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2012-09-05, 08:00 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Sexism isn't one gender's fault or cause. It's a whole bunch of harmful attitudes that are upheld by society at large; people of every gender contribute to them.
The problem is sorta that attitudes are hard to change; things that are common are often seen as things that are okay, that are the standard. But yeah, it's attitudes that are to be attacked (and the media plays a huge part is spreading these attitudes and upholding them to be true.) rather then blaming a gender.
Not that there isn't a decent group of people invested in keeping things the way they are; just look at how much backlash discussions about say portrayal of female characters in video games get.
Sexism is a collection of pervasive attitudes that get reinforced by people of every gender.
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(I really need to catch up with the thread again.)Last edited by Astrella; 2012-09-05 at 08:01 AM.
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2012-09-05, 08:20 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Here's a new thread I started for the discussion of a posiible Werewolf: the Forsaken game.
Now we can stop clogging things up here.
I agree with Astrella completely about the causes of sexism. In fact, and sort of -ism is usually maintained by the same sort of process. The only way to get rid of them is to treat the society as a whole, not small pieces or portions."It is important to draw wisdom from many different places. If you take it from only one place, it becomes rigid and stale." --Iroh
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2012-09-05, 08:25 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Ah. I've been there, too. In his place I mean. Nothing quite like the betrayal of a loved one, actual or perceived, to set one on the furthest edge.
I don't know how long you've known the guy, but I'll say: trust him. In anger, I have done some terrible Things, but the closest to hitting some one unintentionally was veering to the side and hitting a wall instead of a pillow... Because they tried to interpose themselves so I wouldn't hit the pillow
It's hard. It's really hard being Ina position where viscerally you want to take something apart at the cell level but trying to maintain who you are. To stick to language, rationality and appeals instead of growls and howls and shrieks. And unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to help him; someone at that level of distress may as well be a force of nature. He can eventually bring himself around, but if he wants to he will, and if he doesn't, you'd possibly just make things worse.
So take care of yourself. If you need somewhere to go and destroys, that's okay. It's not fair you are in the middle of this problem at all, you don't deserve that. And while he may want to take your feelings into account, it will probably be a faster process for him if you aren't a variable to think about. Y'know? Try meditation, controlled breathing, even just controlled movements that require focus, like dancing in slow motions or something. Or write. Just, whatever comes to mind. Anything that has a small, mindless physical component can help you unwind as your body channels into it.
Or a hot bath, all the time, where you just soak. I'm working towards one I those right now, myself.
I think that is beside the point.
If feminism is equality for women, it doesn't matter from Who. It only matters that everyone treats them equally.
I think fashion is a place where everyone does it, do everyone does it. It's easy for women in fashion to say the men do it. It's easy for the men to say the women do it. I liken it to old people and traction.
An example, is the nerd/jock dichotomy. I don't know about you, but in the thirty years I have direct access to (some from slightly older family members an friends) this has neer played out. No one cares who the quarterback was, no one could tell you who prom queen was going to be. Or even when prom was. But all the people writing shows about kids in high school kept drawing on their experiences anyway and it took on a life of it's own. it's an urban legend that everyone thinks their school is blessed not to really have, or that they'd like to bring back - I've seen no dearth of small cliques in letter jackets, hoping I make a statement by pulling on the myths of high school life.
The fashion industry is full of 'visionaries' who make their names by playing sound with rules f fashion that never really existed. An article of clothing, so daring, that cut! Oh my! It's nothing like your mother's fashions, it's so revolutionary! Except the 'mother fashion' they refer to was the same. The beauty standard is self perpetuating, probably not the least because of the blowback from trying to fight the standard and people saying "why? Leave it alone!". There isn't anyone to blame. There is an issue to be fixed.
Provided of course that I made any sense. I have a tendency to think I'm coherent when I'm anything but.
This makes me think you know secret shaving techniques. Or any techniques at all.
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The thing about models being super skinny actually happened really recently. There was one woman, a wee slip of a thing, who went by Twiggy. She hit like a storm as everyone thought she was new! So revolutionary! Or so The story goes. I have no reason to disbelieve, but is never been relevant and I didn't care. It's a start of where one could begin research though.
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2012-09-05, 08:36 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
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2012-09-05, 08:50 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
RE: Fashion.
It's not just a women directed at women thing. Yes, it's a big thing of women feeling pressurised to wear specific clothes because otherwise other women will gossip about them in corners. Same with shaving, doing stuff to hair, makeup.
But all this comes from the culture of fashion. It's a thing that pushes both men and women to do things which are expensive, unhealthy, and do things to self-esteem (both good and bad, I'll add - sometimes being able to walk out the door in makeup, hair done up, and gorgeous dress can be a real boost of confidence. Whether this is a byproduct of the fashion industry or not is another question entirely).
Feminism, ideally, shouldn't be called Feminism. It's not just about giving women rights. it's about protecting everyone's rights and making people equal. It's called feminism because in the past the biggest issues were the ones that were facing women. Nowadays we have feminism in the form of giving men paternity leave, giving women same wages as men (and vice versa - female tennis players for instance do less work and get paid more than male tennis players), and trying to eradicate the more subtle sexism - if you have a board of directors that are all male, it's more likely than not to choose a male over a female candidate for promotion.
But that's getting off topic - what I'm getting at is that it doesn't matter where the fashion industry originated. Nowadays, you have both women and men solidifying the stereotypes and issues of women needing to put in effort to look like the photoshopped magazine celebrities. Which is a losing battle.
Though this is only my £0.02. I personally wear jeans + tshirts all the time, envy guys on being able to wear one suit all the time (another stereotype, girls who wear suits or trousers+shirt instead of dresses to formal events get labelled as lesbians - and while there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian, the nature the labelling is done in is exceedingly negative and can break people's selfesteems, once again), and when I do dress up I still don't bother with makeup, and mostly just keep my hair in a plait - and occasionally let it down to loose when it's a special once or twice a year event. The only experience I have with the fashion phenomena is when people give me dirty looks for not shaving my legs, armpits, or more personal parts - and because of the dirty looks and talking from school, I still feel self-conscious about it. Better than before - I can actually wear a swimsuit now - but still an issue of self-esteem."I'm just going on motive and opportunity here and the fact that if the earth got swallowed by a black hole, I'd look suspiciously in your direction first."
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2012-09-05, 08:53 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-09-05, 08:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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So I saw a Yahoo news article on Lana Wackowski's transition. Nothing in depth, merely referring to an article in some magazine. And then I made a fatal mistake - I scrolled down to the comments section at the bottom. Now, Yahoo comments are pretty disgusting at the best of times but this is the first time I've read something that has actually made me feel physically nauseous. Bravo, Yahoo, you've sunk to a whole new level.
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2012-09-05, 08:57 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
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2012-09-05, 09:08 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
The smoothest shave I get is when I take a hot shower to soften the skin, use a fair amount of shaving cream applied with one of those brushes to frizzle the hairs and then finally I shave with a straight razor.
But yeah that only lasts a couple of hours thanks to me overactive beard.Last edited by pffh; 2012-09-05 at 09:10 AM.
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2012-09-05, 09:11 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
I like boring clothes. >:|
Also, don't ruin it for the rest of us who enjoy being able to get away with a boring plain black suit and tie at formal events. It's those few guys who put thought into their outfits who make the rest of us look bad.
Yora: The sexist culture around female apparel and makeup is perpetuated by both men and women. Women pressure each other into it, they feel pressured into it by men, the media pressures them into it. It's everyone's fault.Jude P.
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2012-09-05, 09:23 AM (ISO 8601)
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This reminds me of when we saw that new batman flick opening night. There was an advert, of fourteen year old girls playing soccer. And one of them pulls ff her scrunchy to reveal perfectly coiffured hair. Another sucks under the camera edge and comes back one creek in make up. Finally, the entire team marches across the field in 'sexy' dresses and stilletos heels. All the while the announcer talks about how sending little girls messages like this ALL THE TIME is bad.
During the commercial? A solid group of guys al start hollering and showing their support for the make up and heels. I hollered at them that they were missing the point (which got a riot from the rest of the theatre as everyone laughed at them), but it was... Telling.
Hm. Right angles, might be tough. Worth a go though, thank you.
I have that kind of curl hair you see on Braveheart that you assume all te peasants have because they're dirty. It's not dirty, it's just both thick and massively curly. I get ingrown hairs on my face from shaving my legs. XD
Tank you for the warning though. I'll have to evaluate whether the possibility of more ingrown hairs is worth the effort.
I am morbidly curious. But please don't indulge me. I have this addiction to doing stupid things out of curiosity, and I'm not going to get better if I'm enabled.
I hope you feel better though? You seem like a sweet person. Anything that could trouble you that badly... I hope you can write it off. Remember, a lot of those people grow up, look back and want to smack their younger selves.
Hmm...
Damn. Okay, so it seems like you're right. The extra two hours of smooth aren't worth the two weeks of ingrown hair and facial pain.
... Right, so stabbed in the face with electrified needles it is.
A shame though. Being able to use a straight razor is a skill every human should learn. There is value in self supported manual skill. Perhaps I'll learn anyway? I may have a son one day. Or a hirsute daughter. Is it true that leg hair on ladies stops at the upper lip?
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2012-09-05, 09:28 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
It's not that I don't wear it well if it fits well, it's that for a lot of us not having the make decisions about what to wear is a blessing.
Oh, so I saw a picture of two women (seems like they were dressed for Slutwalk or something?) with slogans against rape on their bellies. Except one of them says, "How would you like it if I raped you?" Which is a valid point, but perhaps not well thought out. And of course the internet is full of dumbasses who say stuff like "yes please" in various forms, and make all kinds of rape jokes. I need to learn to stop scrolling down to the comments sections of things. >:|Jude P.
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2012-09-05, 09:30 AM (ISO 8601)
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I am very sorry man, and while I haven't had the confusion side of it before, I have had the "we should just be friends" side of it plenty. Look, the bottom line is that you are not worse without him. I know it feels like it now but you are (from the context I am guessing here so don't hate me if I am wrong) young and there will be plenty of good-looking, verile men out there that will be SO lucky to have you as their man, they just don't even know it yet. So chin up and remember one thing that my sister told me when I was 14 and it has stuck with me ever since: You are your own person. You can be with someone and love them and be completely head-over-heels for them, but there is one thing that you have to do while you are with someone.....keep you independence and your own identity. Be your own person, just be your own person with their own person. And if you can both pull that off without becoming dependent on each other, then life will be much easier and better. Because you both will be comfortable enough with each other to have separate lives.
That isn't to say that you shouldn't do things together/just be stupid in love about each other (Cuz that is how I feel about my wife, even still) but always have the confidence to say, "I am me, and me is good."
I'd be up for that. And you know what helps confidence? Getting naked and walking around when no one is around. Be comfortable with yourself, and everything else will fall into placeMy Extended Signature, Check it out!
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2012-09-05, 09:45 AM (ISO 8601)
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Not directed at me, but I will do it anyway! :3
The fact that I have a school trip to Dublin next month is entirely coincidental.
>_>
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A lot of places have English as the second language taught in schools, so there should be a lot of options outside those speaking primarily English. Be prepared for the horrible accents we have, however. X3
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2012-09-05, 09:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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Shiro, I can only say this. It will pass. The pain grows weaker and weaker and then one day it's gone. *hug*
Massachusetts must pay for inmates sex change.
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2012-09-05, 10:37 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Shiro, it sounds like it wasn't about not liking you, but about his own internal insecurities. That means there's hope. Talk to him about things: Even if you can't work them out now, you can stay friends. And maybe things will work out in the future.
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2012-09-05, 12:15 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
Not if your naked body is the root of everything that's wrong, as I believe it is with Absol.
So there's a bunch of kids that live a couple of doors down from me that have seen me walking past as both a guy and a girl, and I think are very confused. I still remember fondly the first time I walked past them as a guy after being female for a few weeks, and a loud "Oh. My. God!" was heard as they realised that I was the girl that they'd seen around recently.
Anyway, I was fairly sure that they'd pegged me as a guy who sometimes dressed as a girl, but I saw them again today. I'd made an effort for androgyny today, and I think if I saw myself in the street (you know what I mean) my first instinct would be female, but I wouldn't want to make the call. I saw them, and one of the girls asked curiously, "Are you a lady?"
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2012-09-05, 12:22 PM (ISO 8601)
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Having spent a week-long stint every summer for several years at Boy Scout camp, a.k.a. "that place where insecure young men spend several weeks trying to prove they're More Masculine Than You and the three most popular merit badges are Swimming, Rifle Shooting, and Gay-Bashing," I can see why spending a month in that environment would make him very, very uncomfortable. I was never tempted to try conversion therapy, fortunately, but that's partly because I'd looked into it and determined it was scientifically and religiously bogus at an early age--if he's unfortunate enough to be in a troop with the sort of leaders who talk about "fixing the gays" and not letting [F-word]s into Scouting (as one of my leaders was before we basically mutinied, long story) and if he's only come to terms with himself lately, I can see why it might be a tempting prospect.
You should definitely talk to him and tell him how you feel (both how you felt when he told you and how you're feeling now). Hopefully the two of you can get back together, now that he's back home and has realized the root of the problem, particularly with school and other activities to distract him from the experience; it definitely sounds to me that it's more a matter of his insecurities than anything to do with you, as golentan said. If he'd like someone to talk to about surviving being a gay Scout, my PM box is open, or I can send you my email if it'd be inconvenient for him to reach me via your account.Last edited by PairO'Dice Lost; 2012-09-05 at 12:24 PM.
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2012-09-05, 02:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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LIX! *hugs*
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One of my college house-mates was particularly hirsuite. One Hallowween he was going to be Jayne (from Firefly), which meant growing a goatee or whatever it's called that Jayne has. Come October 25th or 26th, he's still clean shaven, but two days later and it's grown in full and glorious.
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The new World of Darkness line is a reboot of the game system from White Wolf, the same system familiar to those who have heard of Vampire: the Masquerade and Werewolf: the Apocalypse.
In Werewolf: the Forsaken you are a werewolf, one of the Uratha/the People. In ancient times the spirit world and mortal world were almost one, an a great wolf spirit prowled the borders keeping everything in line. He had children with the moon, who were mortal, for she took on flesh. These children were trained to uphold his policing o the boundaries.
Eventually, Father wolf grew old, and they did what any pack must do; throw down their Alpha when he grows weak. Even though it was necessary, it was also kinslaying. Their descendants now maintain their old job in the modern world, balancing a sense of being more than human, and yet no longer as much as human. They also contain a primal, supernatural rage which is the source of their power but threatens to consume them. During this, the spirit world preys on mortals, and must be policed, and an ancient schism of wolves who revoked the slaying of their Father hunt the Forsaken Uratha to this day, out of revenge.
Like any World of Darkness game, it's a horror game made all the more brutal by the mechanics - world of darkness doesn't have combat mechanics. It has a murder simulator. Fighting happens but it is Nasty, Brutish and Short, and you want to avoid it or stack the deck as much as possible.
Oh, but you asked what you would need.
Hm.
Either a copy of both the World of Darkness core rules and the Werewolf: the Forsaken campaign book, or someone who has them and can walk you through everything.
A Story Teller to run a game.
That last one is our big sticking point, although maybe I'll get off me duff and give it a once-over?
I think we may need to find another venue for discussion soon though. This isn't even tangentially related to the thread topic anymore >_>
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What Astrella and Absol said. Just because women are perpetuating it doesn't preclude it from being sexist.
... Though these points are surprisingly fair. @.@
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It sort of did in my school. Sort of. Some of the sports players were pretty nice, others were really conceited. There were some people who fit the nerd stereotype to a tee hanging out with all of them, but ones they didn't like tended to get harassed sometimes.
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2012-09-05, 02:40 PM (ISO 8601)
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Yeah, American Boy Scouts actually have a policy of no gays allowed(well as open leaders anyway). And guns are half the fun, the other is fire.
@Shiro: Honey, I know how you feel, and the best thing you can do is tell him how you are really feeling, and without preparation, just tell him about it. Trust me, with what you've said, it will mean a lot to him and show him how much you really do love him. If anything, "if you wanna be my lover, first you gotta be my friend"
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2012-09-05, 02:45 PM (ISO 8601)
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There's apparently a network for LGBTA scouts in Sweden, and they reacted strongly against the BSA:s decision to ban gay scout leader.
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Yep, supernerd has it right. The only time you're not shooting things or burning things in the BSA is when you're on the water (sailing, swimming, etc.) in which case you're attempting to drown anyone you can reach.
You and me both. I didn't go so far as to renounce my Eagle status as some did, but I did send in a good 2-3 page rant.