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Thread: LGBTAitP - Part 21: BLACKJACK!
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I'm currently reading a novel written in 1979 where an inspector is investigating the death of a priest, featuring the following dialogue:
- "Do you think that perhaps he might have liked the choir boys a little too much?"
- "Oh, no, I don't believe he was a homosexual, and if he was then his persuasion must have been of a very passive, gentle nature."
The book continues to use "homosexual" throughout in the meaning of "pedophile". This edition published in 1994, reprinted in 1998.
I was really shocked that they hadn't corrected it at the time of republishing, but then I wondered wether it might not be better to keep them for historical relevance. We're not changing all the "*******" and "negroes" in Uncle Tom's Cabin into african-americans either, after all.Last edited by Taffimai; 2012-02-23 at 11:19 AM.
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I've been trying to think of a gender neutral name I like to start using, but I've been having trouble. I think I just worked out why.
I don't want to step away from the name my parents gave me, because that feels like stepping away from them, rejecting them. I asked what I'd have been called had I been a girl, and got Naomi. I really like that, and would feel comfortable using it, but it's no more gender neutral than Thomas. And neither of them diminutise to anything gender neutral either. I suppose I could go with Nay, but that still sounds weird to me.Quotebox
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2012-02-23, 12:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Forewords and footnotes don't hurt.
Dashiell Hammett seems to have been at least mildly homophobic, but, alas, he lived and wrote several decades before your example.
Spoiler(He took pride in sneaking in the word "gunsel", a slang word for either being a young male prostitute or the "passive" partner in a... well. *cough* The editors, and the readers, thought the word meant gunman, and the word got a new meaning as a result.)
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As far as I'm concerned, it always has been, provided it was with its parent or guardian in its family home up until it was 18, and no restrictions after that!
That makes marginally more sense to me. Why do people insist on coming up with hateful quaint beliefs?
Speaking as someone who rejected my given name, and not even for legitimate gender-related reasons, I can attest that it can be difficult to mess with names without upsetting parents. My advice is to talk to them about it. They must know that you want to diminish or play with your gender presentation. They might have a name they considered that's more gender neutral; what would they have called a second son or daughter (or bigger number, depending on siblings)? What would they suggest as a gender-neutral nickname?
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Tommy can apparently be male or female. Spell it Tommi and make a little heart for the dot over the i.
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Would you believe I was thinking about gender-neutral versions of Tom just yesterday? No, I don't know why. I got as far as "Thom", though, but decided it didn't work.
Tommi seems possible, though.The Iron Avatarist Hall of Fame!
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@ Heliomance: Have you considered going by your surname? This works in most social settings, even those where people would know your official name, and very few people consider it weird. I'm still traumatised from all the times I was introduced to new colleagues and had to be grilled about why I wanted to be called Anne* instead of Cinderella*.
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*Hugs* I think it fits our feminist rants, actually...
It can also smoke! Though it was already smoking...
You know, I actually haven't heard the child molester bit outside of things that directly involved the stereotype... I always heard that we* molest adults (sometimes even women ).
* - 's far's they're concerned, I'm especially gay - not that I have a problem with being assumed to have a good decorating sense, mind.
Well, it would explain my claws... :we should have a lizardfolk smiley:
Huh? I thought you were there when it all went down last thread.
I expressed relief in retrospect that my mistake in adding a subtitle hadn't been repeated. That perked up the ears of several people and once you've got people having fun with coming up with them, there's no going back.
I should've kept quiet. I really, really should have.
This may help a bit (moreso if you start from the start ) (thanks yet a third time, Astrella ).
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That's a good one, actually... (curse you, Asta! )
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Well, Kobolds are asexual underground reptilian humanoids infiltrating human society for the hats and cookies, so there could have arosen some confusion there.
Five over here, unless we have that thing Kender mentioned. Which we might. :3
On the music note: I usually don't like Techno either, but I would have to listen to the suggestions before my vote would be fair. My ren-fair vote goes to Celtic music, though.Treasured Quotes
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Hammett did that solely to see if he could get away with it. His editors kept censoring him, so he started using words to see if they caught it. They didn't, and thus it become slang for "gunman".
And given this explanation came long before "gay" became acceptable, combined with his other attitudes, I"m inclined to believe him.
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Hmmm, I think there might be some parental issues here..what do you guys think?
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Edit: What I typed could easily be misread. What I meant by it is how excited they seem in the article about him being gay and out at the age of 7. They might have influenced him, he might not even know one way or the other. When I was 7 I thought boys were just awful, that I would never be around them.
That did not last. I think he's just using the wrong word, if it was a 11 or 12 year old, I could believe it. But...7? I have a 3 year old son, and if he said he was gay I'd most likely roll my eyes. If he was 7 I'd just shrug, if he was 11 I'd take it more seriously, if he was 14...well he should know by then.Last edited by Lady Tialait; 2012-02-23 at 02:52 PM.
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Interesting article. I too find it difficult to imagine orientation being discernible at seven, but then, I never reached an age of liking girls (or boys). I guess it might be possible to tell before puberty, but I don't feel like it would be really noticeable until puberty kicks in and the sex drive becomes active.
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I grew up knowing a "Danni", so no, I'd say that stereotype doesn't even hold true in the US. I might tend to think that people who make up really oddly-spelled names are hipsters, but not that names ending in "i" go with strippers.
IN OTHER NEWS, I followed the Hanako path in Whoop-dee-doo Girls. It was cute.Last edited by noparlpf; 2012-02-23 at 03:46 PM.
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On potentially gay 7 year old: I dunno, I think it (romantic attraction) kicks in at different times for different kids (or not at all), but generally before full sexual attraction (if it shows up). But we know sexual feelings, or nebulous proto-sexual feelings, can show up in pre-primary children, so why not? Like the mom said, he might "change his mind", by realising he wasn't actually attracted to boy-types. But I think it's completely valid, either as an early realisation or as a phase, and since he knows what the word actually means (as much as kids know these things) and seems happy, I think the parents are doing just fine.
Ugh, that's annoying.
Nope. Except maybe if the name is already associated with that kind of vibe, like, I dunno, Candy/Candi (giant apologies if anyone's name is Candi). But generally it's just an accepted, usually feminine, alternative spelling. Here, anyway. I've known such names as Sammi or Sandi. Haven't come across Tommi, but I would accept it as a name, guess probably a girl's name.
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I'd say he's going through a phase of liking to say he's gay. Whether he's gay or not, who knows. I mean, I'm 18 and I only realised for certain I was straight when I was about 16, and even now I'm open to the thought that I can't empirically say I'm not Bi considering I might have just not met the right girl.
But yeah. From my understanding, confusion occurs to a lot of people over the years. Some get a certainty right from the start. No idea which it is with this kid, but doesn't really matter - he's happy, parents don't care, s'all good, right?"I'm just going on motive and opportunity here and the fact that if the earth got swallowed by a black hole, I'd look suspiciously in your direction first."
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I'm also sceptical, but what I consider to be the most important part of this story is not that a 7-year-old would be certain of his attraction or even know what it is, but that his parents don't think it's a big deal either way.
So whatever happens, yay for that family.Originally Posted by on Dwarf Fortress succession gamesOriginally Posted by Dwarf Fortress 0.40.01 bugs
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I can without doubt tell you that deep down I've known that I was bi since I was 4. I just didn't have the words to describe it or any idea of the concept of sexuality or attraction. I kissed my first boy at 8 and then suppressed this through my teens until just a couple of years ago when I started discovering it again and it's been less then two years now since I accepted it. But I've always known.
So yeah it wouldn't surprise me that a kid raised around some gay people (the article mentioned that the parents have some gay friends) would know at an early age."Elephant trunks should be used for elephant things only. Nothing else."
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I think the 'rule' is a little different when the name is usually male. Not sure why...
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On the seven-year old gay boy... I remember kissing another boy when I was... seven? And he very definitely had a crush on me. So I don't find it implausible at all.
What a weird memory. I wonder if someone completely swapped my personality when I turned 9 or something
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