LGBTitp - Part Six

[Beelzebub1111]

Why is it that I can't even bring myself to come out to a lesbian friend?

Only you can answer that question, dude.

[Danne]

It is a very culturally imperialistic of them (which is amusing, cause they are normally very anti-cultural imperialism). The reasoning seems to be that since English could do away with the gender-system centuries ago - why can't the rest of the world's 6 000 languages not stop moaning and get on board with the program?

OMG I would so be on board with this. Trying to remember different genders is what really messed me up studying Latin, and it's even worse in German. Like, "boy," is masculine, so that makes sense, but "skirt" is also masculine. (Hey wait, maybe they're onto something there... ) "Girl" is neuter, as is "baby," but "cat" is feminine. There is absolutely no rhyme or reason!

I have now come out to 100% of my parents.

Everything went very well.

Whoo! Congrats!

[Rappy]

<.< >.> I shall call Albis: Attractive. =3 Because Albis is cute. ^.^

D'awwwww.


On a less cute note, I was a very sad gal yesterday. While out for lunch, the driver of the local Rappy-Wagon (what? No one ever said a personal vehicle name had to be cool) wanted to go to a furniture store. I obliged, somewhat begrudgingly, even though my rebellious stomach stated otherwise.

Cut to about 20 minutes later, I'm very hungry and not thinking clearly. I go up to one of their beds, inspect it, and state "I shall be a very proud mattress queen with this one!"

I could have sworn the stares I got had heat vision coupled with them.

[Jacklu]

Whoohoo! Congratulations, Nano! *most abundant hugs and cuddles*

[albis]

@ Nano: Congrats!!!

@ Jacklu: Then I shall call Jacklu "Cuddly". XD

@ Danne: Latin is EVIL. Latin gender system is REALLY EVIL. (had to study it during high school, with a good teacher the first two years, a boring stuck-up prick for the remaining two... as expected, I liked Latin the first two years, to the point I had learnt how to translate without a dictionary... but got lazy when the teacher who could make me concentrate and work pleasingly retired, and in the last three years I got lazy about it and only did what was needed for me to pass with an average grade... AND grew to hate Latin.)

@ Rappy: Rappy-Wagon is a cool name! Lol, my friends and I do that kind of thing quite often...
Let me share a bit of our stupidity:
Last Sunday, for example.. we went to an amusement park (because you're never too old for amusement parks) and went in a very old ride, that's called the "Castle of Tricks"... it's very interesting, you have to progress quickly because each door you pass closes behind you and there are voices that urge you to go forward... up until you reach a room where the supposed "Lord of Tricks" announces through a speaker how you're never going to escape as the door closes..... the point of the room is that the door closes, the ceilings starts descending a bit, but when it seems to touch your head a secret doors opens on the other side.
....this time, the first door didn't close, probably because the staff man in the control room didn't push his button... it was ridiculous... the passage back wide open and a voice saying "now you'll NEVER get out! muahahahah!"...
...so I went right by the door and declared loudly: "Oh gosh, we're gonna be trapped if we don't escape now!"
a friend of mine came near me and said "hey, the door's still open why don't we--" *the staff man finally realizes that his break is over and the door closes* "ohff*ck! would you look at that? it just closed!" XD
There was a couple other than us, and they wouldn't stop laughing...
Not to mention the part where there's a giant rotating barrel that only stops a few seconds and you have to pass through when it stosps... most of us passed through, but another friend of mine stayed behind and when it started spinning again he jumped in it and ran on his all fours, saying "look at me! I'm a hamster!"
...fortunately it wasn't forbidden so they didn't kick us out. XD

[Coidzor]

Good on yer, Nano.

Why is it that I can't even bring myself to come out to a lesbian friend?

Crippling Neuroses? You always feel like she's judging you as it is, and feel that they'll become unbearably stuffy about judging how well you fit the queer cause? I should know how?

Have you begun examining your feelings using a socratic-like method of tracking the feelings of discomfit back and back until you reach a root or roots?

[Anuan]

@ Danne: Latin is EVIL. Latin gender system is REALLY EVIL. (had to study it during high school, with a good teacher the first two years, a boring stuck-up prick for the remaining two... as expected, I liked Latin the first two years, to the point I had learnt how to translate without a dictionary... but got lazy when the teacher who could make me concentrate and work pleasingly retired, and in the last three years I got lazy about it and only did what was needed for me to pass with an average grade... AND grew to hate Latin.)

This happened with me and Japanese .

@ Rappy: Rappy-Wagon is a cool name! Lol, my friends and I do that kind of thing quite often...
Let me share a bit of our stupidity:
Last Sunday, for example.. we went to an amusement park (because you're never too old for amusement parks) and went in a very old ride, that's called the "Castle of Tricks"... it's very interesting, you have to progress quickly because each door you pass closes behind you and there are voices that urge you to go forward... up until you reach a room where the supposed "Lord of Tricks" announces through a speaker how you're never going to escape as the door closes..... the point of the room is that the door closes, the ceilings starts descending a bit, but when it seems to touch your head a secret doors opens on the other side.
....this time, the first door didn't close, probably because the staff man in the control room didn't push his button... it was ridiculous... the passage back wide open and a voice saying "now you'll NEVER get out! muahahahah!"...
...so I went right by the door and declared loudly: "Oh gosh, we're gonna be trapped if we don't escape now!"
a friend of mine came near me and said "hey, the door's still open why don't we--" *the staff man finally realizes that his break is over and the door closes* "ohff*ck! would you look at that? it just closed!" XD
There was a couple other than us, and they wouldn't stop laughing...
Not to mention the part where there's a giant rotating barrel that only stops a few seconds and you have to pass through when it stosps... most of us passed through, but another friend of mine stayed behind and when it started spinning again he jumped in it and ran on his all fours, saying "look at me! I'm a hamster!"
...fortunately it wasn't forbidden so they didn't kick us out. XD

You and your friends are incredible and when I visit Italy in a few years I want to hang out with you

[albis]

Sure thing Anuan! =)

[cycoris]

Sure thing Anuan! =)

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<.<
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He's only allowed to go if I can come too.

ION: out to everyone to whom I currently feel the need to be. Unfortunately, this does not include family, and that'll probably never be a viable option.

[Coidzor]

In this case, never being once you're finally financially independent of them.

[albis]

>.>
<.<
>.>

He's only allowed to go if I can come too.

Actually, he's allowed to come if all of you can come too!

[Lix Lorn]

I'll come if I can. ^_^
I'm out to all three parents and two rl friends.

[Lioness]

This happened with me and Japanese

And Japanese isn't even gender-specific...

I had a dull teacher for 4/5 years, but she occasionally told amusing stories about the public baths.

[Anuan]

It wasn't the gender-thing, it was just the "YAY AWESOME, I'M LEAR-Oh. You're a crap teacher. ...Yeah, bugger this." effect. But that's for another thread

[Dihan]

Crippling Neuroses? You always feel like she's judging you as it is, and feel that they'll become unbearably stuffy about judging how well you fit the queer cause? I should know how?

Have you begun examining your feelings using a socratic-like method of tracking the feelings of discomfit back and back until you reach a root or roots?

Perhaps...

She has an official position in my university's LGBT Society so, not being a member, I may subconsciously feel that I don't measure up.

I think I'm also a bit wary of her blurting it out in front of my other friends. Not that it's a problem, but I'd rather tell people when I'm ready.

[Serpentine]

You're gonna have to tell someone first.*


*Unless you come up with a needlessly complex scheme to broadcast your sexuality publically so everyone views it at the same time.

[SilentNight]

You're gonna have to tell someone first.*


*Unless you come up with a needlessly complex scheme to broadcast your sexuality publically so everyone views it at the same time.

Preferably at some sort of sporting event using a jumbo-tron

[Dihan]

You're gonna have to tell someone first.*


*Unless you come up with a needlessly complex scheme to broadcast your sexuality publically so everyone views it at the same time.

I've told my close friends from school. Nobody at university knows though.

[Jacklu]

If I come visit Attractive (AKA: Albis) with everyone else, people might not appreciate it. <.< >.> Considering I would glomp him the moment I got off the plane and cuddle until we all left again. <333

[Asta Kask]

She has an official position in my university's LGBT Society so, not being a member, I may subconsciously feel that I don't measure up.

Unless they have some official test where they present you with a member of your sex and tell you to kiss him/her, I can't think of a reason wouldn't measure up.

[albis]

If I come visit Attractive (AKA: Albis) with everyone else, people might not appreciate it. <.< >.> Considering I would glomp him the moment I got off the plane and cuddle until we all left again. <333

Now now, there's no need to worry... having lots of baby cousins, I'm a professional cuddle-giver now, so anyone who needs cuddles will receive them X°D

[Coidzor]

She has an official position in my university's LGBT Society so, not being a member, I may subconsciously feel that I don't measure up.

I think I'm also a bit wary of her blurting it out in front of my other friends. Not that it's a problem, but I'd rather tell people when I'm ready.

Have you at least admitted that this would be a very stupid thing to think?

And why aren't you ready for it to be known if you have no problem with them knowing?

[Jacklu]

=3 ^_^ *cuddles Albis* <333

[Dihan]

Have you at least admitted that this would be a very stupid thing to think?

And why aren't you ready for it to be known if you have no problem with them knowing?

I know it's stupid. I'm a stupid person anyway.

Because I grew up with them whilst I've only known these people for, at the most, a year?

[Serpentine]

I got invited to a gay and lesbian party today. By people at a stall, of course. But the way they told me about it made me wonder if I give off a "gay vibe" Pretty sure it was just slightly unfortunate wording, though.
I got a rainbow sticker. Where should I put it?

[Coidzor]

Well, it sounds like you're in a place to work through it then, Dihan.

Hmm. I've always liked putting stickers on my hat. Where'd you end up putting it, Serps?

[Serpentine]

It's on the shelf over my workspace at uni. With luck, it'll... perturb the weirdly-maybe-homophobic fellow in the nearby desk
I can't wear hats

[golentan]

I personally favor putting stickers on foreheads, but they never stay there long.

Also, you really seem to like razzing that guy. Maybe he's just socially awkward, not homophobic.

[Serpentine]

Hey, I've only brought him up here twice now. I... not dislike, but... de-like him more because he insisted on telling me about how my ex boyfriend hangs out with ex-friend and gazes at her lovingly all the time, in great detail, even after I made it clear that it was not the sort of thing I wanted to discuss, than because of that
But yeah, he's definitely socially awkward. Although another lady here, a... Uniting Church minister, I think, also thinks he's both socially awkward, and awkwardly homophobic.

[nefele]

First of all, hello to everyone. Second, I need advice. :)

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