LGBTAitp #40: Technicolor Partyboat

[Lady Serpentine]

Hello, all! This is the fortieth incarnation of the LGBTAitP thread! The thread is to support, celebrate and discuss anything that falls outside the bounds of what is hetero/cisnormative. It is first of all a support thread, and then an education thread. If you want answers about some of the more difficult and trigger inducing aspects of LGBTA, there are a number of people listed below who can answer questions - though no-one should feel like they can't post their question more publicly because of this.

Please note that although the title of the thread names only the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Asexual communities, it is intended as an all inclusive environment. Everyone is welcome. L, G, B,T, A, Q, I, A, N, V, P, R, Q, Ω, ♅, all combinations of those letters and symbols, everyone. As long as they behave themselves.

If you have a question or two about LGBTA+ matters, you can ask it here! You can ask for advice and support in here. And you can just hang out with all of the lovely people, too, if you like.

In addition, many members are willing to give private advice one on one, either through email or PM. The best way to do this is asking for PM help in thread, or else to PM one of the following people:

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Name: Especially familiar with the topic(s) of
KenderWizard: General/basics, gender and feminism, bisexuality
Musashi: General/basics, asexuality/demisexuality, depression
noparlpf: General/basics, asexuality, greysexuality, biology, Skype
Lea Plath: Genderfluidity
Lycunadari: Genderqueer and agendered
Eldest: General/basics, bisexuality, polyamory, pansexuality will Skype(voice if needed, no video)
Karen Lynn: General/basics, pansexuality, polyamory, will Skype(no voice or video, however)
HMS Sophia: Trans stuff (esp hormones)
Lix Lorn: General/basics
Tanail: Trans stuff (esp emotional issues), Skype(no voice or video, however)
Absol197: Gender identity issues
Warkitty: Academic/technical discussions
Lentrax: General/basics, depression, bullying
Wormwood74: Transgender legal issues, transgender outside contacts
Astrella: GSRM rights, feminism, trans stuff, Skype
Asteron Questar: Relationships, depression
Mystic Muse: Skype-y goodness.
Socratov: Skype-ness
Chess435: Skype
Irish Musician: PM, Rants/Venting
Metditto: PM/Skype for L, T, GQ, BDSM(Off-thread or Spoiler Triggered), demisexual, feminism, therapy, depression, dissociative identities
inuyasha: Shoulder on which to cry, someone to listen
Partysan: PM/Skype, polyamory, pansexuality, BDSM(Off-thread or Spoiler Triggered), Rants/Venting

Some people are also willing to talk off-board, through Skype or email or other means, this is especially useful if your question involves board-forbidden topics such as religion or politics. Also, we can't (and ethically shouldn't!) give medical advice. If you need medical advice, please see a professional!


Here are the rules of this thread!

• Everyone is welcome. Let's try to keep from seeming otherwise.
• Keep this topic free of politics and religion. (so, don't violate the board rules, plz)
• It's beyond the scope of this thread to discuss whether LGBT is "Right." (And really, most discussions probably should avoid moralizing too much anyway)
• Please refrain from posting sexually explicit content. (Keep it friendly as well as board safe )
• If you know something's a trigger for someone, please put it in a spoiler with a relevant tag in front of it.

Here are the links for the previous threads, where much of use or interest may be found:

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1. LGBT people in the playground
   
2. LGBT people in the playground - part II
   
3. LGBTitp - part III
   
4. LGBTitp 4: We are a family?
   
5. LGBTitp - Part Five
   
6. LGBTitp - Part Six
   
7. LGBTitp - Part Seven
   
8. LGBTitp - Part Eight
   
9. LGBTitp - Part Nine
   
10. LGBTAitp - Part Ten
    
11. LGBTAitp - Part Eleven
    
12. LGBTAitp - Part Twelve
    
13. LGBTAitp - Part Thirteen
    
14. LGBTAitp - Part Fourteen
    
15. LGBTAitp - Part Fifteen
    
16. LGBTAitp - Part Sixteen
    
17. LGBTAitp - Part Seventeen
    
18. LGBTAitp - Part Eighteen!
    
19. LGBTAitp - Part Nineteen
    
20. LGBTAitp - Part Twenty - Critical Hit!
    
21. LGBTAitp - Part Twenty-One - BLACKJACK!
    
22. LGBTAitP Part 22: The Best There Is
    
23. LGBTAitP Part 23: Et tu, ~Bianca?
    
24. LGBTAitP: Alphabet Soup-with 24 different Vitamins!
    
25. LGBTAitP part 25: Doing Away With Subtitles
    
26. LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
    
27. LGBTAitP 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
    
28. LGBTAitP #28: Come Taste the Rainbow!
    
29. LGBTAitP #29: The Rainbow Outreach Program
    
30. LGBTAitP 30: Free Cuddles (Enquire Within)
    
31. LGBTAitP #31: Cuddles Are On Back Order. Have Some Snuggles!
    
32. LGBTAitp #32: The Great Plushie Invasion!
    
33. LGBTAitp #33: The Thread at the End of the Rainbow!
    
34. LGTAitP #34: <3!!
    
35. LGBTAitp #35: What Midlife Crisis? :3
    
36. LGBTAitp #36: May Contain Bites!
    
37. 
    LGBTAitP #37: Once upon a time...
    
38. URL="http://www.giantitp.com/forums/showthread.php?t=290671"LGBTAitP #38: Once More With Feeling!![/URL]

And, for reference, here is the Thousand&Wordster Dictionary of Commonly Used LGBTAitp Words and Phrases

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Lagerbeta: A fine brewski to be drunk by queers and allies.
LGBT: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans*
Trans*: Transsexual and Transgender
LGBTA: LGBT+Asexual/Allies
QUILTBAG:

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Q - Queer and Questioning
U - Unidentified
I - Intersex
L - Lesbian
T - Transgender, Transexual
B - Bisexual
A - Asexual
G - Gay, Genderqueer

Allies: Straight people that support equality for sexuality and gender minorities.
MtF: Male-to-Female: A woman born with male nibblies, who may or may not be seeking HRT and/or SRS. (AKA: trans woman)
FtM: Female-to-Male: A man born with female nibblies, who may or may not be seeking HRT and/or SRS. (AKA: trans man)
GQ: Genderqueer.
CS: Cis-sexual: sex and gender match (a male with male nibblies, a female with female nibblies.
TS: Transsexual: Sex and gender disparity.
HRT: Hormone replacement therapy. MtF's take more progestrogens and oestrogens and FtM's take more testosterone (I think?)
SRS: Sex Reassignment Surgery: Surgery to replace/transform a vagina into a penis, or vice versa depending on direction. Mastectomies or plastic surgery may be used on breasts.
FFS: Facial Feminization Surgery: Plastic surgery to reduce chin/nose/cheekbones. not very common.
AFAB/AMAB: Assigned Female/Male at Birth
FAAB/MAAB: Female/Male Assigned at Birth.


Man: A cisman or transman. Male.
Woman: A ciswoman or transwoman. Female.
Androgyne: Gender Identity with male and female aspects.
Genderfluid: Someone who fluctuates between male and female.
Agendered: Someone who feels neither male nor female.
Third-gendered: Someone who fits in a local society's third gender, usually male performing female tasks, occasionally vice versa.
Masculine: Something generally associated with men.
Feminine: Something generally associated with women.

Lesbian: A woman who is attracted to women.
Gay: A man who is attracted to men.
Homosexual: A person who is attracted to members of their gender.
Heterosexual: A person who is attracted to members of the opposite gender.
Bisexual: A person who is attracted to two genders (usually men and women, sometimes transgender instead of one of those).
Pansexual: A person who is attracted to people regardless of gender.
Asexual: A person who does not feel any/some sexual attraction.
Demisexual: A person who is sexually attracted to someone(s) they have formed an intense emotional relationship with.
Polyamorous: A person who is interested in a relationship with more than one person.
Radosexual: A person who is only attracted to rad people.
Pomosexual: A person who avoids SO labels.

Sexual Orientation: How one identifies who they are attracted to. (SO)
Gender Identity: How one feels inside society's idea of "man, woman, or other". (GI)
Gender Expression: How one expresses their GI to society. (GE)
Significant Other(s): Person you are in a relationship with. (SO)

Webcomics that touch on... Well, everything related to the thread.

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Venus Envy. Long dead webcomic. The creator has chosen not to continue it and move forward in life.
Rain. A story of a MtF girl in high school.
Khaos Komix.As the creator puts it(from his site): "A complete GLBTWTFBBQ comic about gender and sexuality. (Trigger warnings for EVERYTHING and nothing is safe for work.)"
Always Raining Here. "Adrian is heartsick, Carter is horny. This is a story about their misadventures as awkward teenagers as they fumble through unrequited romances."
Tripping over you.An awkward blind date leads to better options.
Questionable Content. The LGBTA characters are well done, and not stereotypes.
What's normal anyway. An FtM webcomic. Seems decent so far.

I know I missed a few webcomics, and if anyone finds more, feel free to PM them to me with a brief description, and I will add them.

The Brand New LGBTA Arts & Crafts Thread!

The thread title is credit of the lovely Gail, who I would have allowed to have the honor this time, save that, unfortunately, she was not online and we really did need to get it up.

And thanks for picking me, everyone~

[turkishproverb]

Technicolor Partyboat? Isn't that that terror Wonka used?

*sets out punch and cookies*

[noparlpf]

I didn't see a link in the old thread, so I added one. Unfortunately, that bumped our post count up to 1501. It would have been a perfect run of 1500 posts and I ruined it.

[Lady Serpentine]

I was called away from the computer, sadly. But thank you.

[Morcleon]

Technicolor Partyboat? Isn't that that terror Wonka used?

*sets out punch and cookies*

Nah, a search for Technicolor Partyboat on Google only brings up this thread. However, a search for Technicolor Dreamboat brings up this musical.

Still, I like the title.

~Setsuna~

[Raineh Daze]

I didn't see a link in the old thread, so I added one. Unfortunately, that bumped our post count up to 1501. It would have been a perfect run of 1500 posts and I ruined it.

You did. I'm ashamed.

[turkishproverb]

Nah, a search for Technicolor Partyboat on Google only brings up this thread. However, a search for Technicolor Dreamboat brings up this musical.

Still, I like the title.

~Setsuna~

I never said I didn't like the title, just couldn't resist the joke

[Morcleon]

I never said I didn't like the title, just couldn't resist the joke

I know. But I didn't get the joke, so I just looked it up.

~Setsuna~

[turkishproverb]

Fair enough.

Now, what to do...

[Fyermind]

See I go away for a bit and I come back to a new thread! This is new and different to me. Anyway, how would I end up on that list of people to PM/Skype for issues related to Dancing?

Also, I should have a blog running by tuesday about dancing as a male follower titled "The Fairer Steps" It seemed really clever after being awake for 23 hours and I went at took it from google so it's mine now and I guess I should probably keep it. I'll post a link here when it gets going because I could really use some feedback. I haven't been in quantity in well, ever.

Finally, I'm on a boat.

[turkishproverb]

See I go away for a bit and I come back to a new thread! This is new and different to me. Anyway, how would I end up on that list of people to PM/Skype for issues related to Dancing?

Nice of you to do.

Also, I should have a blog running by tuesday about dancing as a male follower titled "The Fairer Steps" It seemed really clever after being awake for 23 hours and I went at took it from google so it's mine now and I guess I should probably keep it. I'll post a link here when it gets going because I could really use some feedback. I haven't been in quantity in well, ever.

Sounds interesting. I wouldn't mind reading it.

Finally, I'm on a boat.

Must...resist...song...lyrics...

[MetDitto]

I got told I was pretty by a trans guy and also that it bothered him how one person at the dungeon we both frequent refers to me with male pronouns and how he would talk to them about it... It was the first time in a while where someone told me I was pretty and I believed then... Stupid, I know.

[turkishproverb]

Congrats Ditto! And yea, it takes some people a while to behave. Just remember, sometimes they still mean well.

[Absol197]

So new thread, same issues. I'm dying of nerves for tomorrow. My therapist called me this morning and asked for my birthday, because she needed to put it in the letter. That sounds promising, because at least she's working on it, but how much time will she have to go see her supervisor between then and tomorrow morning?

Also, I had the day off today, because the managers were having the employee meetings about me. I'm officially out at the office. It's going to be only slightly terrifying going back in tomorrow. Hopefully everyone is alright...I used the day to get fingerprinted, so now I just need to send the prints off to the FBI and CBI to do a background check on me. Once I get that back, I'll be off and running.

And finally...I got called "ma'am" today! In public! I was going into my favorite restaurant to get lunch, and the host called me "ma'am"! That was...I can't describe how happy that made me.


~Phoenix~

[turkishproverb]

congrats Pheonix!

[MetDitto]

Congrats Ditto! And yea, it takes some people a while to behave. Just remember, sometimes they still mean well.

Oh, I just haven't talked to her about it yet, she'll be fine with it. It bothers him more than me I guess :P

[Fyermind]

Phoenix! Yay. stuff. Also meh stuff, but like YAY! Also, that moment when you realize you are going to spend all of your money at one place because they really seem to care for you and are capable of being civil.

Ditto: woo! I love it when I trust people.

[Eirala]

Nah, a search for Technicolor Partyboat on Google only brings up this thread. However, a search for Technicolor Dreamboat brings up this musical.

Still, I like the title.

~Setsuna~

It's a really nice musical, at least the version i went to a year ago or so

So new thread, same issues. I'm dying of nerves for tomorrow. My therapist called me this morning and asked for my birthday, because she needed to put it in the letter. That sounds promising, because at least she's working on it, but how much time will she have to go see her supervisor between then and tomorrow morning?

Also, I had the day off today, because the managers were having the employee meetings about me. I'm officially out at the office. It's going to be only slightly terrifying going back in tomorrow. Hopefully everyone is alright...I used the day to get fingerprinted, so now I just need to send the prints off to the FBI and CBI to do a background check on me. Once I get that back, I'll be off and running.

And finally...I got called "ma'am" today! In public! I was going into my favorite restaurant to get lunch, and the server called me "ma'am"! That was...I can't describe how happy that made me.


~Phoenix~

I got told I was pretty by a trans guy and also that it bothered him how one person at the dungeon we both frequent refers to me with male pronouns and how he would talk to them about it... It was the first time in a while where someone told me I was pretty and I believed then... Stupid, I know.

Double *weeeeeeee*
I'm happy for you two, Ditto and Phoenix ^_^

I'm currently finishing my thesis, the night's already over so no sleep for me today (or if i'm lucky i get about 30 min ^^). Gonna turn it in in about 3-4 hours, depending on when it's complete. But at least i'm pretty much happy with the thesis ^.^ The birthday party later will be interesting though But i certainly won't miss it. Perhaps i'll sleep a few hours though and come late.
I'm already much less stressed out than in the last months

~Katharina~

[Fyermind]

I'm currently finishing my thesis, the night's already over so no sleep for me today (or if i'm lucky i get about 30 min ^^). Gonna turn it in in about 3-4 hours, depending on when it's complete. But at least i'm pretty much happy with the thesis ^.^ The birthday party later will be interesting though But i certainly won't miss it. Perhaps i'll sleep a few hours though and come late.
I'm already much less stressed out than in the last months

~Katharina~

Yay for stress reduction. Also sleep is for the human. Make of that what you will. Parties are fun when sleepy because you don't have to drink to legitimately act drunk.

[Eirala]

Yay for stress reduction. Also sleep is for the human. Make of that what you will. Parties are fun when sleepy because you don't have to drink to legitimately act drunk.

I certainly hope i don't act like i'm drunk when i'm tired, because i'm totally annoying when i'm drunk. At least i was the one time i was drunk. ^^

[golentan]

I think I'm getting a crush on a guy in my RPG group. He's physically unattractive to me, but he's very sweet and seems to fit my "shy guy" archetype. Anyway, that's it for me today.

[turkishproverb]

I think I'm getting a crush on a guy in my RPG group. He's physically unattractive to me, but he's very sweet and seems to fit my "shy guy" archetype. Anyway, that's it for me today.

You're adorable when you get all "crushy", you know that?

[Eldest]

I was gone for 18 hours and there were four pages and a new OOTS! AHHHHH!

Annnnyway.

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i know it's a bit of a shift and i don't hang around here often, but i have something to ask.

some of the trans (-sex, -gender and -vestite) folks I volunteer with can't seem to figure out how to convincingly fake breasts. does anyone have advice or links to guides?

edit: ok that sounded awkward, this is part of a conversation i got dragged into because im one of the only cis-males that's around consistently.

Unrelated, where do you work because I kind of want to do something similar for volunteering. It'd be nice, I think?

The number of people on the internet that're tall seems to be more than the number that're small. Some people have got to be lying.

I am tall and I have Karen to verify!

[golentan]

You're adorable when you get all "crushy", you know that?

I know. It's my secret weapon to keep people from realizing how awful I truly am.

[Kittenwolf]

I am tall and I have Karen to verify!

I'm 5'7 or 5'8, which I think works well for both boy & girl mode :)

[Silverrida]

I'm 5'7 or 5'8, which I think works well for both boy & girl mode :)

I can confirm that this would be fine regardless of gender.

Not that that needs confirming, I just like typing.

[Chess435]

I'm a hair under 6 feet, but can't put any meat on these bones to save my life. No matter how much I eat, my ribs still stick out a bit.

[hoverfrog]

I'm a hair under 6 feet, but can't put any meat on these bones to save my life. No matter how much I eat, my ribs still stick out a bit.

I used to have the same problem but your metabolism changes as you get older. Now all I have to do to put on weight is think about not eating salad.

Well, it's not so bad. I've dropped 70lbs over the last two years by eating healthily and exercising and it took over a decade to gain that much.

[Mina Kobold]

I got told I was pretty by a trans guy and also that it bothered him how one person at the dungeon we both frequent refers to me with male pronouns and how he would talk to them about it... It was the first time in a while where someone told me I was pretty and I believed then... Stupid, I know.

So new thread, same issues. I'm dying of nerves for tomorrow. My therapist called me this morning and asked for my birthday, because she needed to put it in the letter. That sounds promising, because at least she's working on it, but how much time will she have to go see her supervisor between then and tomorrow morning?

Also, I had the day off today, because the managers were having the employee meetings about me. I'm officially out at the office. It's going to be only slightly terrifying going back in tomorrow. Hopefully everyone is alright...I used the day to get fingerprinted, so now I just need to send the prints off to the FBI and CBI to do a background check on me. Once I get that back, I'll be off and running.

And finally...I got called "ma'am" today! In public! I was going into my favorite restaurant to get lunch, and the host called me "ma'am"! That was...I can't describe how happy that made me.


~Phoenix~

Congrats! I'm happy that two awesome people got rightfully complimented. Hope it continues. ^_^

I'm 5'7 or 5'8, which I think works well for both boy & girl mode :)

Jelly, I'm 188 cm (6'2 and 1/64 inches) tall. :(

Totally unfitting for a Kobold, really. Plus, probably going to make it difficult to get people to clock me correctly. Stupid gender norms. >_<

I'm a hair under 6 feet, but can't put any meat on these bones to save my life. No matter how much I eat, my ribs still stick out a bit.

Hmm, if that is not the desired state, then that's awful. Wish I could help, but my metabolism is not exactly the same and skinny is usually my preferred state... ^_^'

[WarKitty]

'Splaining privilege can be a massive headache. Just saying.