Relationship Woes and Advice

[AngelSword]

Alright, so I think things are working in my favor. Me and my lady friend went to the Faire today, and had a grand ol' time. Wandered around, saw a joust, and she purchased a bouquet of wooden roses for her mom's birthday. Thinking it a nice idea, I asked her about her favorite color, but she didn't tell me, seeing right through me.

Later, as I brought her to meet her parents for dinner, we had a hug. And it was one of those lingering hugs; the kind that makes you sigh.

I had lost my phone earlier that day, so I returned to the Faire to see if it had turned up. While there, I was struck with an idea; if she wouldn't tell me her favorite color, I'd get her a bouquet with EVERY color. So, I made my purchase, drove to her place, and left them on her doorstep, with a note (Spoilered for mushiness safety)

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I figured that since you wouldn't tell me your favorite color, I'd get you EVERY color. Though, as beautiful as they are, any flower pales in comparison to your beauty.
-Sword

Oh, for those interested, the pics (or what few there were), are being posted in the "You" thread.

[Syka]

Ok, so officially jealous. ;) Why can't I meet a guy like this in real life? Why do I have to meet all the poets and wordsmiths and romantics online?

Cheers,
Syka

[Logic]

Ok, so officially jealous. ;) Why can't I meet a guy like this in real life? Why do I have to meet all the poets and wordsmiths and romantics online?

Cheers,
Syka

Because, it is to provide you with a longing, that will have you learn exactly what your tastes are, so that when the special someone really does arrive, you will be better suited to recognize him.

I call that Logic's Theory of Longing.

[Hell Puppi]

Indeed. it is a good theory.

[zeratul]

Dude, nice going. Ren faire hasn't started yet here.

[Hell Puppi]

Ren Fair's not until February here...ah well at least I have estrella war...

[Syka]

Same for me, Hellpuppi.

Syka is having a grand ole time of it. Update'll be coming...at some point, once she gets an actual handle on what's going on. For all she knows it's a mix up but...doubtful. Miscommunication is more likely.

Cheers,
Syka

Edit: SNAFU. I'm not sure what is happening right now. Keep me in your thoughts. This could get ugly.

[Thrawn183]

I'm down with the nice looking trenchies. My sister looks great in a trench coat, but trying to look frightening? I've found that while its great to know that you could in theory, in practice its better to not send people reaching for their wallets .

Alright, I have a issue of my own I'd like to bring out for some advice:

I've been single for a couple of years now (nothing too serious in the past, just nothing of note recently), and this has been mostly due to my not trying to get anything started. There is a young woman who I am considering asking out, but here's the problem; somebody else just asked her out about a week or two ago (I'm not certain on the timing, myself.)

Did I just miss my window, or is there a period of "fighting for who you want" before a relationship gets going and enters the realm of you trying to come between two people? For what I know: she was asked out to coffee. If I thought it was already serious I wouldn't consider it... but I am considering it, and I'm wondering if I just took a step towards the "scuzzy" alignment.

[Syka]

My advice is to go for it. Outside of highschool, there is generally a window of anywhere from a few weeks to a few months I'd guess where it's just casual and each party is still free to date.

Worst that can happen is she says she is seeing someone else. *shrug*

Cheers,
Syka

[SDF]

SNAFU. I'm not sure what is happening right now. Keep me in your thoughts. This could get ugly.

Ooh, I'm not sure what is happening, but I hope it ends up well... My PM box is always empty if you want to talk (read: empty, I'm not very popular on the interblargs)

[Hell Puppi]

Ooh, I'm not sure what is happening, but I hope it ends up well... My PM box is always empty if you want to talk (read: empty, I'm not very popular on the interblargs)

....I Like you....

then again, I like most everyone on the forums here. That shouldn't make my like any less real.

[Syka]

I am watching as a plane nose dives perpendicular to the earth. It's about 100 feet away from crashing. Chances of pilot reflexes being incredible: about 5%. Maybe.

Such is life.

Cheers,
Syka

[Zeb The Troll]

I am watching as a plane nose dives perpendicular to the earth. It's about 100 feet away from crashing. Chances of pilot reflexes being incredible: about 5%. Maybe.

Such is life.

Cheers,
Syka

Is this supposed to be some sort of metaphor for what you were talking about earlier? I hope things work out for you.

*points to his Inbox*

Just in case you need it.

[Syka]

Yah. Pretty sure I'm going to be officially single very soon. If not already. But such is life.

When I realized that, honestly, the worst losses I can sustain is not getting back my 28 Days Later DVD, not finishing the anime we were in the middle of, and not getting to go out very often, it's made it a lot easier.

Too bad I'm not a user or a gold digger...He'd've been a good one. j/k See, this is me dealing with stress via humor. :)

I'll be fine though. Thanks for your offers of help, it is greatly appreciated.

Cheers,
Syka

[Zeb The Troll]

Yah. Pretty sure I'm going to be officially single very soon. If not already. But such is life.

Hey, this isn't just a ploy to get that crush to come out is it?

*this is me trying to help with the humor*

[Syka]

*snick* Nope. If anything, I need to finish dealing with the people currently crushing on me. You people are making it so hard for me to want to stay single!

Cheers,
Syka

[zeratul]

Well things are going disturbingly well for me. Looks like for once things are goin my way.

[SDF]

....I Like you....

then again, I like most everyone on the forums here. That shouldn't make my like any less real.

Thank you! And for brightening my day I like you too!

*snick* Nope. If anything, I need to finish dealing with the people currently crushing on me. You people are making it so hard for me to want to stay single!

Cheers,
Syka

Oh my! Well, we all have our burdens to carry, :P and if you need help dealing with this "crush"ing problem, let me know ^_^; I could rough 'em up! Well maybe not up, but a direction they wouldn't be comfortable with.

[Vampiric]

In the spirit of the helpfullness above, I offer my pm inbox to anyone who has a woe that's unpostable, or just doesn't want to post it. I think there was a page earlier where people said the same thing.... oh well.

[Sir_Norbert]

Good luck with wanting to stay single, Syka. It's always good to be contented with the way things are.... when I was single I always wanted not to be, and that didn't make me an easy person to get on with. But conversely, it means I'm very happy with the way things are now......

[Syka]

Yah, we're just friends. Got the message this morning. He did apologize for being rude to me (which he was).

*sigh* Ya know, if it had been handled just a little bit differently, it would have been a completely different outcome. And by a little bit differently, I honestly mean if one response had been different.

Oh well, if nothing else I hope I still have a good friend out of the deal. I doubt he'll be coming up this weekend, but I need to find out for sure since another friend is also supposed to be coming up (but I'm not worried about her, as her boyfriend is up here, as well). Life is complicated but it goes on.

Cheers,
Syka

[CurlyKitGirl]

Commiserations for you Syka. There's nothing I can say that won't sound cheesy or cliched. I will jsut say that from what I've heard/read I doubt you'll be single for long and will find a better partner.

My update. Friends A, B, C and D are sorted out now. I got them together and told them to sort it out. A an C admitted they like each other. D said that was Ok because he kinda thout somthing like that was going on, he wanted to find out if C would admit it herself. B was a bit upset but they all parted no hard feelings and we're all still friends. Thanks to everyone who gave their advice. It really helped.

[SDF]

At least it seems you two will still be friends. It often seems the case that everything would be okay if only for one thing. I hope you go back to being happy soon. ^_^

[Syka]

That's good to hear KitGirl. :) I'm glad that ended up working out.

I'm already coming to terms with it, getting myself in the mindset of just being friends. It shouldn't be too hard considering most of the relationship was based on friendship anyway. I'm am going to miss kissing him though.

I'm doing ok though. The breakup before this one kind of helps put it into perspective and makes it easier to handle. Thanks for all your support, guys.

Cheers,
Syka

[Jibar]

Call it mating season, call it me being just plain depressed and lonely, or call it the ludicrous number of relationships in the playground but I have only one question for ye assembled., and let it be marked this is probably the lowest I've ever sunk.

Why can't I find anybody?

[Ego Slayer]

Why can't I find anybody?

You're only 16, for gods' sake. Give it a few more years before you start getting all depressed about it, right? >_>

[Jibar]

You're only 16, for gods' sake. Give it a few more years before you start getting all depressed about it, right? >_>

Says the woman in a relationship.

Let me make it clear that Dis is the only person I know who has not had a relationship of some kind. Real life and online.
And most of my friends in real life are younger than me.

Besides, who said I'm depressed about this? I've got a lot more important things I can be depressed about, thank you very much.

[CurlyKitGirl]

Says the woman in a relationship.

Let me make it clear that Dis is the only person I know who has not had a relationship of some kind. Real life and online.
And most of my friends in real life are younger than me.

I am the same age as you and I have had no boyfriends in real life or on-line life. So stop complaining! You have a lot of time in front of you to mate. And a lot of my friends are younger than me too.

[mudbunny]

Says the woman in a relationship.

Let me make it clear that Dis is the only person I know who has not had a relationship of some kind. Real life and online.
And most of my friends in real life are younger than me.

FWIW, I didn't actually get into a relationship until I hit 23ish.

[ForzaFiori]

Call it mating season, call it me being just plain depressed and lonely, or call it the ludicrous number of relationships in the playground but I have only one question for ye assembled., and let it be marked this is probably the lowest I've ever sunk.

Why can't I find anybody?

look at it this way.
at least you havn't found the wrong person.
I, personally, would rather have been single most of this past school year rather than trying to work out my relationship with the girl i was dating off and on. It seemed like the right thing to do, but it wasn't worth it. Just stick through this season, and hope next year some really hot foreign exchange student falls madly in love with you XD.

Although i do wonder why you always find really cool people online, and never in real life...
its one of those questions of the ages i guess.