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2012-09-28, 12:23 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
*Hugs* I just found some neat tricks to make my mind and body do stuff growing up. Most of the ideas were utterly terrible, but occasionally they turned out pretty nicely (for example, I can meditate at the drop of a hat).
No, I was referencing Olympic Trampoline, and suggesting Olympic Pole-Dancing .
*hugs back*
Chronic and acute fit.
I think I've got a very over-active empathy muscle/brain area/thingy: every little thing I read, see or hear about happening to people changes my mood almost as if it's happening to me, and as I've been slowly unlocking my emotions more, it's been getting stronger. It's at the point where I'm getting very confused (and sometimes physically dizzy) about how I actually feel, because it's mixed in with all this other stuff. Maybe this is part of why I started hiding from my emotions in the first place?
*Suddenly remembers how upset she used to get every month or so in high school...* @.@
~Bianca
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2012-09-28, 01:09 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
Ouch. D:
I know that's one thing I'm not going to miss at all when I start 'mones. >.>
I just don't look down, ever. Or wear really loose long shirts.
Oh, uhm, care to share?
(Possibly triggering: dysphoria)
SpoilerBeing aware of it basically opened up the floodgates for me I guess. Usually it's like a small nagging voice in the bag of my head, draining, but can be ignored. But the sudden moments that arrive without warning are awful; like I'm slowly sinking away in a pool of pure black with tendrils crawling up my skin giving me shivers and making me panicky and nervous and just wanting to run and hide forever.....
Oh, that sounds really familiar! Finally admitting that I have emotions really made them so much stronger... I used to pride myself on being completely detached, which I guess was my way of suppressing things. And it sucks sometimes, especially when my friends are sad, but it's also very nice sometimes. I'm incredibly happy and it's probably a bit silly but being able to cry when I read something sad or when I'm really happy is really nice. It's like the world suddenly got colours. I cry very easily these days (just when emotional, not only bad stuff.), one of my best friends actually jokes that when I'll be on HRT I'll have tears dripping down non-stop.
Hm hm. Those moments when I idly glance in the mirror and see a girl and can't make her go away a wave of happiness just washes over me.
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*hugs for everyone who wants / needs them*Last edited by Astrella; 2012-09-28 at 01:10 PM.
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2012-09-28, 01:12 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
She said it involved using a bit of medical tape to keep things in place, then just putting ordinary lady's briefs on over it.
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2012-09-28, 01:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
Aww . I wish I could do that!
Thinking about it like that, it does look awesome!
Hey, there are the words I was looking for!
Eep! *hugs!*
I'm jealous . I'm not there yet, and I really, really want to be.
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2012-09-28, 02:14 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
*Hugs!*
SpoilerI have this constant background itching that gets *way* worse if I don't shave regularly/properly... And occasionally it can get really really bad out of nowhere and everything gets really sore and claustrophobic. And then if it's night I usually get nightmares about being beaten to death by mutated versions of myself from high school... >.>
Oh, that sounds really familiar! Finally admitting that I have emotions really made them so much stronger... I used to pride myself on being completely detached, which I guess was my way of suppressing things. And it sucks sometimes, especially when my friends are sad, but it's also very nice sometimes. I'm incredibly happy and it's probably a bit silly but being able to cry when I read something sad or when I'm really happy is really nice. It's like the world suddenly got colours. I cry very easily these days (just when emotional, not only bad stuff.), one of my best friends actually jokes that when I'll be on HRT I'll have tears dripping down non-stop.
Hm hm. Those moments when I idly glance in the mirror and see a girl and can't make her go away a wave of happiness just washes over me.
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I once used it to hold my breath underwater for... I forget exactly how long, but I counted several minutes before someone poked me to make sure I was alive. I felt perfectly fine.
Thinking about it like that, it does look awesome!
Hey, there are the words I was looking for!
I'm jealous . I'm not there yet, and I really, really want to be.
~BiancaLast edited by Arachu; 2012-09-28 at 02:15 PM.
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2012-09-28, 02:53 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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2012-09-28, 04:13 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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2012-09-28, 06:40 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
*hugs to anyone I missed*
*cheeky flirts to anyone who wants them*
Speaking of good things in general... I now have a boyfriend. And I don't know how, 'cause he's so skinny... But he's so WARM! Gah, I just want to cuddle him now! safddfgsdfggoddamnitfdgsdfgsdfg!
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I could go on but I'd rather not be mean and shove my happiness down everyone's throats. That has happened to me way too much before now.
SO! How is everybody?!
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2012-09-28, 07:00 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
*Hugs* for everyone.
EDIT: And congratulations, Mynxae!
@Astrelia/Absol- Everything you said I feel completely.
I had another therapy session today. The appointment itself was still great, but afterwards as I was walking home, thinking about all the obstacles that still remain to transition, all the things and people I could lose in the process, and how utterly wrong my body felt just hit me like a gargantuan wave. I got back to my apartment and spent an hour just cuddling my Rarity plushie and styling her mane while watching my roommate play video games to distract myself (once I'd calmed sown enough to not be on the verge of tears.) Thankfully, he didn't really question it.
dysphoria
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For me, the minor glimpses of dysphoria are like a kind of nausea that I get when I contemplate my male bits or look too closely in a mirror at my unconquerable scraggle. The sudden acute bouts feel like I'm turning into grotesque sludge and am falling slowly into an inescapable pit of blackness as my form slowly loses coherence. Paradoxically, my is more and more present and disgusting even as I imagine it slowly disintegrating into ooze.
emotional suppression
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Pretty ,much identical to Absol and Astrelia, except I managed to additionally persuade myself that emotion and empathy were weaknesses and that I was naturally superior to those who allowed such things. It feels like I've hidden behind a steel mask of callous indifference for so long that it melded with my face. It's so hard to remove, and when I do, it means horrible pain as some of my face comes with it. Things are slowly getting better, but it does feel like I haven't let myself freely feel for so long that when I do it's like a flood.
I tried tucking a few times today. Felt great, but without anything to hold things in place, it doesn't last long, and feels worse when it failsLast edited by Selpharia; 2012-09-28 at 07:02 PM.
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2012-09-28, 07:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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2012-09-29, 12:56 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
SCIENCEY POST, IGNORE IF PREFER SUPPORT, ANECDOTE ETC. TYPE POSTS
SpoilerI think it's at least partly like this:
You know, by virtue of the fact that you exist, that your parents were successful at reproduction. What you want (evolutionarily speaking) is a mate that will be successful at reproduction. Thus you use your parents - who you know are successful reproducers - as your model for what sort of a mate should be a successful reproducer.
Now, it's also worth pointing out that "like your parents" isn't necessarily going to mean "genetically extremely similar to your parents and therefore to yourself". We have other mechanisms (smell, for example) to make sure we're mostly attracted to people genetically different to us, especially in the areas it matters.I read an article just yesterday about the "nocebo" effect and thought of this discussion. Apparently doctors are going to have to think carefully about how they word things like warnings about side-effects, because the placebo effect also works in the direction of "if I think this will make me get sick, it will".
On the causes of sexuality, my opinion based on all the evidence I've seen and heard about is that 1. there's a whole mess of causes, and 2. the exact nature and combination will differ from person to person. I believe that, very generally speaking, it goes something like this:
Genetics: There is a genetic component, not in the sense of "a gay gene", but rather a variety of genes that produce a range of different effects, personality types, hormone production, etc., that can be found in varying concentrations in all sorts of people but that, when they turn up in a particular density and particular composition in an individual happen to give that individual a predisposition (maybe very strong, maybe weakish) to a particular sexuality.
Pre-birth non-genetic stuff: hormones from the mother - you know, all that birth order stuff - coincidences of gene expression, maybe even environmental factors* may further reinforce or weaken/oppose the genetic predisposition.
Post-birth influences: the main evidence I've seen of this is, sadly, sexual abuse (contrary to claims from certain quarters, I don't think I've seen any evidence to back up fears of "sissification" by supposedly too-soft parents), but there could be all sorts of other factors. I, personally, think this is the weakest source of sexuality: I think that to make a biologically heterosexually-predisposed person gay (as opposed to, say, making them bisexual or heteroflexible or into certain types of sexual activity) would almost always require some seriously extreme traumatic experiences which would leave many deep psychological scars. On the other hand, imprinting is a pretty powerful process, so it's not inconceivable to me.
I don't believe there is any "one cause" - I've generally found that if there's a choice of several reasons for something, chances are the reality is some combination of all or several of them.
There is one thing I'd like to point out - not that I'd expect anyone here to need to be told, but there certainly are people who do - that even if something isn't genetic doesn't mean it's a choice, and even if something is hormonal or even environmental doesn't mean it can be prevented or reversed - "cured", if you will. If someone's raised with a relative lack of nutrients and that causes them to not grow as tall as they would otherwise, stuffing them when they're older isn't going to suddenly make them shoot up when they've stopped growing and it's unlikely that they chose to be short. If I child's parents have to live near a rail road and the kid ends up being a passionate ferroequinologist^, it's hardly in any way their fault, nor something they could or should have prevented.
...I really wish I had a neutral, non-preventable analogy for that :/ But you get the idea. And in any case, as I said, I don't think that's the way it works anyway. I don't think it's likely that environmental/upbringing factors can cause someone to have a sexuality opposite to that which they're biologically predisposed to without it consisting of extreme, traumatic events, and I don't believe there's much, if any, evidence that there's no biological factor at all. Moreover, none of these possible influences are mutually exclusive.
*I don't think I've seen any studies on this bit specifically relating to sexuality, but some recent evidence on the effect of a mother's life history on their offspring and even descendants is fascinating.
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2012-09-29, 01:14 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
Oh psh. A hydraulic system activating when you're still for long periods, an the computer is running systems diagnostics? How is that taking control from you~?
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I ... Don't recall Nope saying anything other than what I have. My track record is poor though, and we understand each other, so we're good.
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It's not that bad, really. The trouble isn't the pressure, it's all the fiddle bits interacting with gravity.
An I carry a plastic grocery bag in my bak pack for just such. Sometimes two, so Ivan either take it off for the ride home (thus leaving the bat onto prevent further raining) or to switch em.
Oh neat. Which ones are briefs? I kinda... Lost track of what is what.
And the only source of info comes from cosplay sites of all places, with some very... Uh... Interesting advice. On the upside, they have the enefit of being able to pee while sitting down, which they list a a plus. On the downside, there is Saran wrap involved.
Hm. Nuts. That sounds painful or itchy, depending on level of shavery.pun unintentional.
Not bad. Kinda blegh but I'll sleep it off.
The warmth is fom the psychometabolism that keeps him skinny.
Aye. I find the best thing is just not to let any of those thoughts in. They breed.
I tried tucking a few times today. Felt great, but without anything to hold things in place, it doesn't last long, and feels worse when it fails
Girl underwear is contoured differently because it's not designed to accommodate certain man bits. Girl swimwear is designe to be even more skin tight. You'll have to lay down to get it set up though. Tie on the sides is best.
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2012-09-29, 06:43 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
My reasoning on how men are so warm is that they have an internal heating system, much like you'd have in a house. Those who are less warm have student housing style heating, but most have good warms generators inside them.
They can also turn these on and off at will if they want to annoy you with colds."I'm just going on motive and opportunity here and the fact that if the earth got swallowed by a black hole, I'd look suspiciously in your direction first."
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2012-09-29, 06:52 AM (ISO 8601)
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2012-09-29, 07:10 AM (ISO 8601)
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I can't even imagine how crazy (not mental, but more shifted) it feels to be male, but want to be female and how hard it must be, for all of you beautiful people, who are feeling the same way. And visa verse for males who were born into females bodies.
This is one of those things that I will never understand, nor think could I, but I hear people talk about it with such emotion and energy, and feeling their discomfort and yearning through their words, I can at least support and do my best to give them a loving environment in which to find themselves. I may not understand it, but I'll be damned if I am going to shun someone for something they can't help. With that said, Hugs for all of you wonderful, gorgeous people who need them.......and yes, despite what the outside holds, you are ALL gorgeous.Last edited by Irish Musician; 2012-09-29 at 08:28 AM.
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2012-09-29, 07:52 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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2012-09-29, 07:54 AM (ISO 8601)
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Lying next to a cat is warming for both body and soul.
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2012-09-29, 07:58 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
/chuckles Thanks everyone. Wish he could come over for cuddles right now. I'd get to sleep easier.
Though I'll be seeing him tomorrow or the next day for a sleepover so I'm happy
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2012-09-29, 08:00 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
It's true. (feat: healing chi)
Me and some of my friends are gonna be trying to find a DM for an awakened cats vs. commoners game. I'm Nyan Cat, we have Schrödinger's Cat(flavored as half undead, result of the local mad alchemist), and a monster class version of the Cheshire Cat.
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2012-09-29, 08:28 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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2012-09-29, 09:38 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
Guess it varies person to person. On the bright side, I never have to tuck. I find that type of position very uncomfortable. I can't even sit with my legs crossed "the female way". For reference this is what I mean:
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What does it say about humanity that all I had to type in was "crossed legs" and every picture was of women crossing their legs?
An I carry a plastic grocery bag in my bak pack for just such. Sometimes two, so Ivan either take it off for the ride home (thus leaving the bat onto prevent further raining) or to switch em.
Oh neat. Which ones are briefs? I kinda... Lost track of what is what.
And the only source of info comes from cosplay sites of all places, with some very... Uh... Interesting advice. On the upside, they have the enefit of being able to pee while sitting down, which they list a a plus. On the downside, there is Saran wrap involved.
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I loved that one. So much better than the gelatinous cube monk, or the thirty-headed Tarasque. Your game sounds excellent.Jude P.
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2012-09-29, 10:36 AM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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2012-09-29, 12:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
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2012-09-29, 12:28 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-09-29, 12:58 PM (ISO 8601)
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2012-09-29, 04:59 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
I am honestly more interested in why that image is listed under "health mistakes".
That's not so bad pending weight and pelvis position. I suspect it's the leanness of my thighs what allows me to sit like that, along with pelvic angle and genital positioning. Though I prefer to fold upward rather than down, yes.
EDIT: ah, it's a circulation issue. That makes sense.
Probably a good idea, but I don't carry a bag most days, just the notebook for whichever class I have at that time. I only have one back-to-back and the second doesn't require a notebook.
You could also rubber band a plastic bag to the bottom of the seat. Kind of the Altoids tin survival kit, da?
Women's briefs: (I assume this doesn't count as a nude picture? It's a stock image from a site that sells underwear, I think.)
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Welp! Just gotta he up the nerve to buy some >_>Last edited by SiuiS; 2012-09-29 at 05:03 PM.
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2012-09-29, 05:24 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
I have largeish thighs, I guess, and everything just feels crushed.
Call me lazy, but I hate having to bike with something in my hands. I'll do it, but if it's an everyday thing I will at least bring a handkerchief to wrap it up to the handlebars with.
You could also rubber band a plastic bag to the bottom of the seat. Kind of the Altoids tin survival kit, da?
I'm not a fan of briefs. Especially the female sort, but even the male sort with a bit more room.Jude P.
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2012-09-29, 05:32 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
I actually find sitting without my legs crossed uncomfortable; I just get do it without feeling uneasy.
Also congrats, Mynxae!
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2012-09-29, 07:02 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
Aye, I find sitting with my legs crossed very comfortable, I do it all the time naturally.
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2012-09-29, 07:26 PM (ISO 8601)
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Re: LGBTAitp 27: Of Shoes, and Ships, and Sealing Wax
My Adam's Apple Does Not Define Me; this is a pretty cool video. Standard advice to stay clear of the comments though. >.>