Relationship Woes and Advice, Trip to Baator

[Rutskarn]

Oh...kay.

Here's one. Use this as often as possible.

Ready?

"Billirubin".

[Dr. Bath]

No, not really, I'm new at school

Yes but you have presumably spoken to her already, thus revealing that you are not in fact in possession of a British accent of any kind.

You should go about obtaining a Scouse accent though. That is the surest way to any maiden's heart.

Heheh. Scouse.

[Froogleyboy]

Oh...kay.

Here's one. Use this as often as possible.

Ready?

"Billirubin".

What, prey tell, does that mean

[Player_Zero]

What, prey tell, does that mean

It means we can't believe how indescribably ridiculous you're being.

We think less of you because of this.

And it's 'pray tell'.

[Dr. Bath]

It is in fact only one letter off of meaning 'yellow breakdown product of normal heme catabolism'

Learn something new er'eday.

[Blaine.Bush]

Tea.

..wait.

[MethosH]

Tea.

..wait.

I don't know why.. But I can't stop laughing at this quote.

[The Neoclassic]

I don't know why.. But I can't stop laughing at this quote.

OK, so now we both know what he's talking about I guess? Back to the other thread?

Silly, but not worth getting upset over.

Besides, why does no one ever remember the key to getting a relationship. Just be yourself!

[MethosH]

Actually I don't think we know... Since he said he already made people upset before.. and I don't actually see anyone upset here.

Anyway, this thread should be merged to Relationships advices thread

[Blaine.Bush]

Eh, like you're gonna find a meaningful relationship in middle school anyways?

[Moff Chumley]

It means we can't believe how indescribably ridiculous you're being.

We think less of you because of this.

And it's 'pray tell'.

Give it a rest, P_Z. We can't all be as classy & tactful as yourself.

[Player_Zero]

Give it a rest, P_Z. We can't all be as classy & tactful as yourself.

No, no, I was justified this time.

It's just the other times I'm irritable, cynical and sarcastic.

[Moff Chumley]

Pray tell, then, how you were justified?

[Player_Zero]

He was being indescribably ridiculous and I thought less of him because of it is how.

[Moff Chumley]

*headdesk*

He said something silly. Big freaking deal. Get over yourself, you're proving more stereotypes than you're combating at the moment...

[Coidzor]

I didn't think it was possible for you to think less of any of us.

Anyhoo. The path to a woman's heart is a club to the head and dragging her back to your cave via the hair.

Oh no, wait, that's the path to an offensive stereotype of cave-men...

Hmm...Be generally out-going, friendly, and test out her defenses to figure out how you're supposed to flirt with her. Since they do vary between women.

[xPANCAKEx]

Froogleyboy

Player_Zero is right - you are being rediculous.

trying to win this girl over by being something your not is never going to work long term, and is also likely to blow up in your face. You're new to the school, so give it time. While new social environments do present the opertunity to re-invent ourselves a bit (caste of old habits/try new things), outright lying is never going to work.

seriously. Do not even attempt to be "british". You will be labelled creepy, a try hard, and at worst a liar.

As you're new to the school, i would concentrate on forming a few solid friendships first before worrying about a relationship, or it may lead to all sorts of pitfalls such as social dependency, which will not be healthy for you at all

[Player_Zero]

*headdesk*

He said something silly. Big freaking deal. Get over yourself, you're proving more stereotypes than you're combating at the moment...

Ah yes, that stereotype of finding stupid things stupid. How could I ever have forgotten it.

Why won't you let me in, Moff. Learn to love me. Just as I love you. Well, actually I don't like you very much because you insult me out of nowhere for pointing out obvious things and then you seem to have invented a personal delusion about how this was some sort of ego trip on my part.

Really. He was being stupid. It was obvious.

[Umael]

This thread just makes me look like an ass

There is some good in all this.

1) Years from now, you will look back on this and laugh. What you were thinking about doing is something you would see in a sitcom, or a comedy-romance.

2) Keeping to the whole "be yourself" thing, after you have been talking to this girl for a while, you could admit that after you heard she had a thing for British accents, you could try to make her laugh by making an obvious and overplayed attempt at one.

OR... you could be more serious and tell her than when you heard, you wanted to imitate a British accent in other to seem more attractive to her because you are attracted to her.

Of course, you need to be able to talk to her as a person first.

[xPANCAKEx]

boys and girls... play nice on this thread

you may not always like what each other has to say, but keep it polite at least.

Moff Chumley and Player_Zero - agree to disagree and move on, or take it to PMs otherwise this will be another locked thread and its no fun/help for the everyone else

but back on point...

umael / Froogleyboy

umael is right - you'll look back and laugh. You contemplated doing something silly, but you haven't done... you're living and learning like the rest of us :)

i wouldn't admit that you've thought about to her (that may come across as creepy), but the making a joke out of it may be a viable option. One route you could persue is asking her "so how many people have tried to win you over by trying and failing to immitate a brit accent? Bet you must have heard some terrible attempts in the past" then proceed to break out a few of the worst you can muster (preferably with overblown and commical hand actions/body language - do voices/accents alone and she may miss the point its a joke). Follow it up with something snippy like "yeeeep, real suave" and give her a wink and you'll soon have her laughing. The key of this one is a) it will be theraputic for you, but laughing as yourself always helps getting over simple mistakes b) shows her you've got a sense of humour... at other peoples expense c) will make her laugh

b & c can make you a very attractive proposition in her eyes, or at least if she talks to her friends about you she'll say good things. Being "great to talk to" or "f*ckin hilarious" are never bad adjectives to have applied to you in new social situations

[Ninja Chocobo]

I got a date.

News at eleven.

[evil-frosty]

Ok, had time to finally think, and Pyrian you are right i was obsessing over her, stupid me. Anyway first step is admitting it right? But so anyway i now know i should just out a girl i would like to get to know better and try to keep a casual relationship with her, am i right on this (double checking)? And then what exactly is a casual relationship? I dont really know. Thank You for everything so far.

[xPANCAKEx]

I got a date.

News at eleven.

Excellent news!

when/where you taking em out to?

[Coidzor]

Ok. So I started having dreams about her again. Which has got me stuck on figuring just what my position on her is.

Which just hurts. And yet sometimes it hurts in a good way. But I'm sick of this limbo.

Gah... I feel like I should be pulling my hair out right now.

[xPANCAKEx]

Ok. So I started having dreams about her again. Which has got me stuck on figuring just what my position on her is.

Which just hurts. And yet sometimes it hurts in a good way. But I'm sick of this limbo.

Gah... I feel like I should be pulling my hair out right now.

sometimes its best not to label things. Just accept that there are still feelings there (to what ever extent that they may be)

what you have to figure out is what you actually want from the situation and consider your approach on making steps to obtaining that goal. It may not work out entirely as planned, but as long as you're moving forward and not just dwelling you'll pull through just fine regardless of how it pans out

[Coidzor]

That's the problem... I can't figure out what to do.

I do want her back, but right now we're not on speaking terms and I don't even know why because as far as I can tell, I didn't do anything.

I mean, we both agreed to keep in touch and stay friends and were continuing to do so while she was in china studying abroad, she got upset because her other friends weren't really staying in touch with her (she has since apologized to me for that misplaced resentment) and that I got worried when I found out she broke her foot out there.

She became my best friend before we started dating and now I can't stop thinking of her that way. I was content just to be friends with her but this whole wall between us that has arisen out of my acting the part of a friend has left me with just my thoughts and the lack of urgency of her right there next to me to sort through them.

And I've realized that what I felt for her, what I feel for her, is the closest thing to "real love" that exists. I'm pretty damn sure I never loved anyone before her this way.

I just feel all muddled and like I've been muddled since just before we broke up.

And I keep getting these dreams.

[Lappy9000]

I posted here a little while back, and got some very good advice from Zeful, Alarra, Hadrian_Emrys, and tusu47.

First off, I didn't take your advice directly. Sorry
However! I did apply what suggestions I got to my situation and instead casually asked "Meryl" on a date about three weeks later, and she accepted! I'm driving down to her town very soon!

The folks here give awesome advice, but you know the situation better than they do, so sometimes it may be best to follow your gut, but to use their counsel as a guidance system.

[xPANCAKEx]

Lappy9000

glad to hear its working out well

you're right - the final decision (and full knowledge) of the situation is entirely down to the poster. This thread is only a guide, and should never be taken as a place for people to decide what you'll do

hope it all continues well for you - my one piece of advice now that you've asked her out is strike while the iron is hot. Get down there asap

[Coidzor]

Yeah... Good luck, man.

Most of what I'm posting is just a woe. I just...gah... need to get it off of my chest.

[Syka]

I'm just wondering if anyone else may have...insight into this, although I'm not sure there's really much insight to be had here. I'll refer to them as Jack and Jill.

The story as we know it: Jack met a girl on Monday night. Jill wanted to join them (Jack and a mutual friend) with another mutual friend at the girls apartment. Jack told her "I can't bring some random b****** to her house". Jack is told by: family, close friends, and the owner of a shop he's at all the time to not do what he does. Jack moves in with the girl on Wednesday night, same week- two days after meeting. Jack tells Jill this, who was previously unaware that evidently their engagement was off and he was with the new girl.

We have no way of contacting Jack, since Jill had been paying for his phone and he left it with her I guess, other than the Other Girls phone- whom none of us know how to contact. Granted I don't know his side of the story but unless rash decision making is attributed to his medication or the schizophrenia (it's sometimes comorbid with manic depression I think, which a manic episode may explain this), I can't really see WHY he'd do something like that or how I'd want to know him again.

I'm just trying understand why he'd do that. It's one thing to end a relationship, and they have had a few breaks over the last year, but it's never been this way. It just doesn't really make sense. If he wanted to end it with Jill, who can be difficult to deal with at times, he's done it before and he has ways of getting out without a problem, so no exit isn't really an issue.

Can anyone here figure it out at all?