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2012-12-28, 02:51 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
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2012-12-28, 03:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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^: Pack prophylactics. I recommend storing them in a secreted altoid's tin. The tin for protection and secreted for reasons of context.
Hopefully the last girl you posted about isn't going to be one of the co-conspirators. On the other hand, I'm not sure whether it'd be better or worse narratively speaking for them to be doing this solo or as a group. That's ok, as long as it's not so ominous sounding that she runs screaming into the night, that's what the metaconversation is for after all.
Not much sense in a conversation if you're making the voicemail into a letter of correspondence and grievance and suchlike.
Ride easy, even.
Indeed, one rule of thumb I've found is that if there's any skeletons in one's closet, emotionally speaking, drinking will just bring 'em out in a most unpleasant, and potentially dangerous, way.
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2012-12-28, 03:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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...I'd watch it. Too much of a sitcom fan.
You're right though. Unless you form strong emotional attachments very quickly (which is problematic since most people don't) or your friends insist or retry after retry, it can only get better.
Either way, you'll have a story to tell to people later on. "This one time, at a convention..."Homebrewer's Signature | Avatar by Strawberries
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2012-12-28, 03:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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My dad has bought my prophylactics. He seems to think I have far better luck with the ladies than I actually do. He's pretty sure that the last girl I posted about is my girlfriend and not just a girl friend. I keep telling him she isn't, but he just thinks I'm being modest.
Hopefully the last girl you posted about isn't going to be one of the co-conspirators. On the other hand, I'm not sure whether it'd be better or worse narratively speaking for them to be doing this solo or as a group.
I'm like 95% sure my love life is being televised to intergalactic over-worlders so all you have to do is jack their cable.
You're right though. Unless you form strong emotional attachments very quickly (which is problematic since most people don't) or your friends insist or retry after retry, it can only get better.
Either way, you'll have a story to tell to people later on. "This one time, at a convention..."
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2012-12-28, 03:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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Well then, you already know about how they can be used as garrotes in a pinch and also double as potential balloons for celebrating their fail.
Ah, in that case either you're doomed or things are going to get interesting.
I can only hope that you managed to get something approaching a straight answer out of her too.
Something like that anyway, yeah. Usually taken care of in short order.
How dirty sounding.
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2012-12-28, 03:49 PM (ISO 8601)
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Middle school kids know how they double as balloons.
Ah, in that case either you're doomed or things are going to get interesting.
I can only hope that you managed to get something approaching a straight answer out of her too.
Something like that anyway, yeah. Usually taken care of in short order.
How dirty sounding.
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2012-12-28, 04:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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Yes, but I know better than to underestimate the gaps that can form in a person's knowledge set. No, I really don't, always doing it, you see.
Well, your gameness is certainly one thing, but, well, karma and dramatic necessity suggest that she's going to be a chekhov's gun of one sort or another.
Sounds like you haven't quite gotten a straight answer but one that'll do for now, I suppose.
That je ne sais quoi is important. C'est la guerre. At least in the timeline where she falls over herself confessing her feelings for you while you're both soaking wet, after a hilarious set of misadventures involving a bunch of yugioh abridged cosplayers, the girl she was trying to set you up with, and the hotel room above yours flooding quite catastrophically, you'll be able to let her down gently, I suppose.
That's a good saturday night, right there.
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2012-12-28, 04:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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You're so out of touch with kids these days.
Well, your gameness is certainly one thing, but, well, karma and dramatic necessity suggest that she's going to be a chekhov's gun of one sort or another.
Sounds like you haven't quite gotten a straight answer but one that'll do for now, I suppose.
That je ne sais quoi is important. C'est la guerre. At least in the timeline where she falls over herself confessing her feelings for you while you're both soaking wet, after a hilarious set of misadventures involving a bunch of yugioh abridged cosplayers, the girl she was trying to set you up with, and the hotel room above yours flooding quite catastrophically, you'll be able to let her down gently, I suppose.
2: True enough. But in the same timeline I might as well just give it a shot, because who knows. Even if it hasn't moved on from a small crush, it wouldn't hurt. I want to get some actual GF experience before college.
That's a good saturday night, right there.
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2012-12-28, 05:13 PM (ISO 8601)
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Kids today, they just don't understand what the jazz is all about.
Well, there was the event (DO NOT THINK ABOUT THE EVENT) and all, and then setting up such a classic scenario and being involved with plotting it. Just stands to reason that something's going to happen that'll be screwy.
Trust me, if things get hilariously misadventurey enough, there's going to be at least one hotel room involved and certainly there's at least one destroyed with every decent convention. Usually they're quite good about getting up all the blood but sometimes they forget to hide all of the scratchmarks and gouges in the bathtubs.
C'est la vie, I suppose. There's infinite simultaneous timelines where we're doing the hokey pokey right now anyway.
Sadly. T_T
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2012-12-28, 05:38 PM (ISO 8601)
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Sure, sure. But things can go good screwy. Right? ... RIGHT?
Trust me, if things get hilariously misadventurey enough, there's going to be at least one hotel room involved and certainly there's at least one destroyed with every decent convention. Usually they're quite good about getting up all the blood but sometimes they forget to hide all of the scratchmarks and gouges in the bathtubs.
- Me. Y'all know me.
- Julie, the aforementioned girl. Her idea to "get me a girl."
- Helen, the girl I was attracted to months ago, she's nuts. Will almost certainly have no interest in helping me "get a girl."
- Mary, she and Helen almost had a thing, she Julie, and myself have been hanging out a lot. She's Julie's #2 in "get me a girl."
- Tam, Tam is not crazy, Tam is a normal girl. Will probably be shanghaied into Julie's "get me a girl" plan.
- Van, he and Julie had a mini-hook up last year. He's sort of a kleptomaniac, but an otherwise alright guy.
- Curly, Curly's a fun dude and he and I were both after Helen for a long time. Is a dance God.
- Dan, Dan is a drunken stoner who the girls and I all try to avoid, but he had a mini-hook up with Tam last year and he shows up sometimes.
Tam, Julie, Helen, Mary, and myself all go to school together. Van, Curly, and Dan all live elsewhere and we only see them at cons, basically. No idea why I felt the need to relate this, but I did. Woop.
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2012-12-28, 05:57 PM (ISO 8601)
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Well, that depends on whether I'm a good kind of screwy or just screwy. I think you might get some hijinks that work out well in the longshot game, but it's unlikely that things going pearshaped is going to end up well even compared to the slim margins of success without getting pearshaped.
Well, something's going to happen. History abhors an anticlimax.
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2012-12-28, 06:01 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-28, 06:02 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
So basically, normally you're the guy in the group of girls.
That's basically what things have turned out like for me lots of times, except in highschool. Elementary school? Me, my best friend (a guy I actually bullied at first) and five girls. University? During Philosophy it was me, this older guy I hung out with a rare few times who was pretty charismatic (but who did the study in record time and was prettymuch out after a year and a half) and three girls. During Psychology it was me, this girl I was interested in and two other girls (actually two different groups, both with the same make-up, one in year one, one in year two).
During highschool, it was a lot different. Except during trips, like the week-long hike through Luxemburg (I was too enthusiastic with climbing and thus ended up being the only guy with major blisters; plus I was the first to leap into a river to go swimming, only being following by one guy and four girls, the rest was too wussy) or the week in Greece (hung out a lot with different people over the course of it and got major props for keeping a journal of the trip, including costs of stuff, quotes from people and a list of Wild West-themed nicknames; on this trip I also found out the benefit of hanging out with girls on trips, even if they're just your friends or semi-strangers: extra food!).
Man, thinking back on everything like that makes me think about how different I would've been if my two best friends hadn't moved away in my first year of school. I would've undoubtedly been a proto-stereotypical jock.
I have invaded Russia. She was nice woman.Last edited by Morph Bark; 2012-12-28 at 06:03 PM.
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2012-12-28, 06:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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More and more so. The group of dudes I hung out with since Freshman year's been through some crap. One of the dudes moved away, one goes to online school, one I've just never been that close to, I got into a fight with one, and several went on to college. The girls I hang out with now are the female "side" of that group, and everyone gets together for big events, but yeah. Not to say I don't hang out with the guys, but I hang out with girls more regularly now.
That's basically what things have turned out like for me lots of times, except in highschool. Elementary school? Me, my best friend (a guy I actually bullied at first) and five girls. University? During Philosophy it was me, this older guy I hung out with a rare few times who was pretty charismatic (but who did the study in record time and was prettymuch out after a year and a half) and three girls. During Psychology it was me, this girl I was interested in and two other girls (actually two different groups, both with the same make-up, one in year one, one in year two).
During highschool, it was a lot different. Except during trips, like the week-long hike through Luxemburg (I was too enthusiastic with climbing and thus ended up being the only guy with major blisters; plus I was the first to leap into a river to go swimming, only being following by one guy and four girls, the rest was too wussy) or the week in Greece (hung out a lot with different people over the course of it and got major props for keeping a journal of the trip, including costs of stuff, quotes from people and a list of Wild West-themed nicknames; on this trip I also found out the benefit of hanging out with girls on trips, even if they're just your friends or semi-strangers: extra food!).
Man, thinking back on everything like that makes me think about how different I would've been if my two best friends hadn't moved away in my first year of school. I would've undoubtedly been a proto-stereotypical jock.
I have invaded Russia. She was nice woman.
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2012-12-28, 06:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-28, 06:42 PM (ISO 8601)
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Ultimately? While I enjoyed hanging out with the girls, half the time it was primarily because I liked one of them (half those times also knowing they liked me back). Heck, if you'd count elementary school puppy love as a relationship, I had my first one with one of those girls, albeit short-lived (I forgot if it was two weeks or two days though, something to do with her parents disapproving of her hanging out with me).
Curiously enough, after I had a falling out with both groups of girls at Psychology, I hung out more with the guys and gals from the Psychology student union of that university, and those girls never failed to eat everything they ordered. One was even a major KFC fan. She was the skinniest of the bunch (though she was the tallest). It was a whole new world for me.
Ah, the life you would've lead, eh?
...I've probably gone a bit too much off the rails here, but I guess knowing such things gives valuable subtext in knowing a person and thus what kind of relationships theirs are like (or what they want them to be like), I guess? And I just noticed I used "I guess" twice in that sentence for the same thing. Drat.
Congratulations to you sir for succeeding where Napoleon and Hitler failed.Last edited by Morph Bark; 2012-12-28 at 06:43 PM.
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2012-12-29, 11:39 AM (ISO 8601)
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Bah, I want someone to rant at. Through pm preferably.
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2012-12-29, 12:04 PM (ISO 8601)
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Feel free to.
Though with me you might have to be sure not to drop names of places, considering we live in the same country and it's pretty darn small.Homebrewer's Signature | Avatar by Strawberries
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2012-12-30, 12:47 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: Relationship Woes and Advice 23: Answer Unclear, Try Again
My last girlfriend was about 5 years older than me and I've never thought twice about dating a girl that was older than me (I still wouldn't go more than 10 years). My question comes to rather when I flirt with an older girl and she makes a big deal about the age difference, how do I deflect the issue?
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2012-12-30, 12:49 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-30, 03:04 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-31, 07:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-31, 09:33 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-31, 09:47 AM (ISO 8601)
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Sorta this. Sometimes people freak out over silly things. But if you've talked it out, you have calmly, confidently and non-pressurely laid out your opinion, and she still thinks it's a big deal... walk away. It's okay for age to be a deal breaker.
I vote "talk about it", incidentally. If it's a genuine concern, you do not want to be that jerk who brushes it off, and if it's a minor concern, the talk will be quick and painless. No way to lose
Edit: Also, make sure to listen. You may have decided that it's not a big deal, but she obviously still has concerns that need adressing, and the age thing may even be a shorthand for another problem (like, "I can't date someone in college because that's too different a stage of life" or "my last SO was much younger, and that gave so much trouble, and I don't want that again" or anything else!). So, listen and adress rather than try to convince. Nobody likes feeling dismissed or pressured.
Good luck!Last edited by Glass Mouse; 2012-12-31 at 09:51 AM.
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2012-12-31, 09:48 AM (ISO 8601)
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Alternatively, don't spill your age and look or act older.
When I don't shave, strangers apparently think I look 17. At the same time, guessing by personality alone, there have been people who have thought I was any adult age up to 30.Homebrewer's Signature | Avatar by Strawberries
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2012-12-31, 09:50 AM (ISO 8601)
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Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
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2012-12-31, 09:51 AM (ISO 8601)
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The oldest I've been mistaken for (except for by children) was twenty-two; I'm eighteen.
In my experience even if you tell somebody you're several years younger, if you brush off the issue when it's brought up directly and just act older the rest of the time, it should work out. Apparently though that's considered a bad idea, and I'm just lucky that way?Jude P.
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2012-12-31, 09:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
Order of the Stick Projects:
Annotation of the Comic | Magic Compendium of the Comic | Transcription of the Comic
Dad-a-chum? Dum-a-chum? Ded-a-chek? Did-a-chick?
Extended Signature | My DeviantArt | Majora's Mask Point Race
(you can't take the sky from me)
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2012-12-31, 10:04 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-12-31, 10:22 AM (ISO 8601)
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The scary part is now I'm catching up with the age people continually thought I was (25 now).
In a completely unrelated area, would it be *bad* to ask out the girl who was all sexy times two weeks ago and said she was going "get me a girl" next month?
I realize that is a really vague question.
Although, perhaps this mission is inspired by the events that transpired? Perhaps she feels bad about it and wants you to have more than she has to offer at this time?Scientific Name: Wombous apocolypticus | Diet: Apocolypse Pie | Cuddly: Yes
World Building Projects:
Magic: The Stuff of Sentience | Fate: The Fabric of Physics | Luck: The Basis of Biology
Order of the Stick Projects:
Annotation of the Comic | Magic Compendium of the Comic | Transcription of the Comic
Dad-a-chum? Dum-a-chum? Ded-a-chek? Did-a-chick?
Extended Signature | My DeviantArt | Majora's Mask Point Race
(you can't take the sky from me)