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2012-04-05, 01:31 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Steam username is Triscuitable.
I got VAC banned in COD: Ghosts for using an FOV changer.
I try not to think of how sad that is.
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2012-04-05, 02:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-05, 03:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
If your reaction to doing something is "Oh, God, I shouldn't have done that thing", then you should not have done that thing and should probably avoid doing that thing.
Or, to be more specific, it's apparent that you're still agonizing over this, and that means you're probably not at a point where this contact is good for you. Maybe you never will be.
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2012-04-05, 05:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Goddamn, I think I'm falling for someone. It's a nice warm feeling but I don't know if it's reciprocated, so lord only knows if this will end well. I hope so though.
Last edited by Dvil; 2012-04-05 at 05:12 PM.
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2012-04-05, 05:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Well... I think you've been doing the right things with her, anyways.
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2012-04-05, 09:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
New rule for qbit, which should apply to anybody who gets the fool idea to rekindle things while they're still smarting from a split.
Thou shalt not contact the ex until thou hast had at least one intense fling since.
There's wisdom to the adage that the best way to get over someone is to get on top of someone. (Or under someone, depending on your inclinations.) Not to mention that, if you're the sort of person to get all torn up over this sort of thing, your ability to meet someone new is a built-in barometer of your ability to be levelheaded about the former crush.
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2012-04-05, 09:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Steam username is Triscuitable.
I got VAC banned in COD: Ghosts for using an FOV changer.
I try not to think of how sad that is.
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2012-04-05, 09:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-05, 10:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Gee, you guys sure make it sound like it's easy to go out and find a random, meaningless fling.
Witness my glory and know that when my darkness fades, if you yet live, it is because an ally does not.
AN EMPTY SPOT WITHIN MY CRAW CRAVES YOUR FLESH, YOUR BONES BLED RAW!
YOUR FEAR! YOUR FEAR! SO SWEET! SO STRONG! TO TEASE MY TONGUE, YOUR LIVES ARE GONE!
YOUR ODDS UNFAVORED, MY WEB TOO STRONG! SPEED WON'T NEGATE A LINE STEPPED WRONG!
YOU DARE? DARE SMITE THIS AWESOME BEAST? YOUR FATES ARE SEALED AS MY NEXT FEAST!
HEED THIS BECK AND HEAR THIS CALL! FIGHT ME STILL, YOUR WILLS SHALL FALL!
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2012-04-05, 10:40 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-05, 10:58 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Steam username is Triscuitable.
I got VAC banned in COD: Ghosts for using an FOV changer.
I try not to think of how sad that is.
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2012-04-05, 11:08 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-05, 11:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Steam username is Triscuitable.
I got VAC banned in COD: Ghosts for using an FOV changer.
I try not to think of how sad that is.
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2012-04-05, 11:11 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
No you aren't, but it isn't as if they have no purpose whatsoever.
That's where you appear to make a misconception. Because a fling is short-duration does not mean there are no feelings that enter into the equation. I've had a few in my day and none were without emotion, they simply were more focused on the physical.
Oh, and the implied moral judgment of "flings are bad and people should feel bad about them" is vaguely offensive. I'm pretty sure you didn't intend it, but I felt I might want to say something, just so you are aware of how that comment reads.
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"Condescend"? Yeah, dude, you might want to watch the judgment you seem to be throwing around here. Just a heads-up.Last edited by arguskos; 2012-04-05 at 11:12 PM.
All that I say applies only to myself. You author your own actions and choices. I cannot and will not be responsible for you, nor are you for me, regardless of situation or circumstance.
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2012-04-05, 11:13 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Steam username is Triscuitable.
I got VAC banned in COD: Ghosts for using an FOV changer.
I try not to think of how sad that is.
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2012-04-05, 11:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-05, 11:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Steam username is Triscuitable.
I got VAC banned in COD: Ghosts for using an FOV changer.
I try not to think of how sad that is.
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2012-04-05, 11:21 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
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2012-04-05, 11:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-05, 11:43 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Steam username is Triscuitable.
I got VAC banned in COD: Ghosts for using an FOV changer.
I try not to think of how sad that is.
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2012-04-05, 11:52 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
"My Hobby: Replacing your soap with gravy" by rtg0922, Doll and Clint "Rawhide" Eastwood by Sneak
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2012-04-06, 12:35 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Tris: Go watch Before Sunrise. (In fact, I suggest everybody here who hasn't seen it go watch it. It's a frickin' awesome movie. It's a romance, and cynical jaded me likes it. I can't think of higher praise.) There's implied sex, but mostly it's an intense emotional fling. Sometimes you can have intense emotions, without forever.
Which was kind of the point of the fling rule. Maybe you need another relationship proper. Maybe you just need a fresh face to fight off the oneitis. The idea being twofold; you want to have another person's worth of emotion to separate you from someone you're all caught up in and liable to make a fool of yourself with. Also, if you're still stuck and mooning over the last person, you'll be all sad-sack when trying to flirt with someone new. That in and of itself is probably proof that you're not ready to rationally sit down and try to reintroduce them to your life.
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2012-04-06, 03:50 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-06, 06:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Then don't have one. But you don't get to decide that for everyone else. Other people have perfectly safe fun with other people outside of capital-R Relationships. If you don't want to, that's fine. I don't think anyone would advocate someone having sex when or in a way they don't want to. Conversely, you don't get to tell someone else* that they shouldn't be having sex when they do want to.
In the context of the aforementioned advice, I'm not even sure that a full-blown physical (or emotional-but-not-forever) interaction is necessarily necessary; just having intense feelings (e.g. a crush) for someone else, and perhaps the ability to take a step to do something about it and deal with it if rebuffed, could do the trick.
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2012-04-06, 09:35 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-06, 10:31 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
A polite "okay, that's fine" or somesuch would be fine. "How have you been?" or similar is up to you. If you're still stressing about this, though, I'd probably leave it for a while, or go with noparlpf's suggestion.
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2012-04-08, 05:29 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-08, 09:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
I can beat that.
years ago I went to McDonalds with my sister and our twin brother and sister (they are twin of one-another and much younger than me and my other sister). as my 2 sisters go grab a table, me and little brother, who at the time was..about 8-9 years old, stand in the queue to place orders. finaly it's our turn and this quite attractive blonde asks us what we would like to order... I'm about to place the order and then she looks down and notices my little brother barely reacing the top of the counter...
and proceeds to greet him by name like they're old friends.
after a moment of catching my jaw from the floor, I place the order, and she scuttles off to grab our lunch... to which my little brother nonchalantly tells me that she was in charge of things when he was at a school-friend's birthday party there, a week earlier...which still doesn't explain how she knew and remembered his name out of all the kids that were there that day
I couldn't help noticing a few sniggers from the people behind me.
finally we get our stuff, I grab one tray, ask my brother if he's ok with carrying the tray with the fries.. he says yes and then proceeds to drop the whole thing on the floor.
in no time at all, the same girl who clearly had a soft spot for my little brother takes it upon herself to make him a new batch of fries and cleaning up the mess.
cue, more sniggering.
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2012-04-08, 09:21 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-04-08, 09:39 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 21: Time To Go Bar-Hopping
Disclaimer: I'm just in a mood right now (not really a bad mood, maybe just an unconfident one? Probably related to being a bit tired), and none of this is likely to be affecting me in the morning, so no responses are necessary. If you want to respond anyway, don't let me stop you
Sigh, 7 messages sent on OKC, and not one reply. I realize it's not that uncommon, I just kind of wish I'd have gotten at least one reply, you know? At least the latest person I sent a message to visited my profile, at least a couple of the others haven't done that, so I guess that's something.
I know that OKC isn't a guarantee of anything, especially when I don't treat it as much more than a way to try something different from my past endeavors (which have all failed).
I just wish I knew whether there was something I was doing wrong, or if I've just been unlucky. My messages have been fairly short, calling out what I found interesting in their profile, answering any questions they may have posed to potential message-senders, and asking things I'm curious about (like what they're studying, for those who mention grad school).