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2007-11-09, 07:07 AM (ISO 8601)
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Yeah, allows me to feel I've admitted it, but doesn't make people think any less of me. You know what, I really don't care about how people perceive me. Never really have, don't know why I would now... I'm going to torture some sales associates.
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2007-11-09, 08:46 AM (ISO 8601)
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This thread is making me seriouly regret my username.
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2007-11-09, 09:41 AM (ISO 8601)
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There you go, Rex! That's the attitude to have!
@Alarra: I don't have any problem being used as a source for your paper, either by my posts or by interview. Onward, serendipity!
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2007-11-09, 04:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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I'm a straight guy, but I think what you folks are doing is great. Good luck with the email list.
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2007-11-09, 05:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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I've been thinking thw whole day on what to say to you Rex.
You seem to be quite confused on how you percieve yourself, which is nothing unusual for someone within your age (you're 17, if I recall correctly).
So, first thing I belive you should do is try to cross dress in order to find out how you feel in "girl" mode. You trully need to do that clear up some confusion in your mind.
If you think you won't have guts to buy the needed clothing, try to do this:
First, try to find out what are your measures.
With that numbers at hand, go shopping. Tell the clerk you're looking for some clothing to give to your sister, cousin or girlfriend. The clerk clearly doesn't need to know that it's for you, nor anyone else at the shop.
Then hand him over the measures and choose between what he shows you.
You'll surelly find something that will apraise to you.
Then buy it.
It's quite easy, actually.
After you cross dress for the first, you'll find some direction.
Hugs,
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2007-11-09, 05:38 PM (ISO 8601)
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'lready in hose... Make my legs stand out. Surprisingly comfortable. No one asked, but I was planning to do what I always do in such situation, tell the truth so it sounds like sarcasm.
I'm nineteen, and now once I accepted it, my brain's focusing all the memories of stuff relating to this. I'm pretty sure my mom has an idea, because she once asked me to sit down with her while she was watching a thing on transgenderism. I was in awe the whole way through the program. It's been on my mind for a while, but I suppressed it to lead at least a semi-normal life, I have no clue why I did that. Even so, there are quite a few times when I absolutely freaked because of little things, I realize that it was like my cover was being blown. Like when they gave me a blouse to wear at McDonald's, because they ran out of men's shirts. It was surprisingly comfortable, and felt good in a bad way.
Like I said, I don't care anymore...
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2007-11-09, 06:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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Good to hear that you sorted it out.
And hoses are trully confortable. Too bad I can't stand using them during summer...LGBT in the playground - banner by Doihaveaname?.
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2007-11-09, 06:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Indeed. I wish I owned some... well, really I just wish I had a more robust wardrobe, but... money is the enemy. Or lack of it, anyway.
Anyway... congratulations, Rex, on accepting yourself. I hope it's a step that will help you in other areas of life, as well.
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2007-11-09, 06:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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... and my mom freaked, thinking I stole hers.
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2007-11-09, 06:48 PM (ISO 8601)
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O.o
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but just...no. Not here.avatar by kuja.girl
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2007-11-09, 06:52 PM (ISO 8601)
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Bluelantern: you need to remove that link. That is so far out of line with the forum rules that it isn't funny...
This isn't the place for that.
edit: Rex - keep us posted, if you wouldn't mind. I'm not really sure what to make of your mother's initial reaction, although I imagine it is just that. See how she handles this later.Last edited by PhoeKun; 2007-11-09 at 06:55 PM.
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2007-11-09, 06:56 PM (ISO 8601)
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2007-11-09, 07:36 PM (ISO 8601)
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2007-11-09, 08:27 PM (ISO 8601)
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Does anyone have information on LGBT charities? I'm active in my school's GSWA and were looking for a worthy charity.
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2007-11-10, 04:08 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-11-10, 04:44 AM (ISO 8601)
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We have two anonymous e-mails today.
I'll post them now and I'll be back to comment on them later, my anonymous friends. Now I need a small nap to get myself back together.
Edit: Okay, I'm rested enough and I'm have a clear mind now. Let me try to adress the posts below, then.
Originally Posted by Anonymous Person
From what I see, he was projecting his own frustrations over you, and you didn't know exactly how to deal with it. He was so desperate for help, and saw you as a safe port.
He was the one who was confused about his own sexual identity (mostly likely due to his depression). You did what a caring friend would do.
I'm glad to hear that it's over.
Once again, hugs.
Beatrice.
Originally Posted by Anonymous Person
Hugs for you as well.
Beatrice.Last edited by SMEE; 2007-11-10 at 06:46 AM.
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2007-11-10, 05:33 AM (ISO 8601)
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Well, First Anonymous E-Mailer, I think you must've been through hell, and I'm really sorry for you. But it seems like your friend was obviously going through some rough times, mentally, and maybe physically, so you can't really blame him for it - though I would advocate staying the heck away from him, especially if he worries you quite so much. It seems he was manipulating your status as a friend snd as a good and honest person - and for me, that's as good a reason as any for wanting to terminate the friendship. Huh, I may have just contradicted myself.
Second Anonymous Person, I must say that you're just dreaming. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and people do it all the time. I'd just say you're being perfectly normal - you're curious. Everyone is.
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2007-11-10, 06:09 AM (ISO 8601)
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Hi everyone! Longtime reader and forum lurker here. It’s this thread that finally made me sign up. I actually sort of stumbled into here through someone’s sig, but I’m glad I did. It’s so great to read about everyone’s stories, some of which I have certainly been able to identify with. Thumbs up and huggles to all of you! I’ve also been looking for a place to bring my experiences more in the open and I think this would be the perfect place to at least make a start.
I’m of the male sex and though perhaps some future discovery may make me look at it differently, that’s how I’ve always seen myself. However, as far as gender goes I do not consider myself fully male, nor fully female. I can’t fit myself into the traditional gender roles and identify as pangender: both male and female, yet at the same time neither, something completely different from those two. My change in gender identification (which was a relatively recent one) went pretty much hand in hand with a change in my sexuality: while I had considered myself heterosexual all my life, I came to see myself since several months more and more as pansexual.
It’s been like this since about February this year. At that time I was just discovering the Japanese musician Mana (of Malice Mizer and Moi dix Mois fame). When I watched a Malice Mizer video and he came in view, my jaw no less than dropped. I found him incredibly beautiful! Yes, he looked very much like woman, but I was well aware of his being a man. Yet it pretty much felt the same as when I felt attracted to a girl. It didn’t really bother me, but it I’ll admit it did feel somewhat awkward at first, since I’d never felt attraction to a man before. From that moment I started to look at men differently, mostly feminine men, and noticed I couldn’t help to think that some were actually quite attractive. For the first time in my life I thought I might be bisexual.
I joined a forum about Mana where I found a topic where a discussion was going on about his sexuality. Having those discoveries about possible different sexuality I was very interested and started reading. Quite a revelation it was. Here I first heard (or read, technically) the term ‘pansexual’ being coined. I asked myself “But what is the difference between pan- and bisexuality?” and happened to see the very same question posted there. The answer followed soon and after looking into it some more it really got me thinking. And as I thought about it more, I came to be more and more convinced, “Yes, this is me!”
So, to sort of summarize: I’m a 22-year old pangender of the male sex who is pansexual with a preference for more feminine people (whether they’re male, female, transsexual, or of any other sex). More recently I’ve also found I wanted to become more feminine myself. Not just inside, because there I’m already seeing myself as partially female and have even developed a sort of female second persona, but also appearance-wise. This also is, I think, inspired by Mana and his attempts at breaking through gender barriers. When looking in the mirror I couldn’t help but notice some feminine features in my face and I wanted to go experiment with make-up and wearing skirts, dresses and other clothing usually associated with women (I can’t stand the terms ‘women’s clothing’ or men’s clothing’ as they imply the gender barriers I’ve come to despise so much). Thus far I haven’t been very successful. I’ve secretly tried to get into my sister’s and mother’s clothes (didn’t really fit well ^^;), but hadn’t even considered actually buying clothing for myself. And I’ve only been looking at the make-up stands in the stores from some distance. I was (and kinda am) still somewhat scared I think. The tips here have been incredibly helpful though and I think armed with those tips I’ll go give it another shot. Thanks so much!
There, it’s all out! Yay! :D Besides here, I haven’t spoken about my sexuality and gender identification with anyone, for different reasons really. I think my family (my mother and sister at least) would be pretty open-minded about it, but I guess the reason I haven't spoken about it is mostly because the topic never really came up in conversations and I’m not exactly someone to go spontaneously shout things from the rooftops, or so to speak. I’m also blessed with some very great and open-minded friends. And even though I think they’d be understanding of it, I’m still a bit, scared to tell them about it. I think inside I’m afraid they’d feel awkward about and distance themselves from me. This is even the case with a friend I know over the internet and who I trust more than anyone! It’s not really that much of a desperate matter it might sound like, but I somehow think I’d feel much better if I could just bring it out them instead of keeping it to myself. I’d like them to know, but they’re very dear to me and, y’know, I don’t want to lose them. I’ll find a way, I’m certain, but for now it’s unfortunately not yet in sight.
And that concludes my overly long post. If you’ve taken your time to read it all, thanks very much (and respect ), if not, hey, no harm done of course (it is an awfully long read! ). It felt incredibly refreshing and means a lot to me to get this all out. I want to thank SMEE and DoIHaveAName? for making this fantastic thread a reality and of course everyone else here for sharing their own experiences and supporting each other. It truly brings warmth to my heart to see this all! Thank you so much, everyone, from the bottom of my heart! *hugs everyone*
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2007-11-10, 06:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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Well V.Z., I congratulate you on being so honest! It's great to see you're getting so comfortable with yourself, and that you could confront any problems and post on this thread!
Yaaay!
*hugs*
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2007-11-10, 06:51 AM (ISO 8601)
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Glad to hear that this thread was of some help, V.Z.
I'm happy to hear that you are comfortable with your own sexuality, and, should you need any advice, feel free to post here or PM me (if the content is not board friendly).
We'll always try to have a piece of advice to lend around here (or at least some hugs).
The same goes to everyone who feels the need to open oneself to someone about such subject. My PM box is open, and so is my MSN.
I can only offer my own experience of dealing with my transsexuality, but it might be of some help.
So, hugs for everyone.
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2007-11-10, 10:42 AM (ISO 8601)
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Aw, thanks. I just wanted to say again how great an inspiration this thread is to me. Honestly, ever since I posted here and got such nice replies, I'm walking with a smile on my face all day. It's so great! *hugs back*
I think I'm going to carefully bring the subject up with my internet friend when he gets online. I'm pretty nervous about it. He's such an awesome guy, probably the best friend I've ever had in my life; has always been there for me when I needed him, always been someone I could trust unconditonally and feel safe with, even though I've never even met him in person. I actually think he'll be pretty cool with it. Yet, there's still that small, probably even tiny, possibility that he might feel intimidated somehow and react negatively. And that terrifies me. Should it? I dunnow. It's probably just the nerves about coming out to someone I know for the first time. As seen in my previous post, I'm not at all ashamed of my sexuality. It's part of who I am and I'm perfectly happy with it. But telling about it to a friend, even such a close one, for the first time, it just feels scary as hell...
More on the bright side. When today I noticed no one was home I took my chance and put on my sister's skirt (which surprisingly fit perfectly!) together with a shirt of my own that I thought would fit with the skirt. Then I spent some time in the mirror. I felt, absolutely wonderful! And this might sound a bit Kenobi-ish, but it was like setting my first step in a new world! Once I get the chance, adding a hose will probably be the next step! *excited!*
EDIT: Just read through my message again after posting. Wow, talk about mood swings.Last edited by V.Z.; 2007-11-10 at 10:44 AM.
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2007-11-10, 11:12 AM (ISO 8601)
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The nerves come with the territory. Your sexuality and gender identity are very personal issues that carry a lot of importance for you, so it's natural to be nervous about telling someone else, even if that person is a trusted friend. You've got something of an advantage that you're doing this online, though, so keep your spirits up, and good luck!
I'm happy you were able to find a skirt that fits you, too. Did you take note of the size? That will help (somewhat; sizing is a very relative thing) if and when you decide to buy some clothes for yourself...
@Anonymous #1: I'll echo earlier sentiments and say that it looks like your friend was manipulating you while in the depths of his depression. Depression is a terrible experience that can lead people to do some horrible things. It was still your friend's decisions and actions that began the problems you've had with him, so I'd still recommend not getting closer to him again, but if you think back on it, try to remember that he wasn't himself back then. Also, remember that you were being a friend and doing what you thought would help him at the time, so don't ever let this reflect badly on how you view yourself!
@Anonymous #2: I don't think there's much out of the ordinary going on with you. Which is to say, I don't think there's anything out of the ordinary with you. I've never met anyone who wouldn't want to try out the other gender for a day or two... fantasies are perfectly fine. Maybe one day, they'll discover a way to reversibly change someone's gender. Which I'm sure will play hell with society for a while, but hey, won't it be fun?
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2007-11-10, 11:21 AM (ISO 8601)
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2007-11-10, 11:51 AM (ISO 8601)
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I have to say, from my perspective, people seem to be talking more about the cross-dressing type of transgender than anything else...
I don't know, maybe it just because of how I think. But seriously? Skirts? Dresses? Hose? How much do they really have to do with identifying as a woman? Maybe acting the part of a stereotypical woman, but otherwise...
Some of it, I can understand, but if you begin focusing on that, you'll begin to externalize your identity, and won't that just end up making you a transvestite?
Me? I have no real desire to go paint my nails, or wear pretty dresses and that kind of thing. Yet, still, I prefer identifying myself as a woman. Being a woman does not make me want to wear a dress all the time.
See my avatar? That's how I picture myself, ideally, in my mind's eye. Those clothes it has on? I already wear those. I'm comfortable with them- I like how they look (on a woman OR a man). That's not preventing me from identifying as a woman, either- they're just clothes.
I'm not against cross-dressing, I'm not against transvestites. I'm just wondering if people (possibly even myself) are getting the two confused. Perhaps transgendered men just more commonly like to be extremely feminine- I don't know. I only have myself to base it off of.
What I do know is that women around me don't tend to wear dresses most of the time. Are you expressing yourself, or giving into a stereotype by deciding to put on a dress? Is it you? Can you be sure that the dress and your mindset match? Will putting on a random piece of clothing truly identify how you feel about yourself?
...maybe. But I don't think it is for everyone. Certainly not for me. More femininely cut pants and shirts sound fine, but I'll leave the dresses for others.
Your identity is not based off of how you look- I should think that would be extremely obvious considering we're talking about transgender people. Maybe it is obvious to others- maybe this post isn't going to help anyone but me (because I got to think things through as I typed it). Changing your look to fit your identity is fine, but make sure that the look you're giving yourself IS the identity you want.
Summary: Just because you identify as a woman doesn't mean you identify as someone who wears dresses and skirts.
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2007-11-10, 12:03 PM (ISO 8601)
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But I'd look so cute in a skirt. Feel better too... It's weird... I put on my guy cut pants, and it just doesn't fit right. It doesn't conform to me. That's when I feel like I'm cross-dressing.
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2007-11-10, 12:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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Vael, that's normal.
Some people feel that women clothes such as dresses, skirts and other stuff such as make up, painted nails and jewellery help them to percieve themselves as a woman. I am one of those persons.
You preffer to go with gender neutral clothing and feel no need to try traditional women wear in order to feel like a woman. And that's perfectly fine too.
The most important thing is that one feels comfortable with oneselves.
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2007-11-10, 12:59 PM (ISO 8601)
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It's certainly valid commentary, Vael, but there is one important thing to keep in mind. There is only one real reason why anybody wears things like that: they like how they look and feel in them.
Clothes don't make the girl, and they certainly don't make me. But, as I've experimented with various types of clothing and accessories, I've found a bunch of things I like. And personally, I think the only way to find out if all these things are for you is to try them, which is what I've been encouraging others to do.
But you're right; it's definitely important to maintain perspective. You are not more of a woman if you put on a dress. Find yourself, not some other person...
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2007-11-10, 01:17 PM (ISO 8601)
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Rex- if you like it, good. Wear it. It's you. I'm not arguing against it, just saying that's not all there is.
SMEE- I was trying to focus more on others, but I'll admit that it was a bit of me trying to reconcile what I was seeing and what I was thinking. *hugs*
Thanks.
Phoe- Yeah, I just felt like keeping things in perspective for people. Trying it out is one thing, thinking that it is the only option is quite another.
I still support the things you've recommended, I just don't think they should be the only view out there.
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2007-11-10, 01:33 PM (ISO 8601)
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After reading Alarra's long post I feel like I've been in a similar position. Well, not that drastic really. But in several occasions I have found that people might perceive me as gay and I don't like it. Mainly because I don't like people to mistake me for something I'm not, no matter if it's for being gay, for being erm, a heavy metal fan or a serial killer or anything :S Not that there's anything wrong with any of those (except serial killer :p).
When I met my now ex girlfriend, a female friend of her, well, more like a classmate who hung with us kinda projected that she perceived me as bi or something. Gladly this didn't hinder my blooming relationship with my ex as she knew this was not the case and was secretly hoping it wasn't like that.
This has to do with that, with the fact that it makes me uncomfortable to be thought of as homosexual because I'm not. I feel it reduces my already slim chances with the opposite sex.
Hmmm...I'm fully straight too and I really can't find Brad Pitt attractive. And definitely not when you have Ms. Forlani's beutiful eyes to look at instead of him *shrugs*
In any case, I think this thread is an amazing thing to have, and I'd like to express my support for anyone who's trying to be more themselves.
Yeah, Serpentine. Here it was too. Well, before they ended with conscription after a case of a guy that was kinda hazed to death :s
Regx, personally I think one of your problems might be exactly that. If you want to be taken seriously (or take yourself seriously) you have to tell the truth like you mean it. It's more difficult, sure. But if something you're saying is your truth, it deserves to be taken as that. Just 2c.Last edited by FdL; 2007-11-10 at 02:24 PM.
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2007-11-10, 04:06 PM (ISO 8601)
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Hello. First I'd like to say that this is a wonderful thread & that I enjoyed reading everyone's story. I want to give everyone here my love & support.
Here is my story:
I was born in the mid 70's in Michigan, a genetic male. When I was around 4, I (barely) remember my sister dressing me in girl clothes. What I remember most is how wonderful it felt to be wearing dresses & the admiring "Isn't he cute!" from both my grandma & my mom. It's one of my happiest memories. Unfortunately, it was also short lived.
FF to 8-9 y.o. My older (3 yrs.) "friend's" dad gets a job as truck driver. He has this huge rig parked in his driveway. It was awe inspiring. So (let's call him) Jacob invites to see what the cab looks like. Well, long story short, he took advantage of my innocence. Since, at the time, I didn't know that anything wrong had happened, I didn't say anything. This happened at least twice. Years went by & I blanked it out of memory.
FF to 6th grade. I started going down to my sisters room, "borrowing" her swimsuits, and wearing them. I usually kept them for a week. After I was done with them, I'd wash them when no one was home, then replace them in her drawer. It was going so well until one day, when I was too caught up Castlevania II, my mom came into my room, while I was wearing one of Sissy's one pieces. She threw a fit & yelled at me to take it off & never do that again. I was so upset & embarrassed. But years went by & I forgot about this, also.
For the rest of my school years, I hated myself. I was shy & unable to talk to the girls I found attractive. I felt alone. My brother finally convinced me into playing football, for 8th, 9th, & 12th grades. My grades dropped from As & Bs in 6th grade, to Cs, Ds, & one E, during my High School years. I contemplated suicide, but never actually tried it.
Finally I graduated. Freedom at last!!! I thought I could join the Navy (a lifelong dream), and start my life anew. No one would know the old me, I could reinvent myself, so I thought.
While in the Navy (`94-`97), I gained a new best friend, let's call him Caleb. Caleb was as close to me as you could get without going "there". Problem was, he's a homophobe. It didn't bother me too much, I wasn't gay or anything. We were just friends. As I said before, all incidents of feminity had been forgot.
Until one night, I woke to a memory. Not a dream. Mosat deffinitely a memory. I remembered the two times I was asked into Jacob's dad's rig. It horrified me. Did this make me gay? Could I tell Caleb? No, forget that. He'd turn on me in an instant. Then I remembered telling Caleb that I loved him, as a brother. I began to wonder about myself. What did I really mean by that?
Well it wasn't long & I found out that it didn't matter. Caleb turned on me anyway. I guess he couldn't even accept brotherly love from a friend. For my last year in the Navy, rumors started to be spread about me. A new recruit even hit me & broke my nose.
I got out alive & yes, I did still have good friends. Friends that accepted me for me, and didn't listen to rumors.
I moved back to Michigan. In `98, I got a job at Sam's Club (It's a warehouse store for Wal-Mart, for those who don't know). There I met Phil, Doug, & Glenn. We started playing D & D (I started playing RPG's while in the Navy. See, it's not all bad).
FF to 1999/2000. The new millenium New Year's Eve party. As we were playing around, having a time. I had a Eureka! moment. I wanted to be Tinkerbell! You might think it was the drink talking, but I still wanted to be Tink the next morning. I decided that I would dress as Tinkerbell for next Halloween. And I did. Not only that but I bought lots of dresses, bikinis, skirts, & yes BRAS!! I have 2 pairs of fake breasts. I loved it. I felt ALIVE!!! It was during this time of revelation that I my mind opened up the memories of dressing up years before (my mom swears she doesn't remember the swimsuit incident, and I don't press it).
I decided that I wanted to be a woman. I started looking into GRS, and found that it was going to be hard work (I so empathize with you SMEE). I got my nails done, I'd already let my hair grow long since I left the Navy.
But it wasn't all great. I love women, not men. I want to have children, with a woman. Wearing fingernail polish is a huge taboo in dating circles in Michigan. I could move, but I have a great job in the Post Office. The pay is great & the benefits are better than most other jobs. So I've slowed down. I still cross dress, occassionally.
I've told all my friends, and they are all supportive. One even offered to go with me to Canada when I got my GRS. I've also told, my sister, mother, grandma, and my aunt. No one has ostracized me because of it. Some may just be in denial. But I know for sure that my mom & sister have my back. I still believe that I am a woman trapped inside this man's body & dream of being reborn as a woman. That's my story.
So my question for you is: What am I? Transgendered, Transsexual, just a Cross-Dresser?