LGBTAitP #35: What Midlife Crisis? :3

[Karen Lynn]

Hello, everyone, and welcome to the thirty-fifth wonderful installment of the thread for the discussion, celebration and support of everyone who isn't quite heterocisnormative.

Please note that although the title of the thread names only the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Asexual communities, it is intended as an all inclusive environment. Everyone is welcome. L, G, B,T, A, Q, I, A, N, V, P, R, Q, Ω, ♅, everyone. As long as they behave themselves.

If you have a question or two about LGBTA+, you can ask it here! You can ask for advice and support in here.

In addition, many members are willing to give private advice one on one, either through email or PM. The best way to do this is asking for PM help in thread, or else to PM one of the following people:

Name: Especially familiar with the topic(s) of
KenderWizard: General/basics, gender and feminism, bisexuality
Musashi: General/basics, asexuality/demisexuality, depression
noparlpf: General/basics, asexuality, greysexuality, biology, Skype
Lea Plath: Genderfluidity
Lycunadari: Genderqueer and agendered
Eldest: General/basics, bisexuality, will Skype(voice if needed, no video)
Karen Lynn: General/basics, pansexuality, polyamory, will Skype(no voice or video, however)
HMS Sophia: Trans stuff (esp hormones)
Lix Lorn: General/basics
Tanail: Trans stuff (esp emotional issues), Skype(no voice or video, however)
Absol197: Gender identity issues
Warkitty: Academic/technical discussions
Lentrax: General/basics, depression, bullying
Wormwood74: Transgender legal issues, transgender outside contacts
Astrella: GSRM rights, feminism, trans stuff, Skype
Asteron Questar: Relationships, depression
Mystic Muse: Skype-y goodness.
Socratov: Skype-ness
Chess435: Skype

Some people are also willing to talk off-board, through Skype or email or other means, this is especially useful if your question involves board-forbidden topics such as religion or politics. Also, we can't (and ethically shouldn't!) give medical advice. If you need medical advice, please see a professional!


Here are the rules of this thread!

• Everyone is welcome. Let's try to keep from seeming otherwise.
• Keep this topic free of politics and religion. (so, don't violate the board rules, plz)
• It's beyond the scope of this thread to discuss whether LGBT is "Right." (And really, most discussions probably should avoid moralizing too much anyway)
• Please refrain from posting sexually explicit content. (Keep it friendly as well as board safe )

Here are the links for the previous threads, where much of use or interest may be found:

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1. LGBT people in the playground
   
2. LGBT people in the playground - part II
   
3. LGBTitp - part III
   
4. LGBTitp 4: We are a family?
   
5. LGBTitp - Part Five
   
6. LGBTitp - Part Six
   
7. LGBTitp - Part Seven
   
8. LGBTitp - Part Eight
   
9. LGBTitp - Part Nine
   
10. LGBTAitp - Part Ten
    
11. LGBTAitp - Part Eleven
    
12. LGBTAitp - Part Twelve
    
13. LGBTAitp - Part Thirteen
    
14. LGBTAitp - Part Fourteen
    
15. LGBTAitp - Part Fifteen
    
16. LGBTAitp - Part Sixteen
    
17. LGBTAitp - Part Seventeen
    
18. LGBTAitp - Part Eighteen!
    
19. LGBTAitp - Part Nineteen
    
20. LGBTAitp - Part Twenty - Critical Hit!
    
21. LGBTAitp - Part Twenty-One - BLACKJACK!
    
22. LGBTAitP Part 22: The Best There Is
    
23. LGBTAitP Part 23: Et tu, ~Bianca?
    
24. LGBTAitP: Alphabet Soup-with 24 different Vitamins!
    
25. LGBTAitP part 25: Doing Away With Subtitles
    
26. LGBTAitP 26: No Time For Snappy Titles
    
27. LGBTAitP 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
    
28. LGBTAitP #28: Come Taste the Rainbow!
    
29. LGBTAitP #29: The Rainbow Outreach Program
    
30. LGBTAitP 30: Free Cuddles (Enquire Within)
    
31. LGBTAitP #31: Cuddles Are On Back Order. Have Some Snuggles!
    
32. LGBTAitp #32: The Great Plushie Invasion!
    
33. LGBTAitp #33: The Thread at the End of the Rainbow!
    
34. LGTAitP 34: <3!!

And, for reference, here is the Thousand&Wordster Dictionary of Commonly Used LGBTAitp Words and Phrases

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Lagerbeta: A fine brewski to be drunk by queers and allies.
LGBT: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans*
Trans*: Transsexual and Transgender
LGBTA: LGBT+Asexual/Allies
QUILTBAG:

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Q - Queer and Questioning
U - Unidentified
I - Intersex
L - Lesbian
T - Transgender, Transexual
B - Bisexual
A - Asexual
G - Gay, Genderqueer

Allies: Straight people that support equality for sexuality and gender minorities.
MtF: Male-to-Female: A woman born with male nibblies, who may or may not be seeking HRT and/or SRS. (AKA: trans woman)
FtM: Female-to-Male: A man born with female nibblies, who may or may not be seeking HRT and/or SRS. (AKA: trans man)
GQ: Genderqueer.
CS: Cis-sexual: sex and gender match (a male with male nibblies, a female with female nibblies.
TS: Transsexual: Sex and gender disparity.
HRT: Hormone replacement therapy. MtF's take more progestrogens and oestrogens and FtM's take more testosterone (I think?)
SRS: Sex Reassignment Surgery: Surgery to replace/transform a vagina into a penis, or vice versa depending on direction. Mastectomies or plastic surgery may be used on breasts.
FFS: Facial Feminization Surgery: Plastic surgery to reduce chin/nose/cheekbones. not very common.
AFAB/AMAB: Assigned Female/Male at Birth
FAAB/MAAB: Female/Male Assigned at Birth.


Man: A cisman or transman. Male.
Woman: A ciswoman or transwoman. Female.
Androgyne: Gender Identity with male and female aspects.
Genderfluid: Someone who fluctuates between male and female.
Agendered: Someone who feels neither male nor female.
Third-gendered: Someone who fits in a local society's third gender, usually male performing female tasks, occasionally vice versa.
Masculine: Something generally associated with men.
Feminine: Something generally associated with women.

Lesbian: A woman who is attracted to women.
Gay: A man who is attracted to men.
Homosexual: A person who is attracted to members of their gender.
Heterosexual: A person who is attracted to members of the opposite gender.
Bisexual: A person who is attracted to two genders (usually men and women, sometimes transgender instead of one of those).
Pansexual: A person who is attracted to people regardless of gender.
Asexual: A person who does not feel any/some sexual attraction.
Demisexual: A person who is sexually attracted to someone(s) they have formed an intense emotional relationship with.
Polyamorous: A person who is interested in a relationship with more than one person.
Radosexual: A person who is only attracted to rad people.
Pomosexual: A person who avoids SO labels.

Sexual Orientation: How one identifies who they are attracted to. (SO)
Gender Identity: How one feels inside society's idea of "man, woman, or other". (GI)
Gender Expression: How one expresses their GI to society. (GE)
Significant Other(s): Person you are in a relationship with. (SO)

Webcomics that touch on... Well, everything related to the thread.

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Venus Envy. Long dead webcomic. The creator has chosen not to continue it and move forward in life.
Rain. A story of a MtF girl in high school.
Khaos Komix.As the creator puts it(from his site): "A complete GLBTWTFBBQ comic about gender and sexuality. (Trigger warnings for EVERYTHING and nothing is safe for work.)"
Always Raining Here. "Adrian is heartsick, Carter is horny. This is a story about their misadventures as awkward teenagers as they fumble through unrequited romances."
Tripping over you.An awkward blind date leads to better options.
Questionable Content. The LGBTA characters are well done, and not stereotypes.
What's normal anyway. An FtM webcomic. Seems decent so far.

I know I missed a few webcomics, and if anyone finds more, feel free to PM them to me with a brief description, and I will add them.

[DrunkenMists]

First Cookie!

*om nom nom*

Sorry; I couldn't Resist.

[monkyman640]

I put a link to this thread in the last one.

[Karen Lynn]

Oops. I knew I forgot something. >.< Fixed it now. Thanks, MM!

[mistformsquirrl]

There's nothing like that new thread smell. Smells like hazelnuts <^-^>

[Irish Musician]

Karen........you are back!!

~Matthew~

[Karen Lynn]

I forgot my phone's homepage was set to the thread. Saw it had fifty pages, and nobody offered to make a new thread, so.... *points* Look that way! *pulls a Batman* *gone again*

[Eldest]

I forgot my phone's homepage was set to the thread. Saw it had fifty pages, and nobody offered to make a new thread, so.... *points* Look that way! *pulls a Batman* *gone again*

*hooks arm around, pulls back*
Nope.

Also, just a thought, we might want to say who's willing to talk on Skype in the list of list of people to contact (though not the Skype contact info itself, for me at least, since mine is literally my name). Anybody else think that's a good plan?

[Karen Lynn]

*hooks arm around, pulls back*
Nope.

Also, just a thought, we might want to say who's willing to talk on Skype in the list of list of people to contact (though not the Skype contact info itself, for me at least, since mine is literally my name). Anybody else think that's a good plan?

v.v;; Awwww.... So much for my exit. In that case, I shall fix your grammar and add a marker to people willing to Skype! :3

Who was that again? >.<

[SiuiS]

Turns out I've been waking up, yelling at my Scotty for climbing on the dresser, and going back to sleep without remembering it. [i]That's why my throat hurts >_<

v.v;; Awwww.... So much for my exit. In that case, I shall fix your grammar and add a marker to people willing to Skype! :3

Who was that again? >.<

Probably best just to note that for board-innappropriate topics, you should ask a person if they are willing to go off-site? That way instead of listing Skype stuff, people can ask "can I Skype with you?" Or similar.

Results of a big European GSRM survey.

Interesting. Scary large numbers. Universally at least 1 in 3. Although I'm surprised lesbians seem to get the most guff. That goes against what I know of patriarchal thinking.

NEW THREAD!!

Hi Karen!
... In the time it took to go from 34 to 35 you changed your avatar again. Good timing! XD

EDIT: and again since I posted? *taps cache with hoof* hello? Is this thing on?

[Karen Lynn]

Probably best just to note that for board-innappropriate topics, you should ask a person if they are willing to go off-site? That way instead of listing Skype stuff, people can ask "can I Skype with you?" Or similar.

Hi Karen!
... In the time it took to go from 34 to 35 you changed your avatar again. Good timing! XD

Ah, but I'm willing to Skype for any reason, not just board inappropriate topics. PMs are so slow... >.<

Also, I use a rotating avvie service. Hit refresh a few times and watch it change. I only have five avvies in rotation so far. Max is five hundred... :3

[Kindablue]

It's a cute cat.

[Mystic Muse]

I'm willing to be added to the list of people to Skype. I like making new friends.

[Karen Lynn]

Ok, Mystic. Added. Also, I just realized your avvie is blushing.

[turkishproverb]

oooh...new thread!

Yay. Karen's back!

Also hi Turkish! *waves*

HI! *WAVES*

[Mystic Muse]

Ok, Mystic. Added.

You lie! I have received no friend/contact request! I know, not what you meant. It's 2:40 AM, I'm allowed to intentionally misinterpret things for comedy.

[Irish Musician]

Ah, but I'm willing to Skype for any reason, not just board inappropriate topics. PMs are so slow... >.<

Also, I use a rotating avvie service. Hit refresh a few times and watch it change. I only have five avvies in rotation so far. Max is five hundred... :3

I can see any of them.....it is just blank space to me

~Matthew~

[Eldest]

You lie! I have received no friend/contact request! I know, not what you meant. It's 2:40 AM, I'm allowed to intentionally misinterpret things for comedy.

Something this made me think of, anybody from this thread want my skype contact... thingie? Can't recall their name for it, on account of it nearly being 2am.

[Mina Kobold]

Ah, but I'm willing to Skype for any reason, not just board inappropriate topics. PMs are so slow... >.<

Also, I use a rotating avvie service. Hit refresh a few times and watch it change. I only have five avvies in rotation so far. Max is five hundred... :3

Aww, I can't see your avatars.

*Tries to do a bat-exit too*

@Survey: Mrrr, so far those statistics sound horrible, but I hope the attention to the problems can do a bit to help. ^_^'


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Stealing the link-job again, there is a Kickstarter for an academic journal aimed at Transgender Studies going around. Thought it might be something people here might be interested in looking at.

[Mystic Muse]

Something this made me think of, anybody from this thread want my skype contact... thingie? Can't recall their name for it, on account of it nearly being 2am.

I'll take yours and anybody else's who wants to give me theirs.

[FallenEco]

Hello again. Just checking in.

[SiuiS]

Ah, but I'm willing to Skype for any reason, not just board inappropriate topics. PMs are so slow... >.<

Also, I use a rotating avvie service. Hit refresh a few times and watch it change. I only have five avvies in rotation so far. Max is five hundred... :3

Neat! How does it operate?

You lie! I have received no friend/contact request!

The thread list, not the friend list, sweetie.

I can see any of them.....it is just blank space to me

Do you have any ad blocking programs? They might target script which specifically displays other, cached graphics.

Hello again. Just checking in.

Hi there! Welcome back! Or forth? Forth. Welcome forth!

[Mystic Muse]

The thread list, not the friend list, sweetie.

Hence the white text.

[Karen Lynn]

Signavatar.com

Way I understand it is that it keeps a cached pile of avvies and randomly plucks one every time the image address is polled. So, if five people load this page at the same time, maybe two of them will see the same avvie.

[Kindablue]

Cool op-ed piece.

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I always thought that purple and white avatar was a duck, Karen, and that the ear sticking up was its bill, but now that I'm paying attention enough to see that it's clearly a Pokemon like all the others, I can't even force myself to see the duck. I guess you don't know what you have until it's gone.

[Heliomance]

So I'm hopefully seeing neck girl again this evening :3

Should be fun. Going to see the Cirque du Soleil film with CircusSoc.

[Kittenwolf]

*Taps thread*
Seems structurally sound :)

Hiya!

[Philemonite]

Yay, new thread, hugs for all.

Nice to see you are back Karen.

[The Succubus]

So I'm hopefully seeing neck girl again this evening :3

Should be fun. Going to see the Cirque du Soleil film with CircusSoc.

*scritchy-scritchy* =3

[SiuiS]

Hey Noparlpf, [url=http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=39c_1368515756[these guys go to a clinic to find out what giving birth feels like.[/url] [Warning] [joking sexism] [possible harsh language]

I find it relevant due to our discussing whether a male can even possibly experience it, or if an analogue was insufficient due to having the wrong neural paths for it. Thoughts?