LGBTAitp - Part Nineteen

[Arachu]

*hugs*

If you wanna talk or something, my PM box is always open.

:3

I just made my first cat-face smiley. :P

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Random transman link.

I'm not really into manly men, but I have to admit that these ones are pretty damn handsome.

Probably wouldn't quite date them... *Stares at arbitrary point on the ceiling*

Asta: If being trans were nothing but grimdark, staying in the closet would be the only viable option. If your book is nothing but grimdark, few people will read it. Those who do will see it as nothing more than hyperbole and propaganda. I assume that everyone here, as gamers, has seen Dark Dungeons.

The end should be happy, because dangit, trans people can have friends and safe spaces. You should have a few "black eye/bruises, start from the beginning after you heal". But the takeaway should be having to think through things that most people never consider. Embarrassments should definitely be part of the story, but embarrassment/violence/death should not be the end. The end should be a positive, affirming message for good trans PR.

That's a good point... And, if it's hopeful enough, it can help to lift transpeoples' spirits.

I'd say that any depressing bits should be kept around the middle (just as much to provide conflict as pathos)... Beyond that, though, I can't really provide much (I haven't written in a while, nor have I written anything happy). :shrug:

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I just love this picture:

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I suspect racism/racialism acts differently in Sweden. Racists here don't do much taxonomy of races, they just divide people in Swedes and non-Swedes (without much thought given to makes one a Swede). Just having dark hair and/or complexion can make you called "blackhead" (*kinda* like darkie or Schwarzer), without looking African at all. (I suppose being a Muslim makes you worse in their mind, and Jews are obviously hated by Nazis.)

I guess it helps that I have a Swedish name, but you know, as soon as they see me, then I'm at their mercy anyway. (BTW, I had a school mate of Polish origin, if it wasn't for her surname and the fact she told about her grandparents' being in one of the concentration camps during WWII, I wouldn't have known she was at least as Slavic as I am. Because she is blonde.)

"Whiteness" really is weird topic. Are the English "whiter" than the Irish? (Sorry; I've kept thinking about it since I watched Gangs of New York.)* Are Spaniards and Italian less whiter than the Irish? And so forth, if we go by (mostly historical) discrimination alone.

*Actually, before I saw that film, there was a Lucky Luke comic book that mostly dealt with racism against Native Americans, but mentioned (humorously) antagonism between the British peoples. The majority of soldiers in a fort were Irish, but one of them had a Scottish mother, which the other soldiers thought was funny. This made the commander angry, and stated that all of them would treat each other as equals, never mind if they were Irish, Scottish or even English (!). (Poor Welsh, always forgotten...)

Then the commander declared that they would make themselves ready to kill all the redskins.

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It got better.

A friend of mine always gets harassed for being blonde and descended from Germans. He has about as much Scandinavian in him, but... Well, that's usually not even noticed, nevermind considered. :/

He is rather intimidating, but he's a nice guy if you don't provoke him. He tends to help people with chores or talk their ears off about (mostly European) history.

I'm descended from more nations than I can keep a tally of, but apparently that's not really noticeable. :shrug:

You can be heterosexual cis male and still feel like that.

*Hugs* You're not so bad, you know. Hell, you're probably the nicest cismale I've ever 'talked' to.

Not to say that nice cismales are rare or anything...

[Asta Kask]

Ok, no bloody gory death. The worst that happens is humiliation, and I know there are times you prefer death... it's great to get feedback!

[H Birchgrove]

I've noticed that I've become very interested in trans related news and issues, while I don't actively pursuit information or news about gays and lesbians, or even about bi stuff despite being bi myself. I think I was about to search for more facts about the poly movement some time ago, but nothing came out of it.

I can't help wondering if it's just like how I can for certain periods get very interested in agriculture, or astronomy, or nuclear physics, or Intelligence and Security Services around the world, and then lose interest and look up something else (and later return to one of the previous interests)...

... or if there's something deeper than that.

EDIT: I hope it doesn't sound like I'm equating the difficulties trans persons have to face with typical or non-typical geek topics.

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A friend of mine always gets harassed for being blonde and descended from Germans. He has about as much Scandinavian in him, but... Well, that's usually not even noticed, nevermind considered. :/

He is rather intimidating, but he's a nice guy if you don't provoke him. He tends to help people with chores or talk their ears off about (mostly European) history.

I'm descended from more nations than I can keep a tally of, but apparently that's not really noticeable. :shrug:

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He sounds like a cool guy!

It's great to be multi-ethnic, I think! I mean, to be able to connect to different cultures, not that being multi-ethnic automatically makes you better as a person or some nonsense...

(Though I read in a pop science book that thanks to people travelling and moving around the world, mankind would get the genes mixed better, and thus Homo Sapiens would evolve to something stronger, smarter etc. To be fair, the book was from the 1970's.)

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*Hugs* You're not so bad, you know. Hell, you're probably the nicest cismale I've ever 'talked' to.

Not to say that nice cismales are rare or anything...

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Aww, thanks. Though I wasn't thinking about myself, I was generalizing, and I'm bi...

... I hope I wasn't subconscious about the hetero part, I don't hate myself for being bi, at least I don't think so...

Self-pity stuff:

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... I hate myself for being a pervert who looks at pornography and have fantasies about having sex with pre-op trans women. Members of these forums have told me before that I shouldn't feel bad about it... but still.

I think Asta Kask is a much nicer and much better person than me, period. Even if I may have philosophical differences with him. I guess if we were super-heroes, he would be like Doc Savage/Superman and I would be like The Shadow/Batman, but hopefully we would fight crime and save people's lives together.

[Arachu]

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He sounds like a cool guy!

It's great to be multi-ethnic, I think! I mean, to be able to connect to different cultures, not that being multi-ethnic automatically makes you better as a person or some nonsense...

(Though I read in a pop science book that thanks to people travelling and moving around the world, mankind would get the genes mixed better, and thus Homo Sapiens would evolve to something stronger, smarter etc. To be fair, the book was from the 1970's.)

Well, the Slavic skeleton is kind of inconvenient (big shoulders and low ribs >.<), but my hair's awesome.

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Aww, thanks. Though I wasn't thinking about myself, I was generalizing, and I'm bi...

... I hope I wasn't subconscious about the hetero part, I don't hate myself for being bi, at least I don't think so...

Self-pity stuff:

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... I hate myself for being a pervert who looks at pornography and have fantasies about having sex with pre-op trans women. Members of these forums have told me before that I shouldn't feel bad about it... but still.

I'm a pre-transition transwoman, and I do that. Nothing wrong with being attracted to someone, even if you're a bit perverted about it.

(I thought cisgender only implied gender, rather than sexuality... Well, in any case I got my point across. )

The last video I saw made me feel terrible, though...

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She never looked directly at the camera, and halfway through I heard what may have been a gasp... Only, I think it was a sob.

Come to think of it, I saw that about the time my libido plummeted...

I think Asta Kask is a much nicer and much better person than me, period. Even if I may have philosophical differences with him. I guess if we were super-heroes, he would be like Doc Savage/Superman and I would be like The Shadow/Batman, but hopefully we would fight crime and save people's lives together.

Dibs on Raven.

I don't care if that made any sense, I want crazy goth-y telekinesis and hotness.

BTW, I've noticed that I've gotten very interested in trans related news and issues, while I don't actively pursuit information or news about gays and lesbians, or even about bi stuff despite being bi myself. I think I was about to search for more facts about the poly movement some time ago, but nothing came out of it.

I can't help wondering if it's just like how I can for certain periods get very interested in agriculture, or astronomy, or nuclear physics, or Intelligence and Security Services around the world, and then lose interest and look up something else...

... or if there's something deeper than that.

I haven't been looking into LGBT+ issues... Well, actually at all. Just articles that have been linked here and a couple of (usually more depressing) others linked from there. I feel like I should do that, but dammit I wanna simulate a calculator.

... That wasn't much of a response, was it?...

On another note, it occurs to me that I want to be an androgynous girl who likes to punch things - in a word, I'm a transtomboy.

On another another note, we may need a new thread soon...

[golentan]

Can I make the new thread this time? I'll have it up in a bit.

[turkishproverb]

Well, it's not up yet.

[golentan]

New thread GO!