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2014-12-08, 03:30 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
It isn't a big enough deal for me to care that much, I'm not resentful or offended really. It just felt weird and I wondered if this was odd behavior or fairly typical, that's all. I never even noticed, or at least didn't consciously register, the RWA thread until minutes after I posted this question and immediately realized it would have fit better there, haha.
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2014-12-08, 04:23 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
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2014-12-08, 04:38 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-08, 04:55 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-08, 05:04 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
People aren't exactly tripping over themselves to date me. A lazy overweight slob with psychosis, depression, abnormally strong body odor, and financially dependent on his family past the midpoint of his twenties?
The handful of people who have said they would be interested are either hundreds/thousands of miles away or are pretty cretinous.
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2014-12-08, 05:22 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Maybe, but that doesn't mean that nobody would want to date you.
A lazy
overweight
psychosis
depression
abnormally strong body odor
financially dependent on his family past the midpoint of his twenties
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2014-12-08, 09:31 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
My wife (who I love with all my heart) is lazy and obese. Then again, I'm rather lazy, too, and am overweight.
psychosis,
depression,
abnormally strong body odor,
and financially dependent on his family past the midpoint of his twenties?
If my point hasn't come across... None of what you have said makes you unlovable.Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.
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2014-12-08, 01:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
I don't want to be too desmotivacional but can't you do anything about it?
I'm so tired of all my gay friends wanting to date super models who are: Muscular,manly, healthy, stylish and intellectual while not even being near that themselves. Worst doing nothing to achieve that.
How Can you expect to date someone that hot if you are not doing anything for yourself? Nothing about your own looks.
Ask yourself. Would you date you ?If the answer is no THERE IS SOMETHING REALLY WRONG HERE.
I really hope I'm not being offensive. But can't you do something about your condition and change? If you are unhappy with it.
Go to a gym or just exercise at home if you don't have the money for that right now, take a bath? Or a shower? If it is a more serious thing... Go see a doctor.
I mean sitting around crying and complaining won't change a thing. And the prince/princess charming won't fall in your lap.Last edited by Zurvan; 2014-12-08 at 01:35 PM.
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2014-12-08, 01:40 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
This isn't exactly a fair benchmark, as not everyone is attracted to people of the same type that they themselves fall into. My D&D group contains a married couple consisting of one short, withdrawn, twink-ish, late-20s Chinese programmer and one tall, boisterous, bear-ish, late-30s white Texan sales rep, and they've been in a happy relationship for years with plenty of previous dating/relationship experience, but would never consider dating themselves.
Going by golentan's post, there have been people interested in him, and he hasn't turned them down just for not being supermodels or anything like that, so this isn't at all a case of too-high standards and blindness to one's own failings as you imply.
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2014-12-08, 02:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
I don't do much besides shower daily and shave whenever I remember (although my trimmer is broken so...beard time?). I don't even dress well—cargo pants/shorts and a t-shirt or scrubs. And a decent number of people seem to think I'm attractive. It's largely dependent on a. what's there to work with (because let's face it, I'm gorgeous ) and b. subjective opinion, with (b) being the actual serious significant factor.
Ask yourself. Would you date you? If the answer is no THERE IS SOMETHING REALLY WRONG HERE.
I really hope I'm not being offensive. But can't you do something about your condition and change? If you are unhappy with it.
Go to a gym or just exercise at home if you don't have the money for that right now, take a bath? Or a shower? If it is a more serious thing... Go see a doctor.
I mean sitting around crying and complaining won't change a thing. And the prince/princess charming won't fall in your lap.Jude P.
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2014-12-08, 02:08 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
I don't want to dismiss anybody's feelings of course, but it seems to me the present discussion would be more at home in the support thread, or possibly the relationships thread.
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2014-12-08, 02:20 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
I got some more information about the presentation. I'll speak with him again this evening as well.
From my friend: "It is going to be for students in higher education who are LGBT, questioning and allies. I'd like you to present on allyship, specifically when allyship isn't easy. Your ability to interrupt conversations around rape, homophobia, etc is excellent- I would want you to share those skills and techniques with the students. One hour workshop with 10-50 participants based on interest. "
One hour workshop? Suddenly, panic."We have sent many to Hell, to smooth our way," said I, "and we are standing yet and holding blades. What more?"- Roger Zelazny, This Immortal
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2014-12-08, 02:23 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Oh, that actually sounds like a neat topic. How to stand up to other cis/straight people when they say something that's not okay.
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2014-12-09, 12:15 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Wanted to post thought on my sexuality.(While playing video games at the same time).
So thinking about things, I notice guys are attractive fairly often. I don't feel certain if I really would enjoy close personal relations. I do think about it quite a lot, especially about some of the nicer guys I know. But when I look for entertainment online I generally don't find it very appealing although that might relate to stylistic issues. And when I think about relationships I seem to default to thinking about women. Partially because I don't have any really close friendships with guys. And I don't connect with them as much in class. But maybe that reflects my desire for a relationship leading me to focus on women.
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2014-12-09, 12:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
As a lawyer, my curiosity is piqued as to how that worked out. Usually, one doesn't wind up jobless a couple years out of law school, even if yo're not in your mid 20s and raring to work 15 hours days 6 days a week.
For what it's worth, I've never found any of the "online entertainment" to match up with anything in reality. It may or may not be arousing, but it's quite different and not necessarily something you should use as a barometer for how you feel.
The rest, *shrug* If it's pure social expectation, it probably won't be enough to drive you to do anything if you're not really feeling it inside.
edit: which is to say, don't worry about your expectations. Just enjoy doing things and see what happens.
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2014-12-09, 06:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Good question. I interned for a year with a prosecutor while in law school, and did a paid Fellowship with a public defender earlier this year. My problem seems to be that (1) there's a glut of entry-level criminal attorneys, and (2) attorneys with a few years of experience are moving around, taking the few jobs there are. (At the end of my Fellowship, a job came open in that office. I thought I was a shoe-in for it. The PD, all the attorneys, and the staff liked me. Until a guy who'd worked for a PD in another city for 3 years applied. As the Deputy PD told me when I asked, "that was something we could not turn down.")
I've applied for every prosecutor and PD job in the state for 2 years and gotten nothing. (That includes offices in the middle of nowhere, where I can't imagine they got a lot of applications.) I get interviews, and even sometimes second round interviews, but in the end, nothing. I'm still trying (and have a few applications still pending).
I'm also on e-mail lists for attorney jobs around the state, and apply for all the ones I find that I could possibly be considered qualified for. I don't even get interviews from those.Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.
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2014-12-09, 01:55 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. Sadly.
I'd suggest looking into pro bono stuff in your area. There are always legal services people that are looking for able bodies and a big part of the attorney jobs market these days is getting two years of experience under your belt so that you can apply to all the jobs that require it. It's not quite criminal, but stuff like keeping people from losing their homes is pretty rewarding if you can afford to eat the fact that it comes with nada in terms of financial reward.
Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss more. I don't want to fling the thread too wildly off topic.
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2014-12-10, 03:16 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-12, 07:08 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
What is worse to hurt yourself or the people you love?
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2014-12-12, 08:06 AM (ISO 8601)
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Completely depends on the situation. There are times when each is preferable over the other.
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2014-12-13, 11:14 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-13, 02:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
It's generally better to be less philosophical and more pragmatic about coming out, especially during financially and economically vulnerable formative years. Also, the framing leaves something to be desired, because it's not really *hurting* one's homophobic relatives if they react badly to the news.
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2014-12-13, 04:54 PM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-14, 12:42 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-14, 11:30 AM (ISO 8601)
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2014-12-14, 03:16 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Is it like the difference between the hurt brought by an unfortunate fall in the stairs ("ouch, my arm") and the harm it brings ("welp, now my arm's broke, I won't be able to work anymore, therefore I'll lose my job, and I don't know if I'll completely recover from that injury")? Where the two can be dissociated - you'll feel suffering in the moment but won't suffer consequences in the long term, or you might hardly realize what happened but it'll directly cause your life to change in bad ways?
Originally Posted by on Dwarf Fortress succession gamesOriginally Posted by Dwarf Fortress 0.40.01 bugs
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2014-12-14, 03:38 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
A better example of the difference might be setting the bone. Leave it alone and it may hurt less than putting it back where it belongs, but the harm brought by a permanent, crippling injury is great, while the harm of setting a bone is negligible.
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2014-12-14, 04:10 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Right, that's an interpretation and simile that make more sense, thanks.
(Still gonna wait on SiuiS for final clarification though...)Originally Posted by on Dwarf Fortress succession gamesOriginally Posted by Dwarf Fortress 0.40.01 bugs
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2014-12-15, 02:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAI+ Questions and Discussion thread II: Make It Double
Sounds like "hurt" is "suffering an injury" and "harm" is "negative consequences of the injury"?
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