between men and women being what they are, that alone can't be considered a reliable clue. I mean by this that women are supposed to be gatekeepers, that they are considered prostitutes if they have a noticeable libido BUT that they're also called [REDACTED] if they withhold sex from their male partner, that men are supposed to always want to have sex with men/women/everyone (?!), and that a man who doesn't or who is not particularly good at it is either inexperienced, ill or old, that anyone who hasn't had sex past age 21 is considered creepy or untouchable, and that there's such a thing as peer pressure....
*breathes again*
That's a lot of things to study in relation to asexuality.

Talk about it...

Ahah yes, "I prefer small boobs", and its twice-removed cousin "you would be so pretty if you did X". Because it's so important to be sexy and please people. Because either you are sexy, or you are ugly and worthless, and you can't just look good with your own style without also making someone want to have sex with you.
I may be asexual, but I suffered a lot from being perceived as ugly until I managed to get over it. And yet, I would enjoy it a lot if nobody beside my boyfriend perceived me as sexually attractive. Just not worthless because of my appearance, and not horrible to look at.

I recognize those same things in myself...except that I'm not entirely cool about it yet. It is a bit depressing when you feel ugly everytime when looking at a mirror, and the most positive thought you can come up with is: "Well, at least anyone won't ever fall for me and be disappointed." ...Yeah.

...I fear that that sounds a lot more emo than what I really am
Do not be deceived!

People still use IRC? Wow I haven't heard of anyone using it for almost a decade. But if it's friendlier then the facebook group (which I do not regret leaving, that place was just drama) then I like friendly places and chatting with people.

I use IRC sometimes! Did a project for a class last year and the guys in the group insisted on using it as channel of communication.
It was very confusing at first, but I got the hang of it eventually

[noparlpf]

I don't know what to make of this.

Is he serious? Is it a joke?

Who knows? It could even just be an attempt to seem edgy.

Just saw this, which was all heartwarming and lovely and such.

But...

Then I realised that reading about a traditional wedding between straight, cis people wouldn't affect me in the slightest. That none of that warm fuzzy feeling, none of the 'awwww, that's so sweet' would have come up. That I would in fact have been terribly bored by the whole thing and closed the tab within seconds. Even a non-traditional wedding with xkcd, dogs and such wouldn't have made me anywhere near as happy if it were between straight cis people. And that's a bit worrying, because what makes their love for each other less heartwarming, less sweet and adorable and all other such things? And now that I'm typing this, I've realised that the squee-inducing picture Astrella linked recently is the same; had it involved a straight couple it just wouldn't have interested me that much.

I'm not sure if I'm going anywhere with this, but it distresses me somewhat.

Actually, I kind of skimmed this one. Marriage in general isn't my thing. And the thing Astrella linked to--you mean the comic thingy? I would have thought that equally cute between a straight couple. Stuff like that is just sweet and manages to reach my crusty jaded old heart.

First off, in thrash and power metal, we call it a bass. The only people who call it a bass guitar are those who aren't called bassists or fans.

My hair is also pretty long, and my friend actually wanted to start a band.

And I know there's nothing wrong with lamenting, but when a relationship lasts three days, but the pain goes far beyond that, I get worried that I'm going past lamenting and into self-harm. I don't want that.

I'm not into metal and I still just call it a bass. I'm pretty sure it doesn't count as a guitar anyway due to only having four strings.

[Triscuitable]

So nobody likes "LGBTAitp - Part 23: In honor of Caesar salads"?

[pffh]

Who knows? It could even just be an attempt to seem edgy.

Doubt it since it's not his only trans song. Not to mention the fact that he used to (don't know if he currently does) wear traditionally female clothes occasionally.

Also I'm sorry but did you just suggest that Alice bloody Cooper would do a country song about a transperson to seem edgy?

[supernerd]

So nobody likes "LGBTAitp - Part 23: In honor of Caesar salads"?

there we go!

[Rawhide]

Part 23: It's an enigma

[Triscuitable]

there we go!

Previous recommendation. It's kind of obscure, however.

Part 23: It's an enigma

Thought about that. Wanted to make a Caesar joke, considering the enigma is based on that incident.

[Rawhide]

Thought about that. Wanted to make a Caesar joke, considering the enigma is based on that incident.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/23_enigma

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Alternatively, "Port 23: TELNET"

[Qaera]

Lagerbeta Part 23: Matchmaker Edition! Models of all Shapes, Sizes, Sexes, Genders, Sexualities, or Lacks Thereof!

Or

Lagerbeta Part 23: Pandemisexuality Edition! Disease has never been sexier!

~ ♅

[Triscuitable]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/23_enigma

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Alternatively, "Port 23: TELNET"

Correction: it's the most notable incident of the number 23.

[Viera Champion]

LGBTAitp - Part 23: Leonardo Looks Better in 3D

[Rawhide]

Correction: it's the most notable incident of the number 23.

Part 23: Only the second wound was fatal

[golentan]

LGBTAitp Part 23: Going Gaga.

[Arachu]

Now with 100% more hawt!

Well, Caesar was stabbed in the back 23 times. Morbid, but "In memory of salads" was my idea.

I almost want to say "Sic Semper [some pun or another]", but I can't think of a pun... Nor can I think of anything in particular to wish death upon. >.>

EDIT: So my friend just broke up with his boyfriend. I don't understand all the deals of it (well, I should clarify he was born a woman), but he's really, really bummed. It makes my issues seem insignificant.

*Hugs* Just because other people have their own problems doesn't mean you don't. I'm getting a bit preachy though, aren't I... *hugs to your friend*

Wait, we're calling the next thread Bianca?

But I'm a terrible singer!

"Awesome" might be a bit too narcissistic.

I disagree.


~Bianca

[Viera Champion]

LGBTAitp Part 23: Going Gaga.

Going? You need to catch up. We've been there for ages.